A Jaded Gay

While most gay dating apps aim to connect LGBTQ+ people with their community, it can still be challenging to make genuine connections which can lead to feelings of loneliness and rejection. The reality is most gay dating apps are outdated with limited features, lacking inclusivity, and they haven’t adapted to evolving user needs and preferences–until now.In this episode, Michael Kaye, Director of Brand Marketing & Communications at Archer, joins us to discuss a new, innovative dating app, which offers a unique and inclusive space for queer men to connect, explore their identities, and build meaningful relationships.Additional Resources:Sign up for Archer!Archer (Instagram)Archer (TikTok)Michael Kaye (Instagram)Get Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

Just fifty miles east of Manhattan, Fire Island has been considered a gay village since the 1950s, with the stretch of land between Fire Island Pines and Cherry Grove—known as the Meat Rack—being a safe haven for repressed gay men to fully express and experience their sexuality.In this episode, we’re diving into the island's rich history, tracing its evolution from a secluded getaway for artists and bohemians to a thriving vacation destination for the queer community, and discussing the growing threat it faces from the impacts of climate change.Additional Resources:24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?Fire Island FactsOrigin of "Fire Island"A History of Early Sayville by Clarissa EdwardsThe Seal Island Legend by Robert H. SpencerThe History of Fire IslandOnce Upon a Time There Was a Place Called Fire IslandThe Very Gay History of Fire IslandThe Meat Rack on Fire Island Est. 1950’sThe Botel History Est. 19601968: After Dozens Of Acquittals, Police Forced To End Raids On Gay HavenBefore Stonewall, Cherry Grove: How a Beach Town Became a Gay 'Safe Haven'19. The Queer History of DiscoHidden in a Fire Island House, the Soundtrack of Loss and LoveThe GMHC Morning Party 1983-1990Fire Island's LGBTQ HeritageFire Island National Seashore Action PlanGet Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

As gay men, we may experience complexities surrounding modern dating and societal pressures that often place unrealistic expectations of romantic and personal fulfillment. So when we think we’ve found “The One,” what do we do when they break up with us, telling us that we’re only seventy percent of what they need…while having sex?In this episode, author Jonathan Lee joins us to discuss his memoir, 40 Single Gay, which explores his personal journey of navigating love, relationships, and self-discovery as a gay man entering his forties.Additional Resources:40 Single Gay (Book)40 Single Gay (Instagram)Get Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

In 1960s New York City, gay men needed a safe space to socialize without being arrested, which resulted in many frequenting private bottle clubs, like the Stonewall Inn, which was owned by the Mafia. On June 28, 1969, during a routine police raid, patrons were fed up and resisted.In this episode, we’re discussing the iconic Stonewall riots, which became a symbol of resistance to social and political discrimination that would inspire solidarity among homosexual groups for decades.Additional Resources:17. Mobsters & Mos: How the Mafia Owned Gay NightlifeStonewall RiotsThe Stonewall Riots: Coming Out in the StreetsStonewall RiotsGet Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

Many gay men were taught that religion and sexuality are at odds with one another; either you're too gay to be religious, or you're too religious to be gay. As a result, we may have experienced religious trauma, leaving us feeling alone within our faith and the LGBGTQ+ community.In this episode, Eric Feltes, actor, writer, and life coach, joins us to discuss his spiritual journey, balancing sexuality and faith, and how gay men can overcome their religious trauma to live their authentic lives.Additional Resources:Eric Feltes - Life CoachingSend Eric an Email!The Great Unbecoming PodcastEric Feltes - InstagramEric Feltes - TikTokEric Feltes - YouTubeEric Feltes - IMDbGet Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

During the early morning hours of Sunday, June 12, 2016, a gunman entered Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida, and opened fire on the crowd, who was celebrating Latin Night. After more than three hours of terror, 49 lives were lost and 53 additional people were wounded.In today’s episode, we’re taking a look at the history of Pulse, the events of June 12, 2016, and the response to the shooting. Additional Resources:Orlando CensusThe 2021 LGBTQ+ Travel IndexLGBT Adults in Large US Metropolitan AreasOrlando Shooter on Facebook: Now 'Taste' ISIS 'Vengeance'OnePulse FoundationThree Years Since Pulse, Lawmakers Must Act to Address Ongoing Epidemic of Gun ViolenceGet Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

Stereotypical gay culture has idolized youth, beauty, and sex, which has resulted in the concept of Gay Death, the all-too-popular myth that gay men have aged beyond attractiveness once they turn 30.In this episode, we’re discussing why gay men fear growing older, the concept of internalized gay ageism and its negative impacts on our mental health, and how we can embrace our age.Additional Resources:Gay Death (Urban Dictionary)Gay Death (Wikipedia)'Gay Death': They Say 30 is the New 25Gay Death Stocktake — A ReviewEveryday Ageism and HealthInternalized Gay Ageism, Mattering, and Depressive Symptoms Among Midlife and Older Gay-Identified MenInternalized Gay Ageism, Mattering, and Depressive Symptoms Among Midlife and Older Gay-Identified MenInternalized Ageism and Homophobia a Toxic Mixture for Older Gay MenYet Another Problem for Older Gay Men: “Internalized Gay Ageism”LGBT People: Let's Talk About AgeismOp-ed: In Defense of AgingOld Lesbians Organizing for ChangeNational Resource Center on LGBTQ+ Aging30 is NOT 'Gay Death' RedditGet Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

Despite the letter B in LGBTQ+, many people, both within and outside of the community, tend to discount the experiences of bisexual people. This ignorance has resulted in bi-erasure, a pervasive problem in which the existence or legitimacy of bisexuality is questioned or denied outright.In this episode, my friend, Sam McClain, joins us to discuss her experiences as a bisexual woman, common misconceptions, and how we can end bi-erasure.Additional Resources:Bisexual ErasureSam McClain - FacebookSam McClain - TwitterGet Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

Previously, we discussed our iconic pop queens and how their songs typically fit into distinct categories that hit an emotional button that appeals to gay men.In this episode, we continue our Gay Icons series with none other than… Judy Garland. Known as the World’s Greatest Entertainer, Judy is remembered for her vaudeville roots, iconic camp performances, and personal struggles, which mirrored those of her gay audience. Additional Resources:Vaudeville DefinitionWhy is Judy Garland the Ultimate Gay Icon?Get Your MerchSupport the showGet Your Merch

Being our authentic selves can be scary since many of us fear rejection—and for good reason. Family conflict and rejection is the main cause of LGBTQ+ youth homelessness, and LGBTQ+ youth are 120% more likely to experience homelessness compared to non-LGBTQ+ youth.In this episode, we’re discussing key drivers of LGBTQ+ youth homelessness, system failures, and how we can support those struggling with housing instability.Additional Resources:What Do You Know About Homelessness and Housing Insecurity? Tell us.Homelessness in America 2023: Statistics, Analysis, & TrendsHomelessness Among LGBT Adults in the USLGBTIQ+ Homelessness: A Review of the Literature49. Let's Shatter the LGBTQ+ Wage Gap57. LGBTQ+ Alcoholism26. Gay & AnxiousHomelessness and HousingHomelessness and Housing Instability Among LGBTQ YouthTrue Colors UnitedAli Forney CenterSupport the showGet Your Merch