The Great Man Within

#201: Let’s talk Men’s Mental Health: Why suppressing, compartmentalizing and downplaying your emotions are destructive to your long term well being Why you get sick on vacation Why therapy is cool The long term adverse effects of lone wolfing your life Join the Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin Register for Unshakeable - Building Your Capacity for Mental Toughness: https://www.doinnerwork.com/resources

#200: What might you be able to learn about elevating your sex life from a woman who’s coached over 1,000 men in the last 15 years? Well, stick around for the next 60 minutes with our guest Shana James, and you’ll find out. Shana’s here to share her wisdom of how men can have a mind-blowing sex life…by passing through the gateways of connection and intimacy. Who is Shana James? Shana is a coach for men focusing on Love, Leadership and Legacy She runs the Man Alive Podcast Guests such as Dr John Gottman, Ben Greenfield, Jordan Gray Episodes like “What Makes a Woman Trust You,” “Reimagining Men’s Sexuality” and Impotence Could be The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You” Has a TEDxTalk called “What 1,000 Men’s Tears Reveal” In This Episode: Unpacking sex and relationship insights from 1,000 male clients over the last 15 years Mostly from a heterosexual perspective 2 areas men abdicate leadership in the bedroom (and how to change that) Why men need to have better conversations about sex with their partners outside the bedroom How men can wake up new parts of our bodies to expand our erogenous zones Exploring the mindset of “what if there were no problems in the bedroom?” RESOURCES Shana’s Website: https://shanajamescoaching.com/ Man Alive Podcast: https://shanajamescoaching.com/man-alive-podcast/ TEDx Talk "What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGIq5_Ll4zk Shana’s 36 Advanced Questions: https://shanajamescoaching.com/36-questions-for-deeper-intimacy/

#199: Register now for Unshakable: Building Your Capacity for Mental Toughness Register Here: https://www.doinnerwork.com/resources Key Takeaways 3 life changing benefits of building mental fortitude Why mental toughness doesn’t happen on its own…you need to cultivate it Tangible practices to expand your mental and emotional capacity ------   When it comes to responding to fear, you have 3 choices:   #1 React:  Survival mode takes over, and you unconsciously eject, shut down, or run away.   #2: Act: You are stable, clear on the next right action and have the peace of mind to take it. #3: ______ This is the path of fear least traveled…and the one most critical to take when the path of “act” is not yet clear. In today’s episode, I reveal this elusive – and empowering – third path.

#198: In Napoleon Hill’s Outwitting the Devil, the devil says: “One of my cleverest devices for mind control is fear. I plant the seed of fear in the minds of people, and as these seeds germinate and grow, through use, I control the space they occupy.” Here are the devil’s 6 most effective fears to control the minds of people: Fear of poverty Fear of criticism Fear of ill health Fear of loss of love Fear of old age Fear of death Note the #2 fear on the list, right behind the fear of poverty: the fear of criticism. Here are just a few examples of how fear of criticism shrinks your life: You don’t put yourself fully “out there” – in business, in love, in self expression You don’t go after the role you really want You don’t speak up for what you truly believe in You don’t take the stages to make your voice heard You don’t speak with as much conviction or you dilute your message You don’t launch the business or blog you’ve been dreaming of You don’t promote your business as fully as you could You don’t step into the leadership positions you desire You don’t command the money you know you deserve The Great Man Within You is not impervious to criticism. But he is not immobilized by it. He refuses to allow his life to be shrunken by external forces. The Great Man Within You always lives from the inside out – relying on his inner compass to guide his life’s actions, even when the outside world seems to be throwing daggers. I see so many potential Great Men sitting on the sidelines of their own lives because they fear being rocked by criticism that their inner worlds are not yet ready to withstand. That’s why doing this inner work – and having a community of supportive men who will take the field with you – is essential for you to build the capacity to receive criticism and alchemize it into Courage. Today, Bryan and I share with you examples about how we’ve been publicly criticized for the work we do…how painful that was for us at first…and how much stronger we are today for building the inner fortitude to handle it. More importantly, how much freer, fully self-expressed and powerful our lives feel now that criticism no longer has the same crippling effect. The same power and freedom is at your fingertips. If you are willing to step into the arena with us.

#197: Join the January 2021 Mentally Tougher Man Challenge: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mentally-tougher-man-31-day-challenge-tickets-128787495867   I want you to demand MORE from your life.   Demand to live your life in a way that’s real and true…not comfortable or easy Demand to surround yourself with people who demand the best of you Demand to feel the fire in your belly on a daily basis…and act from that place Demand to create a future that makes you giddy with excitement Demand to live your purpose now…not postponed to some mythical future   Today I’m talking about how to access your Warrior energy – to demand more from and create the life of purpose, meaning and fulfillment you say you want.

#196: Today you’ve got 3 men – me, Bryan and Keith Bracci (one of the anchors of The Great Man Mastermind) – digging deep in our lives to share some of our perspectives on some of the most important men’s topics of today: Why so many men build entire lives around the pursuit of achievement, at the expense of passion, purpose and inner peace How to emotionally hold powerful masculine space for our children and romantic relationships – especially when we cannot solve or fix their problem Why the thinking/intellectual mind is often the slowest and least accurate part of ourselves to rely upon What are the mature signs of affection between platonic masculine men How latent homophobia prevents men from bonding in physical and emotional ways How doing inner work with other men has accelerated and deepened our growth…light years faster than going at it on our own

#195: The Mentally Tougher Man Challenge: https://www.doinnerwork.com/resources The Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin   YOU DID IT. You made it through the gauntlet that was 2020… …and have arrived at January 1st, 2021.   Welcome, to Day #1 of the Best Year of Your Life.   Living The Best Year of Your Life is a choice.   It is not predicated on the world lining up in a way that meets all of your desires and preferences.   The Best Year of Your Life happens when you choose to live from the inside out.   It happens when you venture deeper into your inner worlds to find purpose, meaning and fulfillment.   When you embark upon this venture, you will encounter Resistance.   Resistance will try to turn your attention back to the external world…   …towards achievements, distractions and other temporary diversions.   Today, you choose differently.   You choose to go further inward.   Let’s venture together: Welcome to Day #1 of the Best Year of Your Life.

#194: “My father always said… …never trust a man whose TV is bigger than his book shelf.” – Emilia Clarke You all know Bryan and I are huge advocates of reading books as portals to help you discover and live The Great Man Within You. But we all know the experience of dedicating 5-10 hours in reading or listening to a book…and then having 99% of the wisdom slip out of our minds only a few weeks or days later. So, back by popular demand is a guest we had on this show a year ago – episode #57 – called Your Ultimate Guide to Reading and Retaining Books featuring Juvoni Beckford. Juvoni is a software engineer at Google, a disciple of the systems and habit based approach to living an optimal lifestyle, and a rapacious reader who devours roughly 60 books a year. If you haven’t listened to our first interview with Juvoni, you may want to start there first because he outlines some basic building blocks about: How to choose which books to read Why you need a “book purgatory” Why you should dismiss 1 and 5 star book reviews in favor of the 3 star reviews Episode #57: Your Ultimate Guide to Reading and Retaining Books Part 1 feat. Juvoni Beckford In this episode: Why learning can become a form of procrastination…and how to take your knowledge and put it into action A 5 step color system that Juvoni uses to highlight and capture the biggest ideas in each book he reads Why keeping a running list of obstacles in your life – and skills you’d like to acquire – is important in helping you determine which books you say YES to How taking thoughtful notes on your books are like down payments for you to become an expert, thought-leader, keynote speaker, author or content producer in the future A system that helps you to capture and organize your notes for easy reference later 5 books Juvoni recommends for 2021 Juvoni’s 5 Recommended Books for 2021   The Almanac of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth & Happiness Nobody Wants to Read Your Shit by Stephen Pressfield  Human as Media by Andrey Miroshnichenko Your Music and People by Derek Sivers Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig      Juvoni’s Recommended Note Taking System: Para by Tiago Forte   Juvoni’s book reviews: www.Juvoni.com/books Juvoni on Goodreads: Juvoni’s Book List on Goodreads Juvoni’s Blog: https://juvoni.com/ Juvoni on Twitter: https://twitter.com/juvoni Episode #57: Your Ultimate Guide to Reading and Retaining Books Part 1 feat. Juvoni Beckford

#193: Register for the 31-Day Mentally Tougher Man Challenge: http://thegreatmanwithin.com/ Join the Facebook Group for men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin ---------------------------------------------------------------- I polled 200 women who follow my Instagram Account on these three questions:   #1. Do you think most men have an unhealthy relationship with porn?   #2. Have you dated a man who seemed to desire porn more than he did you?   #3. Is a man who watches porn a relationship deal breaker for you?   I’ll give you the surprising results of these questions, and what I think they mean for us as conscious users of porn.

#192: You guys know that Bryan and I are passionate believers that drifting is the #1 enemy to living a powerful life. Drift is that state of existence where you think you’re in conscious control of the decisions you’re making…but in actuality it’s your unconscious beliefs, outdated habits and patterns that are piloting your plane…taking you to destinations you don’t desire to go. This is why you can have all sorts of success on paper, but have the experience of unfulfillment on the inside. That disconnect is a dead indicator of when you’re drifting in life. We’ve all been there before, some of you may be there now, and we’ll all eventually find ourselves in that state of drift again at some point in the future. But how long you stay stuck in drift is a choice. You can just as easily choose to build the muscle to bring awareness to when you’re in a state of drift, and to break free from it with speed and precision. 
And when you’re able to do that consistently, you start to live a life of your own design…a life that you’re inspired to live. So today, we’ve got one powerful brother who’s broken through drift time and time again…to create a life he loves living. I’d like to introduce you my friend, Raj Jana. Who is Raj Jana: Raj is an entrepreneur and investor who owns stakes in 9 companies He’s been featured in Forbes, Inc, Entrepreneur and been personally mentored by Daymond John of Shark Tank fame He’s also the host of the Stay Grounded podcast, a show featuring leaders on their inner work journeys Raj is the son of Indian Immigrants who came to this country with less than $60 in their pockets…so Raj wanted to make his parents proud by graduating college and landing a 6 figure job right out of school But something shifted for him when his corporate cubemate died of a heart attack 3 months before his retirement date…causing Raj to question how he was building his life In This Episode How to turn yourself into the biggest horse in your life that you can bet on The #1 book that helped Raj break free from his conventional, predictable life How he turned his cubicle job with a side hustle into a multi-million dollar business How ending an 8 year relationship earlier this year exposed how he wasn’t quite the man he needed to be attract the women he desired Why you have to be honest with yourself about who you are as a man today…and whether that man is up to the task of creating what you desire in business and in relationship How losing both his beloved grandmother and aunt to COVID within weeks of each other…and then contracting COVID himself…provided him with one of the most grueling but powerful opportunities to fully feel grief, growth and ultimately, gratitude 4 book recommendations to build a strong inner foundation Raj’s Info: 
Website: https://www.rajjana.com Podcast: Stay Grounded Recommended Episodes: 
Ep 148: How to Lead with Vulnerability and Step Into Healthy Masculinity with Dominick Quartuccio Ep: 149: Why Death is Our Greatest Teacher with Asher Packman Ep 151: Transforming Your Money Into a Source of Purpose, Peace and Power with Finnian Kelly Books Referenced in the Show: King Warrior Magician Lover by Robert Moore 4 Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It by Kamal Ravikant You Are Enough by Panache Desai