Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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Apr 1, 2025 • 58min

S20E9: Can You Be UnDateable? w/ Ryan Keely

This is a question we often get but we never thought we'd get it from America's favorite stepmom aka porn star Ryan Keely (who you may even recognize from Eminem's Houdini music video). But this shows you that ANYONE can feel this way! We're diving into what makes people feel undateable, the impacts of being oversexualized (or undersexualized), and the actual thing that does limit your dating options (and nope, it's probably the thing you're thinking it is).Follow Ryan @ryankeelytm and check out her podcast 'I Seduce The Dragon' wherever you listen.Want to be more Dateable? Get our book + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 30, 2025 • 37min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About NOT Dating Multiple People At Once, Speed Dating & The Ultimate Way To Let Someone Down

This weeks's brunch talk has us all hopped up as we chat about surprising results from our archetypes quiz that are counter to how we all *think* people are dating, plus the ultimate way to say you're not interested in someone. Not going to lie, this may have been one of our favorite brunchtalks in awhile as we were doing it live (and maybe sound like we've had a bottle of champagne or two, but swear we are completely sober.) You'll learn something, you'll laugh, maybe even question when someone says there's something up with their stomach...enjoy! TW: There is mention of bowel movements Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 25, 2025 • 1h

S20E8: Love Factually w/ Dr. Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel

We're back with the guest of our #1 most listened to episode and this time with his mentor for more insights...more science...and more facts – that you can all apply to your love lives. We're chatting with Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkle, professors at UC Davis & Northwestern, about what romcoms get right (and wrong) about finding love, the myths of relationships we've been told to believe, and how to reevaluate societal expectations around compatibility.Check out their podcast 'Love Factually'. For more info on Eli, visit: https://elifinkel.com/. To learn more about Paul: https://pauleastwick.com/To listen to our #1 most listened episode with Paul, search for The Science of Attraction.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 23, 2025 • 28min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About Surprise Run-Ins with Dateable Listeners, The Actual Definition of Dating Intentionally & Saying Goodbye to The Wrong People

With all the buzz about dating intentionally...what does it even mean? Because we've seen some definitions that aren't helping – and may actually be limiting us – in the way we think about putting our best foot forward when dating. We talk about surprise run-ins with Dateable listeners, if it's even possible to use dating apps intentionally, and why it may be more intentional to get rid of people who you know AREN'T the real deal instead of try to set up intentional boundaries with them. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 18, 2025 • 41min

S20E7: Assessing Your Relationship Readiness (And Of Those You Date)

How ready are you for a relationship? Like truly ready? We're diving into what it means to actually be ready for a real, long-term committed relationship – and how you can spot if someone else is too. We're discussing the signs of relationship readiness, the red flags to watch out for, and how you can find out your relationship readiness score to become more relationship ready.Take the Relationship Readiness Assessment: https://www.dateablepodcast.com/relationship-readinessAnd of course, the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 16, 2025 • 32min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About Our Biggest Fears In a Relationship, How Many People To Date at Once, And What To Do When You're Unsure About Someone

There's so much to unpack this week as we chat about everything from air fryers to Mark Zuckerberg's mid-life crisis. But most importantly, it brings us to the age old question: how many people should you date at once? And when is it better to date one at a time versus multiple people. We're going in deep as we dissect when to disclose you're sleeping with others, when to double down on someone versus playing the field, and what to do when you're still unsure and feeling lukewarm about someone. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 11, 2025 • 58min

S20E6: How To Love Better w/ Yung Pueblo

You’ve probably seen his quotes all over the internet or maybe read one of his many bestselling books but we have the man behind it all Diego Perez aka Yung Pueblo here to share how to love better and treat love like the skill it truly is. We're discussing the three green flags to look out for in a relationship, why attachment is the greatest enemy of love, and how to lean into the growth that inevitably comes through any type of relationship – no matter how long or serious it may be. Learn more about Diego at @yungpueblo, go get his book 'How to Love Better: The Path To Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness & Compassion, and visit his website: https://yungpueblo.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 9, 2025 • 30min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About Bachelorettes, The 12 Stages of Dating Burnout, and The One Term We Will Never Use Again

We're back together chatting about a relevant topic: burnout. Whether it's from dating or just life in general, we're discussing the stages of burnout and how we can minimize going over stage 4 and not having toxic hope, but actual hope, throughout the dating process. We're also chatting about bachelorette parties, wedding dress hacks, the definition of a term that will be banned from our vocab, and so much more! Enjoy. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 7, 2025 • 4min

Quickie w/ Julie: The Magic of The Middle

It's so hard to not be focused on the milestones, but Julie had a reality check recently that she wanted to share on this quickie with you. Because as Dr. Laurie Santos discussed in this week's episode the arrival fallacy is exactly that – a fallacy. And the reality is that we're never out of the middle (even if we've hit said milestones), so do we not just embrace the middle, but truly enjoy it. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 4, 2025 • 1h 2min

S20E5: The Science of Happiness (In Relationships) w/ Dr. Laurie Santos

Do relationships make us happy? If so, why are unmarried and childless women the most happy cohort of people out there? Because happiness is more than milestones as we chat with Dr. Laurie Santos about the complexities and common misperceptions when it comes to our overall well-being. And that's certainly not to say social connection and relationships aren't important! We'll dive into the U-shaped happiness curve, the way to enhance personal happiness while dating, and how to shift your focus to nurture your overall well being regardless of your relationship status.Learn more about Laurie at @lauriesantosofficial, check out her podcast 'The Happiness Lab' wherever you listen to podcasts, and visit her website: https://www.drlauriesantos.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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