Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

This week we dive into another coaching episode, this time with a woman named Rebecca. She is a speech pathologist living in the NYC area. She has been through The Mentorship Masterclass with me and continues to do the work; because the work never stops.  In this episode, Rebecca opens up about her struggles with self-doubt. She shares her experiences with procrastinating on some tasks that are very meaningful to a big project in her life. You’ll hear us talk through some of her issues and decide upon some exercises she can use to work through them. In this episode you’ll hear:  Rebecca shares her challenges and fears around starting her own business (4:55) Her struggles with feeling like she is ‘not doing enough’ (6:45) The fear of being judged and unwanted identities (6:56) Self-sabotage, comfort zones, and the fear of outshining (16:06) A kick-ass update from Rebecca (45:36) If you’re a regular podcast listener and resonate with what I tell you there and are wanting something a little more...maybe you want more than just the information and you want to actually implement the things I tell you here and in my books, The Mentorship is for you. You’ll walk away with science-based tools to have more confidence, more self-trust, better relationships, better communication (did someone say boundaries!?), so much more self-awareness and you don’t have to travel! Applications close soon, so check it out here. http://yourkickasslife.com/324  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week on the show we’re hearing from podcast listeners! I know you like to hear stories from women in the YKAL community once in awhile, so I’ve brought you a few of them. You might hear some of yourself in their stories! All of these women share their journey from being a podcast listener and self-help book reader, to diving in deeper. Dana, Kelly, and Millie have gone through my signature program, The Mentorship Masterclass, and I hope you’re inspired when you hear what they’ve gained in their lives. First you’ll hear from Dana, who came into The Mentorship from all the way in Australia. She opens by telling us how she was feeling stuck, without a purpose, and having a bit of an identity crisis. You’ll hear her mention how the values work has shaped her and how she still relies on self-compassion that was emphasized in the program. Then we hear from Kelly, who had reached mid-life and just didn’t know where to start, but knew she needed to start somewhere. She also mentions how the values work has helped her over the last almost year since The Mentorship ended, and something I LOVED to hear her say, that the tools have stuck with her and she still uses them.Lastly, we hear from Millie, who heard a podcast just like this one where she related so much to what they women I had on shared. Mostly around the topic of shame and she knew it was “the next frontier” she needed to work on. She mentions she remembers me saying, “If you only remember ONE thing I have taught you in this program, please have it be the steps of shame resilience!” Then proceeds to name them which you’ll hear makes me DELIGHTED! One thing you’ll notice is that ALL three women talk about the shared humanity among the participants and how much the group dynamic alone was a big part of the process in a positive way. We’re currently accepting applications for the next round of The Mentorship Masterclass, you can read all about it here and apply. We’d love to chat to see if it’s a fit for you.http://yourkickasslife.com/323  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have another Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People for you. This week my friend, Nicole Whiting, joins me to talk about some of the life lessons we’ve learned from challenging times (including divorce, suicide, and love addiction). By the way, Nicole is my lead facilitator for the next iteration of Mentorship Masterclass! I met Nicole last year and we became fast friends. During a road trip together, we opened up about some of our deepest, darkest secrets. Yeah, just your usual road trip conversational fare, right? 👀 After that conversation with Nicole, I realized just how much she has been through and what an incredible human she is, now on the other side of it. So I thought she would be the perfect person to join me for a conversation about shit that matters, in this case, about the complexities of life.  In this episode you’ll hear: Andrea shares her personal story of heartbreak, infidelity, and divorce and how she got through it (4:49) The traumatic event that changed the entire trajectory of Nicole’s life, and how she thought she had healed until she actually started doing the work (12:17) When Andrea’s self-work started, following her massive love addiction and finding her worth in relationships (21:02) Nicole’s experience with people-pleasing behaviors and finally deciding to take a stand and heal (26:07) Shit still happens to life coaches, so it is important to commit to grievances, practice resilience, and use the tools you have; all things we cover in The Mentorship (39:59) http://yourkickasslife.com/322  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week on the podcast I turned the mic on after a moment of feeling inspired and riffed for about 30 minutes or so about the fear of shining too bright. Every once in a while I feel like there’s a podcast episode I REALLY want you to hear, and this is one of them. Because I honest to goodness think we all struggle here. Our culture tells us not to shine too bright. Don’t draw too much attention to yourself, don’t brag, don’t take credit or praise or compliments, don’t take up too much space, don’t shine too much because you’ll make others uncomfortable and you’ll just look bad. Even if we don’t consciously think these things, these core beliefs can be embedded in our DNA. Our mothers and our mother’s mothers were taught this too. So, I break it down in the episode, plus give you some strategies to help you unlearn this and start shining. BECAUSE WE NEED MORE OF YOUR SHININESS. 🌟🔥🌟P.S. If this episode speaks to you, I invite you to check out The Mentorship. Our fear of outshining comes from deep-rooted shame, more specifically our desire to avoid shame. The Mentorship teaches you the steps of shame resilience, among many other tools to implement in your life to be the best version of yourself you can be.P. P. S. Podcast art this week is one of my favorite pictures of my daughter and me trying on hats. There she is in all her shiny glory. Multicolored skirt, striped leggings, and Hello Kitty cowboy boots.http://yourkickasslife.com/321  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jeanette LeBlanc is back on the YKAL podcast! She is the author of You Are Not Too Much: Love Notes of Heartache, Redemption, and Reclamation. Through her work, her writing, and today’s conversation, she offers a different take on how to reclaim your wants, needs, and desires. (We’re doing a GIVEAWAY of Jeanette’s book, so make sure you listen to know how to win a copy!)Women often will put up with suffering or bullshit before deciding to walk away from a crappy situation. It takes a wild amount of courage to step into a life transition. Jeanette believes, “Sometimes our stories are the only things that can save us.”In this episode, we talk about acknowledging (and honoring) our deep revelations and having the willingness to step into them with radical honesty. Of course, there may be circumstances where you can’t step into your truth and Jeanette shares how her work gives voice to those who are unable to speak out. In this episode, you’ll hear: Jeanette’s desire to be in a place of truth and transparency and her journey to get there (5:00) Sharing your truth for the first time is the first and most important step (14:03) Why it is important to acknowledge there is risk to speak your truth and why Jeanette sees her work as the voice for those who can’t (21:00) Jeanette shares an alter ego exercise to help you step into your truest self (31:16) http://yourkickasslife.com/320  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I have another coaching episode for you, on the topic of money. A few months ago Melanie joined me for a two-part coaching session on money and self-worth. But, the topic of money varies widely, from person to person. In fact, the topic of money is always nuanced and deeply personal. In this episode, Erica, who was in my signature program, Mentorship Masterclass, joins me to talk about her beliefs about money. I have a feeling many will relate to what she has to say about how she feels about money and how she wants to change her mindset about it. In this episode you’ll hear: Erica shares her issues with limiting beliefs around money, as well as her shopping and spending habits (7:00) Redirecting your thoughts and feelings about money (10:00) Some of the stories we make up about people whose finances appear to be in tip-top shape (13:20) We explore the question, “What if having the urge to spend is actually okay?” (19:00) Accepting the process, understanding behaviors and realizing that personal development work is almost never linear (27:00) A kick-ass update from Erica about shifting her beliefs around money, complete with a photo of her money crown project (see below)! (43:35) http://yourkickasslife.com/319  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I welcome Dr. Valerie Rein to the YKAL podcast. Dr. Valerie discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the collective, inherited trauma of oppression. She is also the author of Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment.  I met Dr. Valerie at an event late last year. I serendipitously sat at her table and as she was talking about her work and her book, I was enamored. In fact, I invited her onto the podcast on the spot. Her work is important, interesting, and backed by science.When it comes to the patriarchy, as women, there is a deeper issue going on then the blame game. We are not going to heal by pointing fingers. My conversation with Dr. Valerie is just one step of many that will help move women towards healing from the patriarchy. In this episode you’ll hear: How Dr. Valerie discovered PSD and how her search began with asking the question, “What is wrong with me?” (5:00) Oppression is traumatic and it is deep in our DNA (10:04) Patriarchy does not equal men and men do not equal patriarchy, patriarchy is a system that has been oppressive and disempowering to women (14:00) PSD is the invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment and trauma defenses: mind, body, and action (15:00) Some of the symptoms or circumstances of PSD (and yes, we all have it) (19:00) Dr. Valerie’s message to men and how to bring them into the conversation and still take care of ourselves (32:06) http://yourkickasslife.com/318  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

At the end of 2019, Facebook memories told me I posted this 10 years ago...I found it so interesting that I’d posted this (I don’t at all remember what was going on that day), as the decade that was approaching did end up being a decade of tremendous change for me. Seeing this prompted me to think about the entire decade and do a “decade in review”. I thought I would share it with you in hopes that you see some of yourself in this and gain some insight from some of my own life lessons. In the episode, I start with January 2010, when I had a 2-year-old and a 4-month-old, was finishing up my life coaching certification hours, and blogging under liveyourideallife.com. There were two moves across the United States, two book deals, sobriety, discovering our son had special needs, playing roller derby, my dad dying, and more. You’ll hear about the thing that truly threw me for a loop, and prompted a withdrawal and what that looked like for me. Ending the decade with an offer I couldn’t refuse. I close the episode with some life lessons I’ve learned on being a working mom, aging, and what it means to be happy. I hope you tune in and do your own decade in review! Lastly, applications are opening in February for the Mentorship Masterclass, my signature program. Head over to get on the list to be the first to be notified.  http://yourkickasslife.com/317  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s been a minute since I brought you an episode of Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. If you’ve been hanging on to the edge of your seat waiting for the next one to appear in your podcast feed, well, today is your lucky day. Conversations About Shit That Matters is back! If you are new to this series, it features candid conversations with my real-life friends about stuff that happens in everyday life. This is not an episode that offers expert advice, tools or tips. Instead, my friends (who may be experts in other fields) and I come on to talk, explore, and share about specific topics affecting our lives and the world in which we live. This week, returning guest Kate Anthony joins me to talk about anxiety and depression. We’ve both struggled with anxiety, and Kate with depression. In this episode, we share our experiences and how we navigate these challenges in our own lives. We do also share some of the strategies we employ in our own self-care regimens. But please note, we are not licensed professionals around this topic. I really hope you enjoy this conversation! In this episode you’ll hear: Our experiences with anxiety in childhood and our teen years (7:16) Kate shares her experience with depression and about when her depression and anxiety began to manifest (23:00) My story about how I was diagnosed with severe generalized anxiety disorder and how I felt so betrayed by my own body (25:00) Anxiety and depression medication that helped us and some of the side effects we had (27:00) Our self-care practices and strategies for navigating anxiety and depression (36:01) http://yourkickasslife.com/316  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week I sent out an email telling you all that January 2nd was the second birthday for How to Stop Feeling Like Shit. Over 170,000 copies sold and more than half of those are the audiobook version. It fills my heart with immense gratitude knowing that so many of you have read or listened to HTSFLS. In this podcast episode, I go over what shame has to do with all of the 14 habits I write about in the book. From Isolating and numbing out, to perfectionism and overachieving, it all has to do with shame. I go on to talk more specifically about some in regards to all the habits. In talking about this book for the last two years, I heard which behaviors resonated the most with all of you. Tune in to the episode to see which ones! The thing is, the real work happens when we take action. Reading books and listening to podcasts is fantastic, and the thing that’s going to allow you to have the most momentum and see the biggest results is when you take what you read or listen to and integrate it into your life. As I mention in the episode, as a gift you, you can download the PDF version of all the “hard questions” from the chapters in HTSFLS below. Resources mentioned in this episode:How To Stop Feeling Like Shit Episode 312: Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening with Jessica Graham Listen and Subscribe to Not Another Self-Help Podcasthttp://yourkickasslife.com/315  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices