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What happens to the mind/body/spirit when someone experiences sexual trauma? How does sexual trauma show up in sex, intimacy and relationships? And what are some ways folks can begin to heal from their sexual trauma? Darshana Avila answers all this and more. We also answer a sex question about shame while exploring "dirty talk" after having an affair. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 30. About our guest: Darshana Avila helps women (and sometimes their partners too) who are ready for radical intimacy to lay down their armor and claim their wholeness in life and love, tapping into the power of the erotic within themselves. She believes that none of us is actually broken and in need of fixing, but instead we have fragmented parts that need to be reclaimed and integrated into our being. Her unique approach facilitates this journey and supports her clients and students in having a sense of deep intimacy within themselves, more access to the power of the erotic in their lives and greater authenticity and enjoyment in their relationships.As an Erotic Wholeness Coach she weaves together a somatic and relational style of guidance that is rooted in nature-based and trauma-informed wisdom. Knowing that we all long to belong, to feel ourselves truly at home in our bodies and lives and to experience more ease in our being, her work is dedicated to exactly that. Using the laboratory of her own life and relationships as a foundation, she has mixed together a very singular brew of modalities, influences and wisdom bodies - not to worry, she's a good witch! - that is spiced with her grounded, candid and loving approach to meeting people in some of the most tender parts of themselves.Wondering about her credentials? She is a Certified Sexological Bodywork (Somatic Sex Educator), a Somatica (TM) Relationship & Intimacy Coach, a NeuroAffective Touch Practitioner and is in training as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. She's also a Certified Professional Coach, has a certificate in EcoTherapy and is in the process of certification as a Wild Mind Practitioner through Animas Valley Institute. She received her B.S. from the University of Florida in 2004. To learn more visit darshanaavila.com and find her on Instagram at @eroticwholeness Other links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.comGet up to $200 off your customized dream mattress + two free pillows at helixsleep.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.comBuy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast  

What is cuckolding and why might someone be into it? How common is it, and how might someone find a cuckolding relationship? Venus answers all this and more. We also answer a sex question about losing sexual attraction to a partner after they've transitioned from FTM. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 15.About our guest: From the moment Venus learned about cuckolding relationships 6 years ago, she knew it fit exactly who she was and she dove right in. She wanted to reach out to other women who might not be aware this kind of relationship existed so in 2015 she began writing about her stories and experiences of dating, cuckolding, and becoming a Queen of Spades, on venuscuckoldress.com. In early 2020 she branched out to launch the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast which thanks to her infectious enthusiasm and genuine nature, has since shot to the top of the podcast charts. Venus is passionate about cuckolding and loves having the opportunity to lend her voice to show people the real, loving, and beautiful complexities of a cuckolding relationship dynamic. Today Venus enjoys working full time on her podcast and is focusing on building a worldwide community for women in the cuckolding lifestyle. Links:Website  https://venuscuckoldress.com/ Podcast  https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-venus-cuckoldress-podcast/id1495573107 Twitter https://twitter.com/CuckoldressV Instagram https://www.instagram.com/cuckoldressvenuspodcast/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxpeMPYHPFIapapZDoaa03w Facebook https://www.facebook.com/The-Venus-Podcast-107081554590774 Patreon  https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress  Other links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shamelessGet 15% off our favorite cute and compact safety alarm at shesbirdie.com/shamelessWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.comGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comBuy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast  

What can people do to overcome shame around sexuality that was given to them via religion? How do sexual and personal boundaries come into all of this? And why is the G-spot more than a spot? Melissa answers all this and more. We also answer a sex question about how to set up an all-day sex marathon. Also, come joins us for live sex questions and sex talk on the Clubhouse App Thursday 3/4 at 8pm PST! Here is the link: https://www.joinclubhouse.com/event/PN05zX5lAbout our guest: Melissa Hite is the founder of Higher Sex Education where she does one-on-one coaching, teaches classes and workshops, and offers online courses. She's a sexual-spiritual advisor which means that she works holistically with clients to integrate all parts of themselves in practical ways. She is a wealth of wisdom from a unique blend of life experience and academic education. Not only is she certified as a Holistic Sex Educator through The Institute of Sexual Education and Enlightenment, she's triple certified as a pole fitness instructor, has 15 years of massage therapy experience specializing in sports therapy and lymphatic therapy. She also spent 10 years working in Nevada's legal brothel industry and, believe it or not, was trained as a human cannonball with Ringling Bros & Barnum and Bailey Circus. HigherSexEducation.comhttp://instagram.com/highersexeducation https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheBirdsandTheBeesSLC Other links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet $25 off some of the best feeling sex sheets with code Shameless at brooklinen.comGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.comBuy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast  

Guest Soleiman Bolour, Men's Neo Tantra and Mindset coach, discusses overcoming penis shame, societal expectations, negative experiences, the uniqueness of every penis, alternative methods of pleasure, supporting partners with small penises, challenges faced by men with large penises, and gratitude for Margins wine.

Stella Harris, a certified intimacy educator and sex coach, discusses the ultimate guide to threesomes, including navigating them ethically and finding a third person. The importance of aftercare post threesome and addressing misconceptions surrounding threesomes are also covered in this entertaining and informative podcast.

Join us for this super playful yet informative episode where the fabulous educator and adult performer Rain DeGrey teaches us all about strap-on play. We also answer a sex question about men who like to wear women's lingerie. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 14. About our guest: Rain DeGrey is an international educator, writer, presenter, podcaster, and performer that has been writing articles and teaching classes, focusing on kink, relationships, and sex education, since 2009. Her work has been featured in places such as Playboy TV, Seattle Erotic Arts Festival, The SF Fetish Ball, and more, and in 2017 she was named the dirtiest mouth in San Francisco upon winning the Dirty Talk Game Show at Dark Odyssey. To learn more visit raindegrey.com Other links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet $25 off some of the best feeling sex sheets with code Shameless at brooklinen.comGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.comBuy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast  

April is single. Amy is partnered. Valentine's Day is a loaded "holiday", but we still enjoy the reminder to celebrate (self) love, romance, and PLEASURE.  Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off the Ultra Wand, Ultra Bullet and more at femmefunn.com/shameless with code SHAMELESS at checkout Get 20% off delicious, organic, ready to eat meals with code SHAMELESS at sakara.com/shameless Get up to 50% off LELO toys Feb 4-14th by going to https://lelo.to/Shameless or after Valentine's Day get 20% off with code SHAMELESS at lelo.com Get 20% off Like A Kitten's Couple's Box at likeakitten.com/shameless or use code Shameless  Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com Buy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast    

What are some of the ways men have been conditioned to think about sex and how can they approach it in a different way - not only to be better lovers but to have more profound sexual experiences themselves? How can men experience full body orgasms, multiple orgasms, non-ejaculatory orgasms, and learn to last as long as they want? Destin Gerek answers all this and more. Be sure to check out his free video offering at evolvedmasculine.com/shamelessWe also answer a sex question about how to orgasm during partner play. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 20. About our guest: Destin Gerek is a globally recognized leading voice in masculinity, sexuality, and personal empowerment. A Certified Sexologist through The American College of Sexologists International, he is the founder and CEO of The Evolved Masculine, a pioneering coaching and training company for men, and author of the best-selling book “The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs, and The One She Craves”. Destin is also an international speaker and host of the podcast, "The Evolved Masculine: Redefining Sex, Power, & Success". His innovative lens is the result of more than 20 years of academic rigor and direct study -- including 7 formative years traveling the world living and teaching as his provocative alter ego, ‘The Erotic Rockstar’. He has taken the most potent aspects of his bold life experimentation and integrated it into his iconic body of work, directly supporting thousands of men to have better sex, deeper connections to their masculine power, women, and themselves. Destin is also is the creator of the groundbreaking and life changing 12 week Sexual Self Mastery Training Program. To learn more visit evolvedmasculine.com/shamelessOther links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shamelessGet 20% off Like A Kitten's Couple's Box at likeakitten.com/shameless or use code Shameless Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.comGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comBuy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast  

Beloved friend and repeat guest, Lisa Nicks-Balthasar, shares her profound journey of heartbreak, grief, and betrayal. She discusses the lessons and tools she used to heal, keep her heart open, find love, and manifest the life of her dreams. The hosts also explore topics like anal play, finding soulmate connections, the struggle between heart and mind, and the importance of self-love after heartbreak.

On this bonus ad-free episode, Pleasure and Sexual Empowerment Coach, Samantha Helm Stelk, joins us to talk all about her personal journey as she went from struggling with orgasms to becoming her most juicy, orgasmic self. She also shares tips and tricks on how YOU can tap into your ultimate orgasmic potential.  About our guest: Samantha is a Pleasure & Sexual Empowerment Coach with a trauma informed background and a certified VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coach through The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality. Her specialty is in lovingly guiding women from feeling unworthy, insecure about their bodies, disconnected from their sexuality and disempowered in their lives to feeling absolutely in love with who they are, being intimately connected to their pleasure, and an empowered creator of their lives. She is known for her ability to curate a safe space in which you will explore the realms of your innermost being, get clarity on and bring life to your deepest desires and dreams. To learn more visit lovelegacycoaching.com