Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

This week we are back with part two of my coaching session around money with Melanie. The last time we left Melanie, she was going to be diving into some big work around money stories, core beliefs and self-worth. Today we are jumping right back into some big topics around money such as resentment, healing from the patriarchy, and getting to the bottom of unwanted identities. If you missed the first part of our conversation, you definitely want to listen to before checking out today’s episode. In this session, Melanie shares how she has been doing with some of the personal development homework assignments I gave her, including what has been working and what she has been resisting (and why). Oh and hey, I would love to know if you are liking these coaching episodes. It’s important for me to know which kind of episodes you love (or don’t), so I can continue to bring you the content you enjoy most! Thank you for joining us for this conclusion of Melanie’s coaching session on self-worth and money issues. In this episode, you’ll hear: Melanie shares how the personal development homework went including some resistance she was experiencing (5:06) Dispelling what journaling actually needs to be (5:59) Recognizing comparison issues with others when it comes to money (7:54) Shame as it relates to economic class, plus getting to the bottom of unwanted identities (14:02) Breaking down the belief that women need to be saved when it comes to money (14:46) There’s no such thing as consistency and that’s okay (22:28) Melanie’s hope for the future when it comes to working through issues around self-worth and money (32:10) http://yourkickasslife.com/290  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hi Ass Kickers! We have another YKAL Coaching session episode this week. We received a lot of great feedback last month when I coached Rachel on the show. I am excited to be back again, this time with a two-part coaching episode featuring Melanie. If you can walk away from this culture without having any hangups around money, sex, or body image, you’re a-okay. But that’s the trifecta of women’s issues and most of us are feeling “meh”, or at least trying to do the work to resolve these issues. Such is the case with this week’s client, Melanie; a dog mom, working in the dental industry in Colorado. During today’s session, she opens up about some issues she has been having around money, including managing money, self-worth, and her core beliefs about what it means to be wealthy. I am so appreciative of women like Melanie for coming on the podcast and sharing their lives with us. At the end of the day, we are having conversations around the big topics that are hard for all of us. So, thank you, Melanie, for sharing and thank you, ass kickers, for listening.  In this episode, you’ll hear: Uncovering Melanie’s issues around money (4:40) The role gender plays for Melanie when it comes to money (5:59) How and why self-worth is so tied up with our beliefs about money (6:41) The stories we make up about money and an exercise to help identify when you are making up a story (10:24) http://yourkickasslife.com/289  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week on the podcast I welcome, Danny-J, an award-winning entrepreneur, keynote speaker, podcast host and storyteller. Danny-J's work can be heard in her weekly show, The Best Life Podcast and can be followed in real time on all the social media platforms. She uses her real "Jerry Springer Life" stories to engage with her audience, teach life lessons and inspire others to rewrite their stories. And y’all, just wait until you hear some of her stories in this episode!  Danny-J shares her story of teen pregnancy and the decision to place her daughter for adoption, plus she details how she learned she had a biological father and met him many years later as an adult. It is so refreshing to hear honest and open stories of those in the personal development field. Danny-J shares how she processed everything and made it through to the other side. Plus, we talk about core beliefs and letting go of the ones that no longer serve you, changing negative self-talk and affirmations (are they actually bullshit or not?). Danny-J is totally, “my people” and I am excited to share our conversation with you today. In this episode, you’ll hear: Danny-J’s teen pregnancy, the decision to place her child for adoption and reuniting with her many years later (7:13) Knowing when it’s time to rewrite your story and some steps to take to get there (20:04) Affirmations: are they really bullshit and how you may be able to use them, but don’t work by themselves (24:56) Finding the tools that work for you when life gets really messy (31:07) Danny-J’s story of finding out she had biological father, meeting him years later and how it has affected her life, her identity piece and the world around her (38:14) http://yourkickasslife.com/288  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s podcast episode comes from a podcast listener. She asks: I am wondering if you have any strategies for how to help move people to a place of readiness to change?I have been doing a lot of work on myself over the past two years and am feeling so much better in my life and I notice myself wanting to spread this joy to others and show them they too can feel better!There is one person in particular in my life who I am very close to who is raising two daughters who I am even closer to. I find it very hard to sit back and watch her suffer due to her lack of skills with dealing with difficult emotions, social anxiety, and control issues. I know she is definitely not ready to change from previous conversations. She immediately shuts down any time someone tries to hold her accountable for her part in problems, uses silent treatment with them, takes no ownership for her actions and shows no awareness that all signs point to her having significant social anxiety. My heart SO wants to help this person. It is more difficult watching the pattern begin to repeat itself in her daughters. I know logically that there is nothing I can do because people have to be ready to change. And I have to let go of the attachment that I can "change someone". But I guess I am hopeful there are ways to support someone in moving towards being ready to change. How does one gently increase a person’s awareness? Raise your hand if you’ve ever been in a situation where you KNOW you can help someone or at least point them in the direction of helping them out. 🙋🙋🙋I have much to say about this-- the do’s and don’t’s and everything in between. Listen in as I also tell you HOW to say what can be helpful for your friend or loved one, as well as how to take care of yourself. http://yourkickasslife.com/287  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am especially pumped for today's episode because it is the first time I am coaching someone on the podcast. I am so excited! But, before I dive into the content of today’s episode, I wanted to give a crash course in life coaching (for anyone new to the concept) and share how I actually coach my clients.Traditionally, life coaches act as a guide when working with clients. They ask the right questions or offer clients different perspectives. One important item to note: life coaches don't give advice nor do they give their opinion. The way I work with clients is a mix between life coaching and consulting or advising. Because I've been doing this work for so long and with the same type of woman, I see patterns over and over and over again, which helps me better help those I work with. I also get really curious. You will hear this as you listen to my session with Rachel.Speaking of Rachel, she is one of my past group coaching participants and kindly agreed to do this special podcast coaching session episode. During the session, we discussed her fear of advancing in her career, which we identified as an upper limit problem (which I KNOW is a common struggle!). We also uncovered a quiet, yet powerful inner voice that says, “Yes, you can do this.” The session is thought-provoking, empowering and engaging. I have been thinking about doing this kind of podcast episode for so long. The day has finally arrived and I hope you enjoy it!In this episode, you’ll also hear: Uncovering Rachel’s upper limit problem and discussing aspired values (20:04) Explanation of an upper limit problem, what it is and how to address it (24:26) An exercise in talking through the worst case scenario when it comes perceptions by people in the workplace (30:54) Uncovering a quiet yet powerful inner voice or what Rachel refers to as a vibration or wave (42:46) A kick-ass update from Rachel (1:04:04) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode has been a long time coming. It all started back in 2016, following the presidential election. At the time, I realized I needed to take a step back and unlearn a lot of the things that I had learned as a young adult. I needed to look at many important things through a new lens and figure out what I could do with my platform that's helpful to those that follow me. The thing is, if you’re “doing” personal development (whether you’re a student, teacher, or both), the topic of social justice matters. The end. I spent a decent amount of time conversing with people, reading, and listening to podcasts about societal justice, the patriarchy, and race relations, all in an attempt to understand, at a deeper level, the world that surrounds me. One of the people I’ve been learning from is Dr. Tee Williams. Dr. Tee is an educator, consultant, and writer residing in Los Angeles. His passion is helping people and organizations transform themselves so that together we can collectively transform the world.The online world of social justice can be very confusing and overwhelming, am I right?What can we do?Who do we learn from?Where do we start?What does social justice mean?And, what does liberation mean?These words and phrases get thrown around so much. And the reality is, a lot of us don't know what they actually mean or look like. Dr. Tee is here this week to help us sort it out and make sense of it all. And y’all, he teaches with such grace and a great sense of humor. He is a great pleasure, I am sure you will agree!In this episode you’ll hear: What we can do and why should we do it when it comes to standing up for social justice (6:57) The importance of using your brilliance and critical thinking in the evaluation and the incorporation of information being shared in media, online and in the world around you (10:30) What liberation means, the critical liberation theory, and liberation as a framework and philosophy (15:09) The difference between calling in versus calling out (46:45) Doing the work to come back from saying or doing homophobic, heterosexist or racist comments or acts (47:16) Unpacking feelings of hurt, oppression and injustice so you can learn and move forward (51:26) http://yourkickasslife.com/285  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey ass kickers! I'm happy to bring you today’s podcast episode with guest, Kira Sabin. Kira is a positive psychology practitioner and a certified life coach. She is obsessed with having bigger conversations around love and relationships; annnnd, Kira is a real life friend of mine, which means I am EXTRA excited to share this episode with you.This week we are talking about relationships, Kira’s area of expertise. But wait, even if you aren’t partnered, stick with us. The conversation we're having today doesn't matter if you are partnered or if you are single. This episode is for everyone because all humans are in some kind of relationship and are deserving of love. In this episode we discussed love and what it actually is (or can be), the knowledge that love is for everyone and how to overcome feelings of unworthiness.In this episode you’ll hear: What nobody teaches us about love and why Kira doesn’t believe in love at first sight (7:28) The knowledge that love is for everyone, why many don’t feel worthy of love and how to shift that thinking (14:07) How attached people can be wonderful for their single friends (20:05) Life lessons from Kira: one of Kira’s biggest regrets and the best piece of advice she’s didn’t take and had to learn the hard way (23:56) Family of origin and being taught how you learned to love (32:59) Why the missing piece to relationships is vulnerability (40:02) http://yourkickasslife.com/284  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hi ass kickers! This solo episode comes from something one of my clients told me about, and it was something I’ve heard from many women in the YKAL community.My client went to a live event-- a personal development sort of conference/retreat. She went alone, and this particular client is, like many people, massively uncomfortable with vulnerability, but really wants to change and grow, so she did the vulnerable thing by going alone to this event.The event was all women, and a few hundred there. As the days went on, my client kept noticing people talking about their “a-ha” moments, their breakthroughs, and how their felt their lives shifting.And my client was feeling...well, not that. It’s not that she didn’t enjoy herself and have many takeaways from the event. But, she fell into comparisonitis.Listen to the episode as I talk more about what to do if you find yourself comparing your personal development journey to someone else’s.http://yourkickasslife.com/podcast/283/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Dr. Sasha Heinz is hanging out with me on the podcast. And as usual, I am super excited! I can’t help it, y’all-- I get excited when I get to talk to someone who I know in real life mostly because I CAN’T WAIT to introduce them to YOU.Sasha is my friend, is very, very smart and talks about all of the things we love to talk about over here at the YKAL headquarters, like negative self-talk and perfectionism. She is a Developmental Psychologist and Life Coach, is an expert in Positive Psychology, lasting behavioral change, and the science of getting unstuck.In today’s episode we talk about being deliberate with our thinking and how doing so has an effect on our emotions. We also talk about negative emotions and how we can have either gratuitous negative emotions or instructive negative emotions (and what that all means, plus what I call them instead of “negative” emotions). And we also tackle the million dollar question, “How can someone get to a place of worthiness, of feeling worthy?”In this episode you’ll hear: What positive psychology means and how it got started (5:22) Being deliberate about your thinking so that your emotions are moving you toward the life you want to be living and who you want to be (15:03) Worthiness and feeling like you are not enough and some steps to help get to a place of worthiness (16:10) The science of happiness and how your circumstances really don't dictate your happiness (30:06) Social media and emotions - why we would all be much happier by deleting our social media feeds (38:40) http://yourkickasslife.com/282  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am super excited to bring you this episode for three reasons! First, I have a fun confession at the top of the show. Second, I make an announcement about a new addition to the podcast format and let me tell you, I am soooo excited about it. And last, but certainly not least, I am thrilled to share my conversation with Kelly Covert! Kelly is the creator of In Her Voice, a podcast for women who are called to do more. Yes, Kelly, yes! She is also an inner voice coach with a passion for helping women believe and achieve their big vision. I simply love this woman and I have no doubt you will too.In today’s episode, you’ll hear Kelly and I talk about inner voice coaching and what it is. Plus, we talk about the importance of taking up space in the world as a woman, which in a nutshell means deciding you are worthy of sharing your story, your thoughts, and your feelings without fear or regret. Finally, we close out our conversation on the topic of inspired potential and how tapping into it is not about having to live up to something, but instead it is about something that you live into. Kelly offers so much wisdom and insight into connecting with your inner voice. I loved our conversation and I hope you do too!In this episode you’ll hear: What inner voice coaching is and how someone can become more connected to their own voice of truth (6:08) How to start a practice of quieting your negative self talk and tune into your inner voice (7:49) Taking up space in the world and some small steps that people can take towards doing so (18:38) Inspired potential, what it is and why it’s so important (37:36) http://yourkickasslife.com/281   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices