Our caller, Halima, is worried. She’s got a huge crush on a guy at work. And while that situation brings all of its usual complications – what if she makes her feelings known and gets rejected…and then it’s awkward in the lunchroom? What if they end up dating but it doesn’t work out, and then he’s ‘the guy at work that dumped her?’ – she’s got an even bigger concern: She wants a relationship but is concerned he’s just after a ‘hook up.’ In today’s LOVE Life, I break down the situation, help her figure out how to read his signals, and decide whether it’s worth her putting in the “work” to make it happen (pun intended) ;).

Confession: I don’t really care much for Valentine’s Day. But it is upon us, and the sappy engagement ring television commercials and greeting card stores won’t let us forget it. So no matter how you feel about the holiday – romantic and hopeful, jaded and cynical or, like me, just plain indifferent – let’s take this opportunity to learn three simple things that will instantly improve your love life today. Oh, and we might as well eat some chocolate while we’re at it.   

  I made a colossal mistake the other day on national television. Want to hear the embarrassing story? I’ll tell you in this episode. Not just because I’ve gotten good at laughing at myself for moments like this (though I have – and that’s one of the lessons here), but because it will teach you 3 crucial things to spare you from hurt next time you make a mistake. (Which you will. Because you’re human.) And how do you deal when other people think you’re a screw-up? I give you one amazing piece of advice on how to prove them wrong. 

There are few things in life that hurt worse than loving someone who doesn’t love you back. It can make you question your own value: If someone I hold in such high esteem doesn’t think I’m worthy of a relationship with him, then something must really be wrong with me. In today’s LOVE Life, I’ll help you understand why this isn’t true, and we’ll take a look at some of the real reasons why it didn’t work out. I’ll also give you my best advice on what to do while your heart is healing and how to know for sure when the right person for you comes along.

Contrary to popular belief, arguments themselves aren’t what damage relationships; it’s the amount of time that we take to recover after an argument. But no matter how compatible you are with your partner, disagreements are inevitable. So today, I’m going to teach you my secret weapon to end an argument as quickly as possible using six powerful words. When you say these, you’ll immediately switch from being adversaries to teammates and get right into solving the problem…so you can shift your focus from fighting to the fun part: making up.

Exploring the dilemma of being friends with an ex who still has feelings, discussing the challenges and complexities of navigating such a relationship with honesty and compassion.

  We all do it: Make To-Do lists a mile long and then tell ourselves we’ve had a productive day if we’ve checked off a bunch of “stuff” before our head hits the pillow. But is that really the measure of a significant life? In today’s episode I argue that working hard doesn’t necessarily equal growing, and accomplishing tasks doesn’t necessarily equal real accomplishment. I offer a different way to look at your “to-dos” and suggest a series of questions you can ask yourself to ensure you’re getting the balance and sustainable success that brings true meaning to your day – and your life.   

Stop everything and listen to this episode right now. In it, I’m going to give you a quick tip that will get you immediate results with that nagging “to-do” you’ve been putting off forever. (You know which one I’m talking about.) Overwhelm has stood in your way of accomplishing something important for way too long, and today we’re going to “break the seal” and just start the damn thing. OK? OK! Hit “play” and let’s go…

So you’ve got strong feelings for a guy… He’s funny, he’s handsome, he’s kind, but there’s just one tiny problem: he just so happens to be your good friend’s ex-boyfriend. What do you do? Is it possible to date him and NOT screw up your friendship forever? In today’s episode, we look at the two issues at the core of this tricky dilemma, and I give you the only solution that could possibly make the situation work. I even hand you a script you can use to talk it out with your BFF that might just get her on board with the idea so you can actually have it both ways. (You’re welcome.)

Should you be ashamed of The Booty Call? If you’re just having fun, and you’re really ok with a casual fling, then I say, go for it. The problem is, there’s often more going on behind this so-called “arrangement” – feelings, expectations, unexpressed hopes…and emotional issues that run very deep. Who’s to blame when the balance of power goes awry? And what should you do if you decide you want more? We unravel this sticky entanglement in today’s LOVE Life, and I help you decide if your Booty Call really makes you happy, or if you should hang up on him for good.