Dating Intentionally

In this episode, I sit down with author and relationship coach Jillian Turecki to talk about the hard truths of love, why it really begins with you, and what changes when you stop outsourcing certainty and start meeting your own needs. We get into the “six human needs” as a simple audit for what’s missing, the seductive pull of victim-mode, and how building a secure base in yourself makes dating easier. We unpack the mental stories that tank early connections, set a clean bar for communication, and draw a firm line between charm and character while defining a true slow burn. It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Check out Jillian's podcast, Jillian On Love Cozy Earth - get 20% off with code DATING Try Quince Bedding! Get FREE shipping CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t have to love dating apps to make them work, but you do need a grounded strategy so you don't lose your mind! In this episode, I’m breaking down how to use dating apps without swearing off them for good every few months (only to come back again). You’ll learn the mindset shifts that make apps less frustrating, how to write a profile that actually gets attention, and what to do when the flakiness or ghosting gets to you. I also answer your top listener questions about filters, messaging, and finding emotionally available people online. Do the apps kinda suck? Yes. But do they allow you to connect with more single people? Also yes. My Substack on how I made a decision about kids after being on the fence for years The Dear Sugar article that helped me with my kids/no kids decision Cozy Earth - get 20% off with code DATING Try Quince Bedding! Get FREE shipping CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

She called off her wedding, then married the same man. In this episode, I talk with Dr. Molly Burrets, a clinical psychologist and couples therapist, about what it really looks like to date while healing. We unpack how to know when you’re ready after a breakup, why you don’t have to be fully “healed” to find love, and how new relationships can actually support your growth. From there, we dive into anxious attachment, how “butterflies” can be anxiety in disguise, and why healthy relationships sometimes feel “boring” compared to the chaos we’re used to. Plus, we talk about comparison to exes, scanning for red flags, and what it means to show up with more trust and self-awareness in love. Connect with Dr. Molly on IG Look out for Dr. Molly's podcast, Kissing Frogs coming soon! Cozy Earth - get 20% off with code DATING Try Quince Bedding! Get FREE shipping CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are they bad at communicating, or just not that into you? Let’s unpack texting habits, mixed signals, and what’s really going on. If you’ve ever found yourself analyzing every message or wondering if a mismatch in communication means they’re not interested, this one’s for you. I’m breaking down the gray area between different communication styles, real incompatibility, and a genuine lack of effort. Plus, a Dating Dilemma from a listener who keeps getting to the third date, but never past it. Try Quince Bedding! Get FREE shipping Episodes mentioned: 170 - what to do when you feel "the shift." CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The one-year mark in a relationship is a major milestone! It comes with new challenges, changes, and conversations. In this final episode of Comparing Notes, Ali Jackson from Finding Mr. Height and I reflect on what the first year of a healthy relationship really looks like. We discuss moving in together, navigating family and career transitions, maintaining intimacy, and having the “what’s next” conversation. Plus, we answer listener questions about when to talk about marriage, how to handle a routine sex life, and what to do if you’re still unsure about the future. Comparing Notes Pt 1 - all about the first 3 months of a relationship! Comparing Notes Pt. 2 - covering the ins and outs of being in a relationship for 6 months Try Quince Bedding! Get FREE shipping CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you'll learn how to know when to walk away in early dating vs. long-term relationships and why it's so difficult. You’ll get a simple mindset shift that makes the breakup decision stick, plus exact scripts to end it by text, phone, or in person without reopening negotiations. I also map your next steps to take care of yourself and avoid making mistakes after it's over. We close with a listener dilemma about four great dates that ended with “something’s missing," and what to do when that happens. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Get info on my 2026 retreat / sign up for the waitlist Get anti-ghost text scripts CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this milestone reflection, key dating insights emerge from years of conversations. Discover the freedom to date on your own terms and the necessity of expressing your relationship needs. Inner work can transform your dating choices, while adjusting expectations helps you accept partners as they are. Learn the power of communication before intimacy and the value of taking your time to build connections. Embrace your unique timeline and prioritize your own values for a fulfilling dating journey. Wisdom from the community adds practical tips for dating success.

In this episode, I sit down with Shaun Galanos (@thelovedrive) to discuss what it truly means to bring playfulness and honesty to dating. We dive into why dating actually gets better as you get older and how to embrace the messy parts of love without losing your sense of humor. Shaun shares the advice he gives his clients (that he still needs to hear himself), and we tackle some of your trickiest sex-related questions, including the ones that stump me. Plus, we wrap up with Shaun’s rapid-fire first date hot takes that will change how you think about getting to know someone new. CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m answering four of your real-life dating dilemmas! We’re talking about what to do when someone says they need to “find themselves” before committing, how to build emotional connection early on without scaring them off, and whether a partner’s pre-trip freak-out is a sign to walk away or just a moment of vulnerability. Plus, we tackle the dreaded slow fade (and what to do). Stick around until the end for a personal update on my first year of marriage!! I'm sharing what surprised me, what challenged us, and what I wish I had known before saying “I do.” CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free guides⁠ ⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m sharing all my tips for dating outside your type! You’re going to hear what it means to have a “type”, success stories from other listeners about how they dated outside their type, why dating outside your type can work, and what I personally looked for on dating apps when using this approach. (It led me to meeting my husband, just saying!) You’ll also hear why this approach is not the same as settling. At the end, I answer a fresh dating dilemma from a woman who's not sure if a friendship could become something romantic. This episode originally aired in April 2024. CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠⁠Free guides⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠⁠⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠⁠Master The Dating Apps⁠⁠ ⁠⁠How To Identify Your Needs ⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠⁠Rate on Apple⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices