The Great Man Within

#51: This is the second installment of the two part series on Modern Manhood – filmed live at our Discerning Dick: Sexual Wisdom for the Modern Man event here in NYC. Now if you’re one of those weirdos who’s listening to Part Two without having listened to Part One, Modern Manhood is the name of the book written by Cleo Stiller, an Emmy and Peabody nominated reporter. Modern Manhood tackles conversations about the complicated world of being a good man today. This episode was filmed in front of a live audience of about 70 men and women. This was our 11th such event and I’ve gotta say it ranks right up there for both me and Bryan as an all-time favorite because the audience was just lit up to discuss and debate these issues. So in this episode, we extra deep into the following arenas: Why locker room talk, the lowest common denominator of male bonding, serves as a gender divisive and unfortunately effective method of connection between men (and how we change that) Why our masculinity is constantly being tested… including a recent example of when one-testicle Bryan was told to “grow a pair” for not having a beer Why men’s worst behaviors are “tragic expressions of unmet needs,” as one of our guests, Shai, said. And an emotional moment for me, and many women in the room, where I read a Step 9 letter...which is an apology letter I wrote during my time in Sex Addicts Anonymous to a woman who I’d sexually objectified over a 10 year period of my life.

#50: “If you feel like you’re one of the “good guys,” you might be feeling frustrated, exasperated and perhaps even skeptical about the current national conversation surrounding #MeToo. You’ve likely found yourself in countless experiences or conversations lately where the situation feels gray, at best. You have a lot to say, but you’re afraid to say it and worried that one wrong move will land you in the hot seat.” This is a passage taken directly from the back cover of the brand new – and important book -entitled Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today. Modern Manhood was written by Emmy and Peabody Nominated reporter, Cleo Stiller. Yes, Cleo is a woman writing a book for men, and you’ll hear why during our interview. Bryan and I had the honor of being interviewed by Cleo in her research for this book… …and I’ve gotta tell you guys, you need to pick up a copy of this book. She hits all the categories where the rules now seem to be blurry: dating, money, gender behavior protocols in the workplace, parenting and the topic of our conversation today: A fearless exploration of sexual gray areas. 
We tackle a few of the toughest questions of our time, like: How do I participate in the current narrative without being called out for saying the wrong thing or exposed for something I did years ago? Is everything I was taught about courtship and sexual pursuit now considered creepy? How come women are telling me contradictory things about what they expect when it comes to chivalry and sexual consent? This is a special podcast because it was filmed in front of a live audience of about 70 people at our event called The Discerning Dick: Sexual Wisdom for the Modern Man…a live event series we host in NYC for men to explore the forces that shape their sexuality. This was our 11th such event and I’ve gotta say it ranks right up there for both me and Bryan as an all-time favorite because the audience was just lit up to discuss and debate these issues. This is the first episode of a two part series – the second will be released this Thursday – enjoy!

#49: Robert Kandell is the author of unHidden – A Book for Men and Those Confused by them. He is a teacher, writer, coach and lecturer committed to helping men find their best lives in love and on purpose. Since 2002, Robert has been on the cutting edge of inner work, leading over 10,000 people on their journeys of personal development. 
A big chunk of those people he helped through the business he co-founded – OneTaste – which turned into a fast-growing 8-figure international business most famous for it’s practice of Orgasmic Meditation – or OMing. In this episode, we dive into: Why men keep some of the deepest parts of themselves hidden, which leads to a lackluster intimate life and settling for a life that doesn’t inspire you. Robert’s client – a high-end NYC escort – who charges men $1,000 an hour to perform to experiences desires they are too afraid to ask for with their partner How you can ask for the things you want without guilt or shame. The excuses men make that cause you to settle for a life of mediocrity. This episode is yet another step on your journey, to discover and live the great man within you. Resources Book: unHidden: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them Robert’s Website: RobertKandell.com Robert’s Podcast: Tuff Love on Apple Podcasts

#48: Madelyn Moon is a coach to women who are in a constant state of “doing” and want to reconnect with their feminine essence. She runs the popular Mind Body Musings podcast which is Top-50 of ALL TIME in the U.S. and Great Britain in Self Improvement. She joins us today to educate us fellas on the ways in which we lose credibility with women, based on what she’s synthesized from hundreds of female clients she’s worked with over the years. The 5 Ways Men Lose Credibility With Women #1. Hesitation #2. Lack of Integrity In Communicating What You Can and Cannot Handle #3. Lack of Follow Through on Your Word #4. Going Unconscious During Transitions #5. Defending Yourself vs. Listening to Her 
For a deeper dive into each of these, download and listen to the show.

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#45: Ultralearning is the title of the Wall Street Journal Best Selling Book written by Scott Young, today’s guest on the show. Ultralearning is a term that Scott coined, which he defines as the intense and self-directed strategy to acquire skills of your desire. Ultralearning can be used to acquire skills in many different arenas – like learning to speak Mandarin, mastering the bass guitar, or in Scott’s case, self-studying MIT’s 4-year computer science program – yes, all 33 courses on his own – in a mere 12 months (a feat which catapulted Scott to the forefront of the “modernization of how we learn movement.”) In This Episode 3 ways in which we suck at learning Why our learning efforts rarely lead to change or retention of information A dive into the 9 principles of Ultralearning How you can use Ultralearning to find and live your purpose How you can use Ultralearning to master lifestyle design How one man with no public speaking experience applied these principles to end up at the Toastmasters World Championships in 7 months Favorite Quotes: James Clear, author of Atomic Habits – the #1 NY Times Bestseller – says in the forward of Scott’s book: “Passive learning creates knowledge…Active practice creates skill.” One of our favorite quotes from the interview is when Scott says: “You don’t really know what your purpose is going to be until you pursue something seriously.” Over these next 50 minutes or so, we hope you’ll find some inspiration to take on an Ultralearning project, pursue it seriously, and level up your life. Buy Ultralearning on Amazon: Click Here Scott’s blog: Click Here Scott Young’s Tedx Talk: One Simple Method to Learn any Language

#44: We’re dropping a little extra bonus episode this week for two reasons:  #1. Discover the Great Man Within You The Definition of Hell: On your last day on earth, the man you became, meets the man you could have become. Now if that doesn’t send a chill down your spine, you might be dead inside. The idea of taking your last breath, confronted with the reality that you didn’t realize your fullest potential, and instead chose a path of safety, comfort, conservatism... …is in fact the definition of hell. Every man has two men inside of him. The Good Enough Man……and The Great Man. In the Definition of Hell… The Good Enough Man…is the man you became.The Great Man within you…is the man you could have become. Most men will never summon the courage to leave behind the comforts of Good Enough. For those of you who wish to live your fullest potential, this episode will give you a gateway to start to discover – and live – the Great Man within you. #2. The Man Amongst Men podcast will be changing it’s name on November 11th. Heads up! The Man Amongst Men podcast will be undergoing a name change on November 11th to The Great Man podcast. This episode reveals why we’ve chosen to undergo the name change. If you’re already subscribed, you don’t need to do anything…just look for the new show title on November 11th. If you haven’t yet subscribed…do it now so you’ll know how to find us come November 11th.   Follow Dominick on Instagram Follow Bryan on Instagram

#43: This is an episode that you fellas have been asking Bryan and I to record for quite some time now. As guys, we’ve all been in the situation where we’ve gotten too excited, popped off too early much to the dismay of ourselves and our partners. And if you’ve never experienced popping off too early, I think I speak on behalf of all men when I say: We hate you. For the rest of us… This conversation is about bringing you 5 practical practices that can help you command and consciously direct your sexual energy… …so you and your partner can play as long (or as short) as you’d like. 
What This Conversation Isn’t NOT about how to become a better ego-driven sexual “performer” NOT about giving you some sort of power to hold above your partner’s head NOT about leveraging hacks/techniques that disconnect you from your partner (ie. Not “going out with a loaded gun,” dulling your senses with booze, distracting yourself with thoughts of baseball or Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day during sex, etc…) What This Conversation Is: 3 Reasons to Practice Lasting Longer These three reasons are in ascending order of importance: Reason # 1: Building Confidence (about you) Get out of your head and into your body Establish command of and direct your sexual energy Evoke your choice for when (and if ) you want to release Reason #2: Forging Connection (about us) Break your predictable patterns of sex and explore new terrain together Deeply attune to her arousal triggers and help her uncover new areas of pleasure she can’t access herself Become a more trustworthy lover that she feels safe to experiment with and open up to Reason #3: Accessing Flow (about next-level experience) Transcend superficial sex and experience heightened sensation and deep intimacy Expand your zones of pleasure (beyond your crotch) Lose track of time and self You can download the 5 Practices Cheat Sheet at www.DoInnerWork.com/5practices

#42: Since you all seemed to love the “How to Take 10 Days off Masturbation” episode, we thought we’d hit ya with the next big challenge: How to Do the 30 Day No Porn Challenge. Why Would I Torture Myself Like That? Here are just a smattering of benefits I – and other men who have taken the challenge – have experienced that you can expect for yourself: Electrified attraction with your partner Deepened connection with your partner Heightened sensations during sex (smells, feelings, sounds, tastes) Heightened creativity and energy More power and endurance in the gym And yes, these are ALL legit (trust me, I took 4 years off from both porn and masturbation). Take it from the Man Who Interviewed 25,000 Men Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich – the #1 best-selling personal achievement book of all-time – interviewed 25,000 men over a 25 year period. He said that ALL of the most successful businessmen were “highly sexed.” AND – they’d figured out how to use their sexual energy beyond just the physical act: The majority of men “dissipate their energies through over-indulgence in physical expression of the emotion of sex. The majority of men never learn that the urge of sex has other possibilities, which far transcend in importance that of mere physical expression.” I took 4 years off from porn and masturbation during my 4 years in Sex Addicts Anonymous (2013-2017). That’s precisely the time I got bold enough to leave a successful and lucrative 15 year career in financial services behind. In This Episode: The 3 steps to take the 30 Day No Porn Challenge: #1: Define Your Why (for doing the 30 day challenge) #2: Anticipate the Triggers (that’ll make you want to dive into porn) #3: Design Alternatives (to diving into porn) What Dominick learned from his 4 years of no porn and no masturbation The 5 Stages every man goes through in his lifetime relationship with porn How to choose No Porn WITH Masturbation, or No Porn WITHOUT Masturbation for 30 Days Also, You May Enjoy: Episode #9: Dominick’s 4 Years of Porn Abstinence Part 1 Episode #10: Dominick’s 4 Years of Porn Abstinence Part 2 Episode #29: How to Take 10 Days Off Masturbation