
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

Nov 26, 2024 • 58min
S19E14: Recovering From Dating Burnout w/ Jemma Sbeg of The Psychology of Your 20s
Are you feeling a bit dating fatigued? Have no fear, with the holidays around the corner, it's the perfect time for a reset. And what better way than to hear us chat with Jemma about her dating detox and – how it led to a different approach when dating (which ultimately resulted in meeting her partner!). We're discussing the 12 stages of dating burnout, the need to take breaks from dating, and how you can bounce back stronger than ever before. Follow Jemma @thatpsychologypodcast and listen to 'The Psychology of your 20s' wherever you get your podcasts.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 24, 2024 • 21min
Special Edition Pre-Thanksgiving #brunchtalk: Are You Seeing Anyone Special + Other Awkward Thanksgiving Questions:
With Thanksgiving right around the corner, it can be the most joyful...and stressful time of year. Not everyone wants enjoy their turkey dinner with questions about your relationship status! But have no fear, we're going to break down some of the most frustrating questions that can come your way over the holiday season – whether you're single AF, in a new relationship, or headed towards marriage (and beyond). And also share a reminder of where this is coming from and how to embrace the holiday season with a mentality of abundance and love. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 21, 2024 • 11min
Quickie w/ Yue: Dating Shouldn't Be This Hard
We're meant to do life with other people. So then, why is dating so damn hard? Yue's sharing why dating feels so difficult these days – and how we can start to shift our mindset to think about things differently. Because being with another human you love is natural, yet dating is not. And it's about time we change how we approach it altogether. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 19, 2024 • 48min
S19E13: The Validation Trap
There's so much pressure when dating....so much that dating becomes more about measuring up than actually finding the right partner. We're diving into one of the biggest things that got in our way – and that we see stifle so many of you too – when we let dating define our worth and make it a lot more personal than it actually is. We're discussing the mindset of being the chooser vs. being chosen, how our ego can overtake love, and ways to make the shift from needing someone to wanting to be with someone. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Nov 17, 2024 • 14min
#brunchtalk: Are A Couple Of White Lies A Deal Breaker?
So you told a couple of white lies. Or the person you're dating did. Is this ground for the budding relationship to be over? In this week's brunchtalk, we're discussing what happens when white lies accumulate and lead to trust issues – and what you can do about it. We're discussing looking beyond the lie to why it's being told, how to learn from past mistakes to move forward, and why it's important to reflect on the impact of our words. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 12, 2024 • 1h 5min
S19E12: Decoding Dating & Human Connection w/ Jeremy Hurewitz
Curious about how to read people better and understand their behavior when dating? Want to build deeper connections with more trust and EQ? We have a very interesting convo this week with espionage expert, Jeremy Hurewitz who shares how his work with real-life spies relates to dating, building relationships and understanding each other. We're diving into it all from understanding verbal and non-verbal cues, why emotional intelligence is an absolute necessity when dating, and ways to build more trust (even in the early stages of dating) to connect better with others.To learn more about Jeremy Hurewitz check out his book 'Sell Like a Spy' and website: https://www.selllikeaspy.net/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 10, 2024 • 16min
#brunchtalk: When They Won't Commit...
So you met someone awesome...but...they aren't ready to define the relationship or stop seeing other people. Do you wait? Date other people? Hold back sex or other intimacy? We're diving into how to handle one of the biggest challenges in dating – when one person is ready to have a relationship and the other isn't quite there We're discussing why it's essential take what people say at face value when dating, how to move forward with clarity and purpose, and ways to prioritize your needs so you don't settle. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 5, 2024 • 1h 18min
S19E11: Cultivating Compersion (In Dating) w/ Dr. Marie Thouin
We don't know about you, but we could use a big ol' break from all the politics. So it's the perfect timing to introduce the concept of compersion (i.e our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others) as we chat with Dr. Marie Thouin, an expert in the topic. We're discussing how compersion can operate in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, why jealousy and possessiveness don't have to be the conditioned response, and ways you can invite more joy into your dating life. Plus, we give updates on our trips to Italy + Mexico City in an extended intro.To learn more about Dr Marie Thouin follow her @drnariethouin and visit her website whatiscompersion.com and order her book 'What is Compersion?' today!Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 3, 2024 • 17min
#brunchtalk: Are They Breadcrumbing You?
You're with someone...but they aren't quite making you a priority and giving you the attention you desire Should you cut out or is there a way to get more? In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing what it means when you feel like you're getting crumbs instead of the whole damn pie –whether you've defined the relationship or not. We're discussing how to make specific asks to ensure your needs are met, why you can use this info to ultimately evaluate your compatibility, and ways to determine if it's time to move on. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 29, 2024 • 51min
S19E10: The Settling Paradox
We're so afraid of settling yet we settle for....situationships? We're chatting today about the difference of being picky and having standards – from the characteristics of the person we're dating to how they treat us. We're discussing where the fear of settling is rooted from, how our dating culture impacts our expectations (both in a good and bad way!) and why it is possible to find that one in a million partner without sacrificing yourself and needs in the process.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy