
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

Sep 29, 2024 • 15min
#brunchtalk: Can Someone Be Too Interested?
Sure you want someone interested but can they be too interested? Or has anyone every told you that you come off too eager? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the perception of interest in dating, how to move forward if someone shares this type of feedback with you, and ways that you can evaluate your own approach to dating based on how you evaluate interest levels. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 26, 2024 • 8min
Quickie w/ Julie: A Letter To Your Ex
What's better than coming across letters you wrote to your ex(s) years later? Julie's diving into how this practice has helped her process the past so she can move forward. No, you don't need to send the actual letter (in fact, it's recommended you do not). And yes, this absolutely will give you the closure and clarity you need. And one day, you'll be able to see how far you've come and how none of this was time wasted. If you're looking for a dose of optimism and tactical tips, tune in for this one. Plus she'll share a bit from the letters on air.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 24, 2024 • 1h 11min
S19E5: Date Like A Feminist w/ Lily Womble
If dating like a feminist means embracing your desires while also valuing independence and equality....then sign us up! Whether you identify as a woman or not, this is a must-listen discussion with the incredible Lily Womble about breaking dumb dating rules and shifting the current societal expectations filled with shame and pressure. We're discussing all the ways the patriarchy has messed with our love lives for both women AND men, why you should actually be MORE picky, and how to create joyful AF dating experiences.To learn more about Lily, visit https://www.datebrazen.com/ and follow her on instagram @datebrazen. Make sure to check out her book 'Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love."Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 22, 2024 • 18min
#brunchtalk: Should You Wait Or Let Them Go?
What happens when someone wants to date you (or even be in a relationship!) yet there's something going in their personal lives that's preventing you from being together? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to navigate this tricky situation, when it's more of an external factor keeping your relationship from progressing. We discuss the pros/cons of waiting for someone to get their sh*t together, how to reframe the situation to focus on your prioritizing your own needs, and ways to let someone go (even if it's incredibly difficult!) to find the person that's ready and able. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 17, 2024 • 60min
S19E4: We're in a F*cking Love Crisis (And How We Get Out)
With the feeling that dating is harder than ever before and people outright giving up on love, we believe we're in a love crisis. But what does that even mean? And better yet, what do we do about it? Have no fear, as we're discussing the 5 most prominent – and some surprising– cultural shifts that got us to where we are today, why daters are feeling an increased sense of disillusionment around dating (nope, you're not alone!), and some actions you can take today to rise above the current state of modern dating.Related Episodes:The Reason You Don't Need To Be Good At DatingThe Paradoxes Of Modern DatingFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 15, 2024 • 17min
#brunchtalk: How To Be Taken More Seriously When Dating
If you feel like you've been falling into the friend zone, or looked as someone more 'casual' yet you want something real, we're breaking down why people may not be taking you as seriously when dating. In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the impressions formed quickly when dating, ways to take stock of the vibe you may be putting off, and how to show a more 360 picture of your personality, story, and what you're looking for. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 13, 2024 • 11min
Quickie w/ Yue: What I Learned About The First 6 Months of A Relationship + Updates On My 'New" Relationship
You've heard the theories about the first 6 months of a relationship and how it's a marker if the relationship will last. Yue's breaking down what she's learned about the 6 month period – what typically happens and how she's doing things differently this time around. Also, she's sharing some updates about her 'new' relationship after crossing that 6 month barrier and what's unfolded in that time.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Sep 10, 2024 • 58min
S19E3: How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind w/ Todd Baratz
If you're looking for a raw, real, non-sugar coated look into dating and relationships, we got you. We're chatting with Todd Baratz – therapist, author, eharmony relationship expert, and IG account you're probably already following – about why you will lose your mind when it comes to love (and how this is totally normal). We're discussing the reality of relationships, a different way to evaluate if you're with the right person, and why the question is no longer 'should you stay or should you go' (and what it is instead!).Other similar episodes:The Truth About RelationshipsTo learn more about Todd, visit https://www.toddsbaratz.com/ and follow him on instagram @yourdiagnonsenseFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 8, 2024 • 19min
#brunchtalk: Is It Love Or Infatuation?
When you just start dating someone and you really, really, REALLY like them, it may even feel like love...but is it? And what happens when one of you says those three big words early on....did you actually mean it? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to differentiate between love and infatuation, ways to navigate these conversations, and why it's more important at the start of the relationship to focus on the bigger picture of building connection and less on the time or labeling of love. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 3, 2024 • 1h 7min
S19E2: Healing From Relationship Pauses & The No Man Diet w/ Kylie McBeath
If you're feeling stuck in dating or your relationship, maybe the solution is a....no man diet. Wha? We're chatting with Kylie McBeath about how despite having an incredible partner (ahem Mark Groves who we talked to last season), there was something standing in her way of moving forward with him– so much that it caused her to end the relationship and enlist in a no man diet to get to the root of her dependency on men. We're discussing how taking an intentional pause can give you the necessary clarity, why there's so much more to avoidant tendencies than meets the eye, and ways to feel more secure so you can finally be all in (like Kylie was eventually able to do with Mark!)Creating a Relationship 2.0 w/ Mark GrovesHealing Your Dating WoundsFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy