

Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40
Shana James
Love between humans is not easy, and most of us never had great examples or education about emotions, communication, sex, or what keeps love alive. When you add the challenges of aging to the mix, love becomes even more complicated. Many people end up settling, or giving up on what they want most.
But you don't have to!
Dating and relationships become easier when you hear people share vulnerably about their struggles, and how they've created more connection and excitement. I bring my 20 years of experience, coaching thousands of people, to help you see what's possible, and how the practice of love makes it possible to have the best love and sex of your life!
Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!
https://shanajamescoaching.com/goodies
But you don't have to!
Dating and relationships become easier when you hear people share vulnerably about their struggles, and how they've created more connection and excitement. I bring my 20 years of experience, coaching thousands of people, to help you see what's possible, and how the practice of love makes it possible to have the best love and sex of your life!
Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!
https://shanajamescoaching.com/goodies
Episodes
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Sep 18, 2025 • 45min
#35: How to Rebuild Trust After Betrayal
Trust can break in small ways, or shatter completely. Craig and Michelle Pera, founders of The Mindful Habit, join us to talk about how they help couples navigate trust challenges — from minor breaches to sex and porn addiction. Drawing on their professional experience, and own healing journey, they give you practical tools to rebuild trust, deepen connection, and restore intimacy in your relationship. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: ELRUV6G8JHUP8JAW

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Sep 11, 2025 • 40min
#34: You’re the Prize: Build Self-worth and Confidence in Relationships
If you want to feel more loved and respected in your relationships, this episode is for you. Shana talks with Karen McMahon, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce about how claiming your self-worth and setting healthy boundaries can transform your love life. The more you stand in your truth, protect your heart, and create deeper, more fulfilling connections Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: WGWRQANBJDWAVVM6

Aug 28, 2025 • 41min
#33: Feel, Heal, and Let That Sh*t Go: Emotional Potty Training for Lasting Love and Better Relationships
Most of us never got the “emotional potty training” we needed as kids. Instead, we learned to hide, suppress, or ignore our feelings, which often wreaks havoc in our adult love lives. In this Practicing Love episode, I talk with therapist Rachel Kaplan, author of Feel, Heal, and Let That Sh*t Go, about why learning to feel our emotions is the missing key to deeper intimacy, resilience, healing, and keeping a relationship alive. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: X6DOTPWFPO5ZGZDX

Aug 14, 2025 • 35min
#32: Why Shared Values Aren’t Enough for a Lasting Relationship
In this conversation, Nick Brancato, a relationship strategist and author of 'Prioritize Us', reveals why shared values alone can't sustain a lasting relationship. He discusses the importance of emotional intimacy and effective communication to navigate love, particularly in the face of mental health challenges. Nick emphasizes the need for resilience and mutual investment for deeper connections, introducing practical tools like the 'move us test' to foster relational growth. Discover how curiosity and empathy can enhance love and connection.

Aug 7, 2025 • 48min
#31: How to Stop Repeating Parent Wounds and Create a Conscious Relationship
If you’ve ever found yourself replaying childhood wounds in your romantic relationships, this episode explores how parent-child dynamics often show up in love. And how you can break the cycle and create a relationship rooted in wholeness, sovereignty, and joy. We look at the path from codependency to conscious connection — and what it takes to truly heal the mother and father wounds. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: JYEBEACXSYUOYD5E

Jul 24, 2025 • 43min
#30: Unlearn Childhood Patterns to Build Real Love
The relational patterns you learn in childhood shape your romantic relationships, often without you knowing it. In this episode, we dive deep into how early experiences influence adult love — and what it takes to unlearn those patterns to build real, lasting connection. Host Shana James and executive coach Jake Fishbein explore emotional resilience, trust, and the courage to embrace vulnerability in love. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: FTDWN40V3UIZ5PJL

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Jul 17, 2025 • 54min
#29: Relationship Agreements: The Key to a Stronger Partnership
Krista and Will VanderVeer, co-hosts of The Art of We podcast, are passionate about fostering conscious partnerships and emotional intimacy. They discuss how clear relationship agreements can prevent conflicts and deepen connections. The duo delves into the power of shared agreements in shifting from individualism to a collective mindset. They also explore attachment theory, highlighting trust and emotional support. Through personal stories, they illustrate how these agreements heal past wounds and enhance resilience in love and intimacy.

Jul 3, 2025 • 42min
#28: Anger in Relationships - How to Stay Connected When You're Upset
Rebecca Green, a social worker and creator of Whiny Palooza, dives into the turbulent waters of anger in relationships. She discusses how to navigate moments of conflict without losing connection with your partner. Practical strategies for managing emotions and fostering empathy come to light, emphasizing the power of self-awareness. The importance of community and support for mothers navigating love and parenting is featured as well, making this a rich conversation on love, communication, and personal growth.

Jun 26, 2025 • 37min
#27: How to Stay in Love When You Disagree (Even on Big Issues)
How do you stay in love when you disagree? In any relationship, disagreements are inevitable — but where do you draw the line? Can you love someone whose beliefs or values differ from your own? In this deep conversation, Sean Harvey (author of Warrior Compassion) and I explore how to stay connected even across painful divides. We talk about meeting the unmet needs beneath defensiveness, bridging polarization with radical compassion, and healing the divide — in love, in politics, and within ourselves. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life! Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: ELRUV6G8JHUP8JAW

Jun 12, 2025 • 38min
#26: Deepening Love Through Perimenopause and Andropause
Perimenopause isn’t just challenging for women — it impacts relationships and intimacy in powerful ways. In this vulnerable and eye-opening episode, men’s mentor Kenny Mammarella-D’Cruz shares how he navigates fear, emotional triggers, and trauma to create deeper connection, intimacy, and love. We explore men’s emotional growth, midlife relationships, and how to stay connected through hormonal changes. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!