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Have you ever pretended to be fine when you're really not? In this episode, Stephen Thomas explains "I'm Fine Syndrome"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and how to crush it. You'll learn the importance of honoring your wants and needs...and the power of being authentic. Admitting you're not fine is an act of bravery and the first step towards true freedom.Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has enjoyed freedom from porn and hookup culture for over 14 years. He is a Certified Husband Material Coach who provides coaching for individuals, couples, and groups. Stephen is passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them.Learn more at stephenthomasconsulting.comApply to join a group at husbandmaterial.com/groupFacebook: facebook.com/stephenthomasconsultingEmail Stephen at stephen@stephenthomasconsulting.comText Stephen at 864-881-1749Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Dr. Michael Sytsma discusses the keys to enjoying sex in marriage, addressing differences in sexual desire and unlocking arousal. He emphasizes the importance of mindset, healthy habits, and deep emotional connections for a fulfilling relationship. The podcast explores the complexities of sexual intimacy, clear communication, and accepting your partner for who they are, focusing on building a deeper connection beyond physical satisfaction.

In this thought-provoking podcast, the hosts explore complex moral questions about masturbation, analyzing 10 unique situations. They discuss topics such as talking to children about masturbation, overcoming physical challenges in a marriage, and exploring different perspectives on the topic. They also touch on non-ejaculatory masturbation, strategies for stopping masturbation, and connecting with your inner child to eliminate unwanted sexual behavior.

What is masturbation? How does it affect the brain? What does the Bible (not) say about it? What will happen to me if I don't masturbate? In this episode, I'll share insights from neuroscience, the New Testament, and my own story of masturbation. I've been researching this topic for the past 13 years...so I have a lot to share! You'll learn why myelination matters (even in masturbation without fantasy). You'll hear how masturbation combined with pornography has increased widespread erectile dysfunction (including in my life). You'll find out what happens if you don't masturbate (hint: you'll be okay). You'll also learn the difference between lustful intent and simply noticing an attractive person (what purity culture didn't teach you). Most importantly, you'll ask better questions and develop a more mature perspective on masturbation!Come back next week for part 2 of this teaching.Resources referenced:Your Brain Off Porn - podcast episodeSupernormal Stimuli - educational comicHow Pornography Harms - book (paid link)Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide - free ebookBrain Heart World - free documentary seriesC.S. Lewis on Masturbation - excerpt from a letterBible verses referenced:Matthew 5:27-281 Thessalonians 4:3-6a1 Corinthians 6:12-20Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Growing up between worlds, third culture kids face unique challenges in developing their identity and sense of belonging. Can these experiences create a higher risk of struggling with pornography? John Kilmer reveals the impact of moving during crucial developmental stages, and how unprocessed grief and loss can lead to unwanted sexual behavior. Through John's story, we discover the burden AND the beauty of being a third culture man.John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He's a grateful follower of Jesus Christ who is passionate about men's inner healing work.  As a child, John traveled the world as the son of missionaries.  These early experiences deeply shaped his worldview, fostering curiosity and adventure. John lives with his wife and children at Deerhaven Farm and Retreat in the rural hills of northeastern Washington.  He enjoys canoeing, photography, hiking, and leading men's healing groups, both at his property and online.Learn more about John at relaxedcaregiver.com.Book a discovery call with John here.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

How do neurodifferences like ADHD and autism relate to unwanted sexual behavior? How can embracing neurodiversity help us heal and outgrow porn? Candice Christiansen offers powerful perspectives and practical advice. This interview is delightful!For neurodivergent individuals (and same or mixed neurotype couples) who are struggling, Candice is here to help you gain clarity to make your relationship, intimacy, and sex as enjoyable, wonderful, and pleasurable as possible!Candice Christiansen is Autistic, ADHD, and a NeuroDifferent thought leader in the sexual recovery world. She is an "autism sexpert" who provides therapy and intimacy coaching to neurodivergent adults and mixed neurotype couples. Candice also provides EMDR and IFS therapy to complex trauma survivors with a variety of sex, relationship, and intimacy issues.Candice is the founder of Namasté Center For Healing.Learn more about Candice at candicechristiansen.com. You can also email candice@namasteadvice.com.Resources mentioned in this episode:Your Sexual Sensory Profile (free eBook by Candice Christiansen)Altogether Us (book with a chapter by Candice Christiansen)ADHD and Rejection Sensitivity (great YouTube video)Insight Timer (free meditation app)Unmasking Autism: Discovering The New Faces Of Neurodiversity (book)Divergent Mind: Thriving In A World Than Wasn't Designed For You (book)Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Ever wondered how to confront your parents with compassion? This discussion dives into the delicate art of addressing tough issues, emphasizing healing through understanding. Three key questions guide the conversation: what happened, how do you feel, and what do you want moving forward? The idea of 'redemptive risk' is introduced, encouraging personal growth without blame. Practical strategies and reflective questions are shared to foster better communication in parent-child relationships.

In this episode, my parents share the good and the bad of how they raised me, and how we are healing. It's a story of vulnerability, repentance, and redemption. "All families have difficulties. If you bury them, you grow apart. If you get them on the table and solve them, then you can heal from that." —Sandy Boa "Don't be afraid to go to the person and ask for forgiveness, because God's healing you and he's gonna heal the other person too. If you truly trust Him and you go with God, it's an amazing journey. Not easy but amazing." —Yvonne Boa Yvonne and Sandy Boa are my parents.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

What happens when you grow up in a family affected by sexual addiction? In this episode, Dr. Ken Adams reveals the burdens carried by adult children of sex addicts. This conversation is especially helpful for those of us who inherited sexual shame from our parents. You'll learn why and how to release shame that has been passed down to you...and how to stop the cycle of generational trauma.Dr. Ken Adams is a world-renowned therapist and expert on sexual addiction, shame, and enmeshment. Learn more at drkenadams.comBuy the first-ever book for adult children of sex addicts (this is a paid link):A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts by Kenneth Adams, Mary Meyer, and Culle Vande GardeSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

What does it mean to become husband material? In this episode, you'll learn the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-leadership. Stay until the end for special appearances by 12 Husband Material Men! New opportunities:HMA is reopening in July. Join the waitlist at joinhma.comCome to our retreat in Santa Barbara in September! Register now at husbandmaterial.com/retreatSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!