The Best of You

This week we're digging into intelligence. And believe me, it's not what you were taught! If you've struggled with comparing yourself to others, feeling inadequate, or unsure of your unique gifts (and that's pretty much all of us), you don't want to miss this episode!Here's what we cover:1. What is intelligence?2. Why it's different than what you were taught3. 9 different types of intelligence4. 2 toxic consequences of comparing ourselves to others5. 9 ways to connect with God Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here.Thanks to our sponsors: Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today. Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.Order Aundi Kolber's new book, Strong Like Water today!Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dive into the intriguing world of personality types and what makes us tick. Explore the Big Five traits and their impact on self-awareness and relationships. Uncover the benefits and pitfalls of popular personality tests like Myers-Briggs. Delve into the mysterious H Factor of honesty and humility. Discover the spiritual significance of personality traits and how they shape our connections with others. Join the journey of self-discovery that intertwines culture, trauma, and growth for a richer understanding of individuality.

Gosh, it can be hard to live in a body, let alone learn to love it. We have so many demands that compete for our attention, not to mention all the mixed up messages we get as women—how in the world are we supposed to honor these bodies God has given us?In today's episode, we're honoring these long-suffering bodies of ours. Here's what we cover:1. Why so many of us bypass the body2. 4 insights from psychology about the body3. 3 ancient heresies that sneak into our modern thinking4. The difference between what the Bible calls "flesh" and "body" 5. How to honor your body as part of spiritual practice6. Why I am learning to dance again (but definitely not in public)Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here.Related episodes:Episode 11: How to Start Loving Your Body with Christy JoyEpisode 19: My Stroke, A Process of Healing, and How I Began to Write The Best of YouEpisode 36: An Update on My Social Media Detox & How to Create Boundaries With Toxic Distractions, Numbing, & Unhealthy Coping TacticsEpisode 45: Strong like Water—Finding the Freedom, Safety, & Compassion to Move through Hard Things & Experience True Flourishing with Aundi KolberEpisode 46: People Pleasing as Survival, How Jesus Regulated Emotions & the Problem With Toxic Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing with Aundi KolberGet 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You.  Thanks to our sponsors:    This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/ BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.  Order Aundi Kolber's new book, Strong Like Water today!Music by Andy Luiten    Sound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the podcast, we're kicking off a mini 2-episode series on loving our bodies as a spiritual practice. Today, I dig into the problem of over-spiritualizing and how that does harm to ourselves and to others. Here's what we cover:1. What is spiritual bypassing?2. Does every problem have a spiritual solution?3. How we spiritually bypass ourselves4. How not to be a "friend of Job" 5. The antidote to spiritual bypassing6. An example of spiritual bypassing from the BibleFind a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Related episodes:Episode 46: People Pleasing as Survival, How Jesus Regulated Emotions & the Problem With Toxic Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing with Aundi KolberWant to receive free bonus content? Sign up for my free weekly email Thanks to our sponsors:    Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.  Order Dr. Amen's new book, Change Your Brain Every Day today!Hiya Health—Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.Get 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You.  Music by Andy Luiten    Sound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Phew! Buckle up. Part 2 of my conversation with Aundi Kolber is out today, and it is absolute 🔥🔥🔥! We set aside the script and got real about our own experiences , including. . .1. How people pleasing becomes a survival response2. The shame we feel when we start to change3. Alison's unexpected experience of comfort in a crisis4. Jesus and the Nervous System5. Did Jesus ever get "activated"?6. The problem with toxic positivity & spiritual bypassingFind a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Check out Aundi Kolber's new book, Strong Like Water anywhere books are sold!Listen to Part 1 of our conversation: Episode 45More about the Fawn Response: Episode 14More about Trauma: Episode 4Want to receive free bonus content? Sign up for my free weekly email.Thanks to our sponsors:    Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.  Order Dr. Amen's new book, Change Your Brain Every Day today!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/ BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self. Get 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You.  Music by Andy Luiten    Sound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What an honor to have my friend and fellow therapist, Aundi Kolber on the podcast today! You do not want to miss Part 1 of our two-part  conversation on her brand new book, Strong like Water: Finding the  Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True FlourishingAundi and I connected through social media, and she has become the dearest real life friend. It was my  absolute honor to have this conversation with her about her personal  story and her new book, Strong Like Water, available for pre-order now.  Here's what we cover. . .1. Why it's unsustainable to always be  the "strong one"  2. The brave decision that led to her to reimagine strength3. 3 different types of strength and how to move between them4. How to find safety when you need it the most5. The difference between information and whole body transformation6. How Aundi has come to understand strength nowFind a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here.Want free bonus content? Sign up for my free weekly emailRelated Episodes: Episode 15: CPTSD—The Pain of A Million Paper Cuts Episode 4: What Do I Need To Know About Trauma? Thanks to our sponsors:Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.Music by Andy LuitenSound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any  of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice  nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and  products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is all about anger. It's an emotion that can do great harm and one that also has great benefits.  Whether you thrive on anger or try your best to bury it, one thing's for sure—we all have to reckon with it. When you learn to work with your anger, it can become a powerful force for good in your life and in the lives of the people you love. Today, my friend Rowena Day (see Episode 31) returns to the podcast as we discuss how we've learned to create space for healthy anger in our lives.Here's what we cover:  1. Practical strategies to befriend and build trust with anger 2. The guilt and fear we feel about having anger 3. How to manage anger while parenting4.  Examples of speaking on behalf of anger vs. from it5. The problem with comparing our pain to the pain of others6. Jesus and angerBe sure to pick up your 3 free Boundaries for Your Soul resources.Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here.Thanks to our sponsors:    This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/ BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self. Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.  Visit Brooklinen.com today and use code BESTOFYOU to save.Get 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You.  Music by Andy Luiten    Sound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Kimberly Miller, a marriage and family therapist and co-author of Boundaries for Your Soul, as she dives into the intricacies of the inner critic and its impact on our lives. Discover her transformative journey integrating Internal Family Systems with faith. She shares practical strategies to quiet that inner voice, emphasizing self-acceptance over self-condemnation. Learn how these concepts can enhance communication and resolve conflicts in relationships. Kimberly also reveals unique exercises to foster healing and understanding within ourselves and our partnerships.

You need your pain. Grief makes you real, and disappointment can inspire creativity, change, and growth. Sadness brings texture to the joys we experience. And yet, it's also not wise to let sadness take us over.In today's episode, we discuss how to set healthy boundaries with emotions like sadness and loneliness. Here's what we cover:—The surprising benefits of sadness—3 types of grief—The science of tears and how they help us—What loneliness needs to heal—Childhood play and how it informs your adult dreams—What to do when you just don't have the time for the painBe sure to pick up your 3 free Boundaries for Your Soul resources here.Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here.Thanks to our sponsors:Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.Listen & subscribe to The Snack Show - https://tinyurl.com/TheSnackShowPodcastGet 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You here. Music by Andy LuitenSound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any  of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling  advice  nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and  products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many of us live at war with ourselves. We hate our anxiety or battle with fear.We beat ourselves up or try to get rid of these parts of us. But this approach only makes things worse. One of the most surprising ways to calm your anxiety is to stop waging war against it.In today's episode we discuss how to honor your fear and soothe your anxiety so that you are in charge of them, not the other way around. Here's what we cover:1. A picture of healthy internal boundaries2. How anxiety tries to protect us3. The surprising truth about fear4. How to establish healthy boundaries with both fear and anxiety 5. Fear and the Bible6. 5 Steps to work through fear and anxietyBe sure to pick up your 3 free Boundaries for Your Soul resources here.Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here.Thanks to our sponsors:    Organifi —Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.  Hiya Health—Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.   Get 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You here.  Music by Andy Luiten    Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik    While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling  advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices