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Dr. Greg Coles, author, speaker, and scholar at the Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender, shares insight and hope for singles with same-sex attraction. Topics discussed include recognizing the beauty of singleness and same-sex attraction, forming friendships with married couples, the healing power of present friendships, exploring same-sex attraction and healing, and a message to the speaker's younger self about following Jesus.

What is the difference between outgrowing porn and purity culture? In this replay from The Porn Free Man Conference, you'll experience dramatic examples of what these two approaches look like, sound like, and feel like when you are...Reaching out to a friend after watching porn (failure vs. feedback)Sharing vulnerable parts of your story (harsh and critical vs. gentle and kind)Checking in with your small group (lots of accountability vs. lots of attunement)Feeling the urge to watch porn (battle our sexuality vs. befriend our sexuality)Being sexually attracted to someone (fear and shame vs. curiosity and compassion)Celebrating 6 months without porn (behavior modification vs. becoming mature)Drew Boa, Doug Carpenter, Henry Brown, and Jordan Castille are all members of the Husband Material Leadership Team.Related episodes:How To Outgrow Porn (Intro To HMA)Experience Healing Through PsychodramaHow To Reframe A Porn RelapseSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Dr. Gerry Crete, a marriage and family therapist and professional counselor, discusses how parts work can help in outgrowing porn. They explore working preemptively with parts, breaking free from a trance state, and fulfilling attachment needs through Jesus. The podcast also covers integrating Christian faith with psychological approaches and how healing from porn addiction leads to discovering one's true identity.

Trauma-informed Licensed Professional Counselor Tammy Gustafson discusses how husbands can support their wives during triggers and the opportunity for healing they present. Learn about the neurological response to triggers, manifestations of triggers in real-life situations, and practical tips for navigating triggers and strengthening relationships. Discover the importance of empathy, understanding, open communication, and perspective-taking in addressing triggers and building intimacy.

Witness powerful healing through storywork and artwork as chalk artisan Philip Leach creates visual representations and coach John Kilmer offers attunement. The hosts discuss the value of curiosity, exploring stories of difficulty, triggers and loneliness, and the power of trust and inviting Jesus into one's life. The chapter also delves into healing through artwork and storywork, acknowledging past traumas, embracing love and hate, and creating a new reality with Jesus.

Learn 12 reasons why shaming yourself doesn't help, the addictive nature of self-shaming, the power of grace to counter shame, and an IFS approach to exchanging shame for curiosity and compassion.

Psychotherapist Carol Sheets discusses how to help partners heal from the impact of porn and sex addiction by creating safety, practicing empathy, offering validation, and taking ownership without shame. They emphasize the importance of empathy, practicing relational skills, and helping the partner feel safe again. The podcast also explores the power of empathy, the role of practice, taking ownership of harm caused, and the concept of post-traumatic growth.

Chris Bruno, a licensed professional counselor with decades of experience, talks about discovering the story behind struggling with porn and shifting from self-condemnation to self-compassion. Topics include understanding the impact of trauma and sin on porn addiction, uncovering one's true 'masterpieceness,' reclaiming inherent value, and the role of God's kindness in true repentance.

Dr. Doug Carpenter, sexual fantasy analyst, shares insights on analyzing sexual fantasies. They discuss the connection between humiliation, arousal, and projection, explore the significance of a first kiss and its connection to oral sex, and unpack the healing nature of sexual fantasies. They also delve into the desire for validation, the symbolism of disability, and the benefits of joining Husband Material Academy for healing trauma and analyzing sexual fantasies.

This podcast explores the meaning and symbolism behind common sexual desires such as penis, breasts, kissing, oral sex, nudity, diapers, and feet. It discusses how these symbols represent various aspects of masculinity, nurturance, intimacy, and desires. The chapter also delves into the connection between past traumas and sexual behaviors, discussing exhibitionism as an example. It further explores the symbolism behind fetishes like diaper and foot fetishes, and encourages listeners to reflect on their own symbolism of arousal for a deeper understanding of their desires.