The Best of You

Navigating transitions with your children is a deep dive into raw emotions, facing conflict, and your own unhealed wounds. These transitions aren't easy. The stakes feel so high! But when you face them with courage, compassion and curiosity, you'll find your way through the wilderness and onto a beautiful path. As you do your own work, you'll be an even stronger anchor for your kids! Rowena Day is back to discuss:1. How parenting changes our neural pathways (9:25)2. Learning to set limits (12:17)3. Parenting differently than how you were parented (22:10)4. Growth vs. fixed mindset (29:29)5. A better way to praise your kids (30:29)6. The problem with peer attachments (36:40)7. The ultimate goal of all this parenting work (45:47)Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here.Related Episodes:Episode 69: Your Future Self—8 Challenges to Resolve As You Become the Person You Were Meant to BeEpisode 88: Navigating Transitions—What to Do When Change Stirs up Anxiety, Uncertainty, or ConfusionEpisode 89: When A Relationship Has to Change—How to Tolerate Discomfort, Face an Attachment Void, & Resource YourselfThanks to our sponsors:Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.Head over to WildHealth.com/BESTOFYOU and use code BESTOFYOU at checkout for 20% off!Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code BESTOFYOU to receive UP TO 39%!Go to goodranchers.com, pick your box, use my code BESTOFYOU, and enjoy $189 of free chicken in 2024 PLUS $20 off your first order.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.Music by Andy LuitenSound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Balancing the need to hold on to others and the need to let go. Healthy and unhealthy attachments. The 2 competing relationship needs. Attachment voids. Practices to anchor yourself. The role of liminal figures.

What do you do when life feels disorienting or uncertain? Maybe a relationship ends, you change jobs, or your children no longer need you in the same way.Change is disorienting. We don’t always recognize the value in slowing down to process these in between places—when we’ve left something (or someone) behind but aren’t yet sure what the future is going to look like.This next series is all about navigating transitions. I've invited spiritual director, Rowena Day, on to discuss. . .1. Normalizing liminal spaces (2:50)2. Do we ever "arrive" at stability? (9:11)3. Fascinating research on the pain of uncertainty (26:25)4. The 3 stages of transitions (27:13)5. The surprising value in endings (28:28)6. How your body can become your ally (41:25)Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here.Related Episodes:Episode 49: Personality, the Big Five Traits, and Why Are We So Obsessed With Personality Types?Other episodes with Rowena Day:Episode 31: Peace-Keeping, Anger Avoidance, and How to Start Using Your VoiceEpisode 44: Why Anger is a Surprising Friend, What Happens When You Avoid It, and How to Create Space for Healthy Expression of Anger in Your FamilyEpisode 63: Spiritual Direction, the Power of Listening, & How to Attune to Yourself and to OthersThanks to our sponsors:Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.Go to goodranchers.com, pick your box, use my code BESTOFYOU, and enjoy $189 of free chicken in 2024 PLUS $20 off your first order.Get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/bestofyou for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!Make the switch and build a starter kit.  15% off AND free shipping when you buy a Notes starter kit at notescandle.com/bestofyou.Music by Andy LuitenSound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Learn about the harmful effects of comparison on happiness and self-worth, and discover strategies to break free from this cycle. Explore the dual nature of comparison as both a source of inspiration and self-doubt, and how shifting focus to self-acceptance can lead to personal growth. Embrace personal standards rooted in faith and take courageous steps to combat self-criticism and comparison.

Learn how conflict can be turned into growth opportunities in relationships. Discover the benefits of facing conflicts head-on and the dangers of conflict avoidance. Get practical tips for mastering conflict and strengthening relationships for personal growth and better communication

Explore the dynamics of healthy vs. dysfunctional families and the extreme roles children adopt. Learn practical strategies for creating harmony within your family. Discover the impact of childhood family roles on adult relationships and communication styles. Understand the importance of open communication, support, and fostering healthy family dynamics for successful adult relationships.

Discover the truth about happiness and practical steps to feel happier. Explore myths and truths, navigate overwhelming emotions, claim your strengths, and thrive at home and work. Embrace connection, courage, gratitude, purpose, and creativity on the path to happiness.

Most people feel anger, sadness, or fear at some point during the day. It's normal to feel these emotions. The question is, what will you do when they show up: Will you let them sabotage you? Or will you turn them into your allies?In today’s episode, I teach you the skills you need to turn these feelings into your allies so that you can experience more joy and healthier boundaries. Here’s what we cover:1. The #1 question to ask yourself (6:38)2. How anger is trying to help (6:53)3. What to do when you feel sadness (11:03)4. An illustration from one of my favorite movies (15:11)5. Why we need fear (19:41)6. A powerful exercise to use at any time (29:00)Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here.Related Episodes:Episode 80: Navigating Overwhelming Emotions—2 Essential Steps to Bring Calm to the Chaos WithinEpisode 81: Finding God Through Your Feelings—How to Practice the Presence of God No Matter What You’re FeelingEpisode 82: Why We Overreact—How Big Emotions Can Help You Unburden Past HurtsThanks to our sponsors:Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.Go to AquaTru.com and enter code BESTOFYOU at checkout to get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier!Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.Music by Andy LuitenSound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all over-react at times. I know I do! Maybe someone is late, and you get really angry instead of a little annoyed. Or your colleague gives you constructive feedback, and you feel decimated inside. You don't know why you had such a big reaction.What if those "overreactions" are actually clues to the past? In today’s episode I walk you through an incredibly practical way to use the power of big emotional reactions in the present to help you heal from events in the past. When you decode the information in your overreactions, you can finally unburden yourself.1. The main reasons we overreact (8:27)2. Why we pick up burdens from the past (16:36)3. The effects of parentification (18:55)4. How to become a cycle-breaker (23:27)5. A real-time exercise in unburdening (29:20)Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here.Related Episode:Episode 70: Mastering the Art of Emotional Intelligence—How to Harness the Power of Your Emotions to Improve Your RelationshipsThanks to our sponsors:Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today. If you've been searching for a better alternative to traditional healthcare and want to take your health to new heights, visit www.WildHealth.com/Premium to apply for membership.Go to Reliefband.com and use promo code BESTOFYOU to receive 20% off plus free shipping.Go to storyworth.com/bestofyou and save $10 on your first purchase!Music by Andy LuitenSound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re struggling to feel connected spiritually or stuck in negative emotions, you’re in good company. Research shows that 9 out of 10 people struggle with stress during the holidays.In today’s episode, I walk you through my simple but life-changing strategy for unlocking spiritual connection and experiencing more of God’s loving presence.Here’s what we cover:1. 3 reasons painful emotions get heightened at the holidays (2:32)2. A simple hack for experiencing more spiritual vitality (8:22)3. The neurobiology of what happens when you connect with God (9:43)4. How to transform mundane moments into spiritual encounters (12:18)5. How to harness your external environment to change your mental habits (23:03)Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.Want to receive free bonus content? ⁠⁠Sign up for my free weekly email here.Related Episodes:Episode 80: Navigating Overwhelming Emotions—2 Essential Steps to Bring Calm to the Chaos WithinEpisode 50: 9 Types of Intelligence, the Trap of Comparison, and How to Connect More Authentically with GodThanks to our sponsors:This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.Listen to Girls Night with Stephanie May Wilson wherever you get your podcasts!Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.Music by Andy LuitenSound editing by Kelly KramarikWhile Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices