Dating Intentionally 229. The 4 Things You Should Know by the 4th Date w/ Amy Nobile Messing
Jan 16, 2026
In this discussion, Amy Nobile Messing, a holistic dating coach and founder of Love Amy, shares her turbo-dating adventures in NYC after a 20-year marriage. She emphasizes the importance of honesty, suggesting a clever one-liner to disclose a divorce on a first date. Amy introduces her four pillars for evaluating compatibility by date four: chemistry, core values, emotional maturity, and readiness. She also explores how to recognize if someone is truly ready for a relationship and navigates post-divorce dating dilemmas with insightful advice.
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Turbo Dating After Divorce
- Amy Nobile Messing describes "turbo dating" after leaving a 20-year marriage, sometimes doing up to six mini dates in a day as vibe checks.
- She used short 45-minute meetings and spaced them out, learning quickly by trying many approaches.
Have A One‑Line Truth Ready
- Be honest early about major life events using a rehearsed, positive one-liner instead of hiding them.
- Amy's example: briefly state you're recently divorced, in therapy, and excited and ready to date.
How A Crossed‑Off Date Became Her Husband
- Amy met her husband during turbo dating when he was the second of three dates at Joe and the Juice.
- Initially unimpressive, his consistent texts and humor later revealed growing chemistry.
