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Feb 5, 2019 • 45min
Dean Sluyter on Fearing Less
In This Interview, Dean Sluyter and I Discuss…
His book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and Addiction
Right View and how it relates to having less fear in your life
How right view is always liberating
Asking, “does it help?”
“One mustn’t assume burdens that God doesn’t lay upon us. The state of worry is not itself meritorious.” CS Lewis
The problem with trying to control your mind
Transcendental Meditation
Hanging out in tasklessness
The open space of awareness
How thought doesn’t have to go away in order to meditate
Relax your grip, and relax back into yourself
It doesn’t grip you, it has no power to do that. You grip it.
What it means to relax at the moment of contact
Relax into it, stop the resistance of it
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional
suffering = pain x resistance
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Jan 30, 2019 • 44min
Megan Devine- On Grief and Loss
Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…
Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand
That the way we deal with grief in our culture is broken
How grief is a no-win situation for everyone
The fact that we don’t like to talk about grief
How we carry losses with us
The myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrong
That some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carried
How cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your reality
Our limited tools for going through difficulty
Victim blaming
How we can’t be 100% safe
That we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to things
If we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail us
Sadness isn’t a problem either
How you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”
The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and Validated
The power of listening and curiosity
Thinking of pain as an experience to be tended
The things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escape
Making these difficult things gentler on us
Decreasing suffering inside of grief
Wellness vs. worseness
Paying attention to the cause and effect of things
The hierarchy of grief
Treating compassion as the abundant resource that it is
Hope
Meeting people where they are
Asking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?
Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?
You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from them
The importance of showing yourself kindness
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Jan 23, 2019 • 43min
Jonathan Rauch on The Happiness Curve
Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…
His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50
Connection to others
Generosity
The factors that most contribute to our happiness
The U shape curve of happiness in life
The emotional peak of life
How our expectations change as life goes on
That our values continue to change
The fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetime
How the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durable
The hedonic treadmill
What to do to be happier at the bottom of the curve
The suffering that comes from social comparison
Staying in the present moment
Internal criticism
Guilt vs Shame in mid-life
The benefits of being other-directed, other-oriented
How the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friend
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Jan 16, 2019 • 48min
John Zeratsky on Making Time Each Day for What Matters
After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!n This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss…
His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day
Understanding the limits on will-power
Setting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisions
Creating more time in your day for the things you care about
The two powerful forces that compete every day for our time
“The Busy Bandwagon”
The Infinity Pools
Questioning the “defaults” in our schedule
Creating a highlight for every day
Living a “someday” life
Finding more meaningful moments
Urgency, Satisfaction, Joy
Batch the little stuff
Laser mode
Taking back control of your time and energy
Creating barriers to distraction
Managing your energy
Building your energy
Focusing on the process not the outcome
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Jan 9, 2019 • 34min
Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful Poetry
Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful PoetryMarilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss…
Her book, How I Discovered Poetry
Her poem, Mississippi
Her book, A Wreath for Emmett Till
The poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnets
Her poem, Rosemary for Remembrance
Her poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a Wreath
Her poem, Like His Gouged Eye
How poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silence
The value of silence in a life well lived
Silence, contemplation, and self-knowledge
Our quiet center
Her book, Carver
Her poem, Professor Carver’s Bible Class
Her book, Snook Alone
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Jan 2, 2019 • 42min
Roger Housden on Poetry for Difficult Times
Roger Housden is a second time guest on the show – you might remember him from episode 152. He founded The Open Gate which is a conference and workshop center in England that introduced the work of Ram Dass and Thich Nhat Hanh and many others into Europe. You also might have seen his work featured in places like O Magazine, The New York Times and The Los Angeles Times. In this episode, Roger and Eric discuss his beautiful book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Roger Housden and I Discuss…
His book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times
Saying “there is happiness happening” or “there is anger happening” rather than “I am angry” or “I am happy”
How poetry helps us in difficult times
That poetry gives voice to that which is unsayable
The poet Ellen Bass
How suffering can soften us if we bow down to it
That you can’t fake surrender
The opportunity in suffering is growth
How poetry points us in the direction of possibility in suffering
The poet Maggie Smith
The poet Marie Howe
Annunciation by Marie Howe
The specific pointing to the universal in poetry
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Dec 26, 2018 • 48min
Steven C Hayes- Getting Out of You Mind
Steven C Hayes, a leading psychologist and co-founder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), shares his insights on navigating emotions and taking action towards a value-driven life. He discusses the importance of psychological flexibility and how accepting our difficult emotions can lead to personal growth. The conversation highlights the distinction between pain and suffering, the downsides of comparison, and innovative strategies for managing intrusive thoughts. With a mix of personal anecdotes, Hayes inspires listeners to embrace discomfort for emotional resilience.

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Dec 19, 2018 • 38min
Paul Hannam on The Wisdom of Groundhog Day
Paul Hannam, a British author and entrepreneur, shares insights from his book, The Wisdom of Groundhog Day. He explores how the film's themes relate to personal growth and the importance of experimentation in daily life. Listeners will learn about breaking free from repetitive cycles, the significance of mindfulness, and the value of incremental changes. Hannam emphasizes self-awareness and reflects on how our internal state influences happiness, advocating for grounding ourselves in the present moment and connecting with nature.

Dec 12, 2018 • 40min
Tim Pychyl on Procrastination
Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss…
His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change
How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life
That procrastination can be an existential matter
What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.
When we procrastinate we delay getting on with our lives
Being an active member or your own life
The two ways procrastination compromises our health
Stress
Fewer wellness behaviors
Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later”
Procrastination being a problem of self-regulated behavior
I won’t give in to feel good
Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions
When….then…
Giving the monkey something to do
What’s the next action?
Keeping it small
Hacks to work around our irrational thinking
Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation
The meaning behind our goals
Meaning and Manageability
Asking what will this cost me if I put it off?
Prefer tomorrow over today
Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”
Affect forecasting
Thinking of your future self as a stranger
Developing empathy for future self
Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem
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Dec 4, 2018 • 47min
Hilary Jacobs Hendel on How to Process Our Emotions
Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a psychotherapist who switched from practicing traditional talk psychotherapy to accelerated experimental dynamic psychotherapy. She teaches us that our core emotions are automatic and grounded in universal physical experiences. Her new book is called, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self. In this episode, she goes into great instructional detail about how to identify and process your emotions in the moment. If you’ve ever felt a strong emotion (and who hasn’t), this episode will teach you how to move through it skillfully, rather than having your strong emotions wreak havoc in yourself and with others. RxBar & RxNut Butter wants to build delicious food the right way – with transparency on their simple, real ingredients. Get 25% off your first order of their best seller variety pack. Use URL http://www.rxbar.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF at checkout (the US only)Ancestry DNA- unlock your family story – the perfect holiday gift. To get it for the special price of $59 use URL http://www.ancestry.com/wolfIn This Interview, Hilary Jabobs Hendel and I Discuss…
Her new book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self
The 7 C’s of our authentic self
The science and biology of emotions
The change triangle
The Core Emotions: Fear, Anger, Sadness, Disgust, Joy, Excitement and Sexual Excitement
The 3 Inhibitory Emotions: Anxiety, Guilt, and Shame
How core emotions have energy and want to come up and out- to be expressed
Inhibitory emotions dampening our core emotions
The difference between defenses and inhibitory emotions
How to work The Change Triangle
Trauma vs trauma
The power of naming your emotions
Our open-hearted state
When our emotions overwhelm us, it can be helpful to have someone else process them
Grounding and breathing
The role of core emotions is to ready us for action so they are first physical sensations, traveling from the brain down the vegus nerve
All core emotions have impulses associated with them
How harmful self-criticism and self-judgment can be
Relating to ourselves as a small child
Healthy shame vs toxic shame
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