
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

Oct 27, 2024 • 16min
#brunchtalk: When The Consistency Stops...
They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing one of the most common dating dilemmas: inconsistency. We're discussing the reasons behind this behavior, why we have to communicate our needs and expectations effectively, and how to establish standards that help you find the right person.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 25, 2024 • 10min
Quickie w/ Julie: The Case for Underthinking (In Dating)
What if there were benefits of underthinking in dating and relationships? Yup, you heard us right. Julie's sharing a low light from her trip to Italy and how the anxiety and overthinking started to creep in related to her relationship. And also how overthinking has caused issues in the past and why thinking a little less can actually be of greater service to us all. Don't worry, we're never advocating for not thinking dating and relationships through; but more about how we don't get in our own ways. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 22, 2024 • 1h 9min
S19E9: Harnessing Your Dreams (For Dating) w/ Charlie Morley
Could your subconscious actually be the missing ingredient for your love life? We're diving into everything from lucid dreaming to dream interpretation as talk with expert Charlie Morley about how we can use our dreams for insight and discovery into our love lives. We're discussing how much introspection can happen in our subconscious state, the best ways to start understanding your dreams, and how to use this information to understand your desires, fears, and anxieties holding you back.To learn more about Charlie, follow him @charlie_morley_lucid_dreaming and visit his website https://www.charliemorley.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 20, 2024 • 16min
#brunchtalk: Do Breakups Reveal Someone's True Character?
When you have a not so cordial breakup and you start seeing different sides of the person you dated...is this their true self coming through or just a response to the pain they're going through? And have you ever experienced a side of yourself that you didn't recognize? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing why breakups reveal underlying issues that were previously hidden, how breakups serve for personal growth, and the deeper meaning behind some of the actions that may happen in the midst of this difficult time with heightened emotions. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 15, 2024 • 1h 6min
S19E8: I Do (I Think) w/ Allison Raskin
With marriage rates on the decline....do people still want to get married? And why does it still hold the significance it does? We're joined by Allison Raskin, who just published a book digging all the complexities of modern day marriage, inspired from her experience overcoming a broken engagement to tying to knot with her now-husband. We're chatting about the societal expectations and importance of marriage today, how to make the leap of faith a little less scary, and what to do when you and your partner aren't on the same page (or timeline) about marriage.To learn more about Allison, follow her @allisonraskin, visit her website https://www.allisonraskin.com/, and check out her book 'I do (I think).'Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.Thank you to our sponsor Wildgrain! Get $30 off the first box of frozen baked goods - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/DATEABLE to start your subscription.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 13, 2024 • 15min
#brunchtalk: What's The Expectation Of A First Date In Your 30s?
Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, it's hard to know the expectation of a first date anymore....especially when you reach your 30s and people are looking for something more serious. We're breaking down the difference between self-imposed pressure and the organic evolution when dating, how to balance fun and deep conversations, and ways to make your intentions more known to be seen as a serious prospect – even if you want to keep the first couple dates relatively chill. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 10, 2024 • 10min
Quickie w/ Yue: What You Have In Common Doesn't Really Matter
We tend to be so focused on commonalities when dating...but what if that wasn't actually what mattered in finding a compatible partner? Yue's breaking down why focusing so much on shared interests can lead to a false sense of connection and what's more important to look out for. Also she's sharing her newfound love of quickies – from this type of episode to you know, the real deal. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 8, 2024 • 49min
S19E7: The Expectation of Love On Demand
Why do we expect everything to happen so damn fast when dating? From the need to feel that instant chemistry to freaking out if someone doesn't text back within 20 minutes, this need for speed is one of the biggest traps holding us back. We're discussing the reasons this mentality sets us up for failure, how to reduce the need to fast-track to the end, and why slowing down a bit can actually make the whole dating process a heck more enjoyable.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 6, 2024 • 15min
#brunchtalk: How Do You Interpret The Combo of Looking for "Fun and Serious"?
Anyone else seen this phenomenon where people on dating apps are checking that they're looking for something fun/casual and also serious/long term? So which one is it? Or does it need to be an either or? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to have conversations to clarify someone's intentions, how to not get so hung up on reading between the lines on someone's profile, and ways you can better understand someone's desires and motivations.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 1, 2024 • 1h 13min
S19E6: The Secret To Attraction w/ Mat Boggs
We're not talking about what to wear or how to look, but rather how to elude that contagious energy that just attracts someone to you. And what better expert than Mat Boggs, who shares his own turning point and all the knowledge he's gained in his 20+ years of dating coaching. We're discussing the turn offs and turn ons that either kill attraction or spark it, how to understand what type of vibe you're sending on a date, and ways you can build attraction not just in the early stages – but for a lifetime.To learn more about Mat, visit https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/ and check out his YouTube channel @MatBoggsFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy