The Great Man Within

#211: If you’ve ever noticed that the voice in your head is sabotaging you, you’re not alone. This is a conversation about what that voice is, why it never shuts up, and practical techniques on how to reduce it’s influence (and intrusion) in your life.   Join the Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin   Join the Great Man Within Digital Mastermind: https://the-great-man-within.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-great-man-within.mn.co%2Ffeed   Follow Dominick on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dominickq/?hl=en   ------------------------------   (Audio Course) Living from a Place of Surrender by Michael Singer: https://www.audible.com/pd/Living-from-a-Place-of-Surrender-Audiobook/1683645863   The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer: Click Here   The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer: Click Here

#210: Back in December I invited 10 men of color from The Great Man Within community to a private zoom call where I posed 3 questions: What has been your experience in this community as a learner, and as a man of color? What would we need to build in this community that would make you enthusiastic to invite other men of color to join us? What can I personally be doing better/differently/more of to make this an environment where every man can thrive? That discussion opened a candid, and oftentimes uncomfortable, series of conversations that were illuminating and insightful. In particular, I had a blind spot exposed regarding my awareness of what it’s like for non-white men to walk into a community space designed by a white man and unconsciously mostly designed for other white men. One of the suggestions the men of the group had was to the raise the visibility of men of color who were leaders in this community by bringing them on this podcast platform. So that’s exactly what we’re doing today, to have the first of a series of uncomfortable conversations on race with two of our prominent leaders in this community: marcus d harvey is an acting coach and EDI&B consultant, which stands for equity, diversity, inclusion and belonging Jay Washington is a client relationship manager for a large financial services firm If you’ve been in the Facebook Group you surely know who these gentlemen are and how vital their contributions have been to the growth and cohesion of our community. In this episode, there are 4 terms marcus and Jay teach us that I highly encourage you to learn and commit to memory: White Spaces Power Sharing Code Switching White-splaining One of the most important parts of the conversation comes in the last 15 minutes of the episode, when Jay introduces the importance of building the willingness and capability to see beyond your own life experience in order to understand and embrace the experience of someone who’s not you. And for our white audience, as you listen to this episode, you may find yourself getting triggered or uncomfortable. Instead of allowing your next reflex to be defensiveness or building an argument to disagree, instead ask yourself “what about this conversation is making me uncomfortable?” Explore that. Find the root, and learn something deeper about yourself. By doing that, you may be able to see beyond your own life experience…and hear the wisdom of Jay and marcus on a much deeper level. Resources: marcus’ example of a “white space” doing it right: https://www.spaceonryderfarm.org Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man with Emmanuel Acho (on YouTube) Instagram Accounts to Follow: marcus d. harvey: @themarcusdharvey Jay Washington: @dubber77 No White Saviors: @nowhitesaviors Emmanuel Acho: @emmanuelacho Rachel Cargle: @rachel.cargle Layla F. Saad: @laylafsaad JOIN THE GREAT MAN WITHIN COMMUNITY Join the Great Man Within Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin Join the Great Man Within Digital Mastermind for as little as $99/month: https://the-great-man-within.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-great-man-within.mn.co%2Ffeed

#209: Follow Dominick on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dominickq/?hl=en Join the Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin Join the Great Man Within Digital Mastermind: https://the-great-man-within.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-great-man-within.mn.co%2Ffeed   -------------------------------------   If you want to attract strong masculine leaders into your life, then one of the most powerful practices I can offer is journaling about the traits and characteristics you seek.   In a recent journaling session, I identified 5 traits of strong masculine leaders that I seek to surround myself with.   Here’s how I wrote them out in my journal:   I might hire a man who spends the first 20 minutes of his day in his inbox. But I would follow a man who spends the first 20 minutes of his day doing inner work.   The man who lets me get away with my bullshit might be easy to hang out with. But the man who calls me on my bullshit is the man I want to be in the foxhole with.   The well-read man carries information…but the well-practiced man carries wisdom.   I have compassion for the man who lives his life bouncing from one cell phone notification to another…but I have admiration for the man who sets a vision for his life and vigilantly defends his time and focus to ensure its execution.   I trust the man who surrounds himself with other men who tell him the truth about how he’s showing up in his life.

#208: The Great Man Within Digital Mastermind: https://www.doinnerwork.com/resources 
Join the Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin In the book King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, authors and Jungian Psychologists Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette expose a masculine problem of epic proportions. “Where are the initiated men of power today?” “We need to take very seriously the disappearance of ritual processes for initiating boys into manhood. In the case of men, there are many who either had no initiation into manhood or who had pseudo-initiations that failed to evoke the needed transition into adulthood. Therefore, we get the dominance of Boy psychology. Boy psychology is everywhere around us, and its markers are easy to see. Among them are abusive and acting out behaviors against others, both men and women; passivity and weakness, the inability to act effectively and creatively in one’s own life. Because there is little or no ritual process in our society capable of boosting us from Boy psychology to Man psychology, we each must go on our own (with each other’s help and support) to the deep sources of masculine energy potentials that lie within us all.” If you think about it, our initiation rituals into adulthood look something like a driver’s license at 16/17 and the ability to drink at age 21. These legal allowances do little to nothing in preparing boys for the responsibilities of adulthood. That’s why we’ve got so many little boys running around in men’s bodies, fucking up relationships, businesses and governments. This is one of the reasons why The Great Man Within community exists – to create the masculine rituals and rights of passages that we missed at the most pivotal times of our lives, so we can step more fully into our masculine potentials. Today we’re joined by an inspiring brother who, like me, found his calling to leave the corporate world and establish a community for men who want to do this work. His name, is Voy Wiancek, and he is the founder of Modern Renassance Man. Modern Renaissance Man is a community that empowers the modern man with the brotherhood and resources needed to lead with truth, integrity and style. I learned about Voy through one of the men in our community, Colin Bye, and I’ve since joined MRM which has a $35/month membership fee. I’ve had my first chance to attend one of their meetings, and this group of guys are passionate, energetic, committed to the work…and diverse. If you’ve been seeking a community with a strong representation of men of color, MRM has got it going on. In This Episode What a right of passage is, and why it’s essential for unearthing your masculine potential Voy’s right of passage experience that took him into the desert, all alone, with no food or shelter for 4 days Examples of masculine rituals – like Voy’s “Sacred Six” morning ritual – that cultivate your masculine power, presence and leadership Rituals you can use in group settings in work or men’s gatherings to create deep spaces for connection and exploration RESOURCES Modern Renaissance Man Website: https://themrmofficial.com Voy on Instagram: Voy_Official

#207: Join the Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin   Join The Great Man Digital Mastermind: https://the-great-man-within.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-great-man-within.mn.co%2Ffeed   --------------------------------------------------------   This is the story about how I landed a $150,000 coaching client, in large part, by using the Walt Disney “Dreamer/Realist/Critic” process to DREAM BIGGER.   The Dreamer/Realist/Critic technique is incredible for dreaming bigger in your work, relationships and lifestyle design.

#206: Today, I’m bringing you behind the scenes in my learning – or should I say un-learning process – in an area of my life where I’m woefully under-educated. Back in November I hired my very first sex, LGBTQIA+ and Gender Studies coach, Cory Bush. Why would I do such a thing you might ask? Over the years, I started feeling a strong pull from my inner compass to answer some of these recurring questions: Why don’t I have more gay friends? Why don’t I know anyone who’s transgender? What do I do about the shame I carry from making gay jokes when I was younger? How do I wrap my arms around the ever-evolving world of language of the LGBTQ+ community (like pronouns they/theirs/them, or what CIS gender means or what the difference is between biological sex, gender identity and gender presentation) How do I not let the fear of tripping over myself and offending someone prevent me from entering conversations and spaces where I’m the minority? 
You might be wondering, “that’s interesting, Dom, but what’s the benefit of this type of inquiry?” You know, I grew up with a sister who has special needs. I’ve witnessed, firsthand, up close and personal, the life experience of my sister Mary - someone who has been marginalized by our society. It can be brutal, lonesome and oppressing. Juxtapose that with my experience as a straight, white, able bodied, affluent man…and my life experience has been one where I’ve been accepted nearly everywhere I go. I carry no shame around that. I’ve been blessed, and privileged. And now I’m awakening to the understanding of how to use that privilege to hear the voices of those who are muffled and misunderstood… …because just as my sister Mary has become one of my greatest spiritual teachers in the arenas of love, acceptance and patience…I am certain that the communities I’ve made very little active effort in engaging with up to this point can teach me a hell of a lot about life. In the few short months of doing this work with Cory, I’ve already experienced a number of benefits, like: Educating myself areas where I’ve been ignorant Exposure to a dynamic world of diverse, talented and vibrant people whose stories are equally heartbreaking and inspiring Learning the language that honors and respects the LGBTQIA+ communities Learning how to receive corrections and criticism when I inadvertently trigger someone with my own ignorance Reducing shame Wherever you are on your journey, I invite you to listen to this conversation closely. It’s important. And we have an excellent guide for our discussion today, Cory Bush, who will introduce herself in just a moment. Enjoy today’s episode on Lessons from my Sex, LGBTQIA+ and Gender Studies Coach feat. Cory Bush. Follow/Work With Cory Bush Cory’s Instagram: @thesexpositivedoula Cory’s Twitter: @thesexposdoula Cory’s Website: https://www.thesexpositivedoula.com Cory Bush’s Downloadable Resources 33 Instagram Accounts to Follow: Download Here List of Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Terms: Access Here Documentary Referenced in the Episode: Disclosure Documentary on Netflix

#205: You are one limiting belief away from the life you desire. The only question is, do you know how to find that insidiously evil limiting belief and how to get rid of it? I share a story today of how a limiting belief almost sabotaged me living the dream life I’ve created today… …and how I obliterated it. At the end of the episode, I’ll give you a 3 step process to help you do the same for yourself. --------------------------------------------------- Special Event*: Q&A with Eric Maddox, the Interrogator who Caught Saddam Hussein Interviewed in Episode #206 of The Great Man Within Podcast   *Event exclusively for members for The Great Man Digital Mastermind   When: February 17th Time: 7:00-8:00pm ET   Details and registration here: https://the-great-man-within.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-great-man-within.mn.co%2Ffeed

#204: Join our Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin “Ladies and Gentlemen, we got him.” - Head of US occupation in Iraq Paul Bremer These were the words spoken by Paul Bremer, Head of US occupation in Iraq on December 13th, 2003…after the successful capture of one of the world’s most elusive terrorists…Saddam Hussein. But for the years leading up to that crucial moment in American and world history, America’s special forces searched desperately for Saddam Hussein without luck. Fortunes for the pursuit of intelligence to capture Saddam would change when a young and very green Army negotiator stepped off a plane to help. This man’s name is Eric Maddox, and he is our special guest on today’s show. 
Upon his deployment, Eric quickly found the interrogation training he received in the military proved ineffective in the field…and so he developed his own strategy predicated on what he calls empathy based listening, the structure and details of which you’ll hear him unpack on the show. In this Episode: Eric retells the play-by-play story of the interrogations that led to Saddam Hussein’s capture Eric has conducted over 2,700 interrogations in 25 countries around the world, and shares what he’s learned about the most effective forms of listening in order to influence Eric has taken those skills and created a training program called Empathy Based Listening which he delivers via keynotes and corporate workshops to banking, insurance, wealth management, medical and non-for-profit industries…and he shares some of those powerful techniques with you today Contact Eric Maddox for Speaking and Training Website: https://ericmaddox.com

#203: Details on The Great Man Mastermind: http://thegreatmanwithin.com   Join the Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin   Episode #87 of The Great Man Within Podcast: A Board of Directors for Your Emotions: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-great-man-within/id1449269930?i=1000470268087     What are the situations in your life where you lose your power?   How about: Being confronted by someone with different politics than you Being criticized, judged or ignored Having your partner, spouse or family member say that thing that triggers you   Chances are you don’t show up at your best in those moments.   You may end up collapsing: disengaging, avoiding or exploding.   There are consequences (like exhaustion and shame) to showing up this way.   This is why you need to train for life’s toughest moments.   In today’s episode I give you 3 such training strategies:   Mindset shift: external to internal locus of control The “Space Between” Visualization Technique (to anticipate future triggering situations) The “Board of Directors for Your Emotions” Visualization Technique (to clean up messes after the fact)

#202: Join The Great Man Within Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin Here’s two things most guys don’t talk about openly (or honestly): Your sexual performance in bed How you truly feel about the size of your dick When it comes to sexual performance, most guys will brag about their peak performances and conveniently leave out any details that might call into question their stallion-esque track record. So when you do experience something you might label as a “performance issue,” it can feel like an indictment on your masculinity and self worth…and it doesn’t need to be this way. When it comes to dick size, unless you’re hung like a Canadian Moose, chances are you’ve experienced some insecurities about your length, girth or ability to satisfy your partner. After all, most of the exposure you have to dicks besides your own are in the porn world where the average dick size is 8 inches…and oftentimes much bigger than that. This can leave you feeling unnecessarily insecure about what you’re bringing to the table…and again, it doesn’t need to be this way. One of the other discussions not enough men are having is the unquestioned expectation that every sexual interaction absolutely must end in ejaculation. This unconscious belief may also be limiting the types of sexual experiences you’re having and limiting the realms of pleasure available to you. And finally, we’ve drifted into this unconscious habit of reducing the entire universe of possible sexual activity into this rote ritual of penetration and ejaculation…to our own detriment. Today’s discussion is also about broadening your perspective of what new realms of sexual exploration, connection and pleasure are possible. For our discussion today, Bryan and I are once again joined by Keith Bracci, one of our anchors in the Great Man Mastermind. He appeared on episode #198 called Talkin Man Stuff. INQUIRIES ABOUT THE GREAT MAN MASTERMIND 2.0 If you’re ready to make living your fullest potential the #1 priority of your life for the next 12 months, with a handpicked group of 20 high-caliber and high character men, then it’s time for us to talk. The Great Man Mastermind 2.0 starts May of 2021. Email me to let your interest be known: Hello@DominickQ.com Bonus: When you email me, let me know what’s lit a fire within you to reach out to me at this particular point in your life. RESOURCES The Enlightened Sex Manual by David Deida Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein