Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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Apr 22, 2025 • 55min

S2012: The Only 7 Things That Matter (When Choosing a Partner)

We're back with a topic that's near and dear to our hearts: how to know if the person you're dating is right for you. We're giving you the ultimate gut-check so you know who to keep investing more time and energy into – and when to cut someone loose. We're discussing the only 7 things that matter when evaluating a partner, what to do when if someone isn't measuring up, and how you can use this not just during early dating but through all stages of your love life. Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Apr 20, 2025 • 38min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About AI Girlfriends, Foolproof Ways to Ask Someone Out & How To Get Set Up By Your Friends

We got a meaty one for you today....as we're talk about the best (and WORST) ways to ask someone out, the system to rejection-proof yourself, and how to get your friends to play matchmaker (that goes beyond, you're both single, you should meet). We're also recapping some of our 'How to Be Dateable' book events from last week with some of the popular questions asked, balancing alcohol consumption on dates, and why the last thing anyone needs is an AI girlfriend. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Apr 15, 2025 • 58min

S2011: Let's Get Vulnerable w/ Dr. Morgan Anderson

Who else is ready to heal their relational trauma, become securely attached, and attract their available dream partner? We're feeling inspired by the convo we had with Dr. Morgan Anderson about how she did just that – and how she had get vulnerable in the process. We're discussing the anxious or avoidant patterns that protects us from vulnerability, how to share your needs and boundaries in a way that actually brings someone closer, and why it's time for everyone to learn the true definition of vulnerability and show their v-card!TW: We discuss domestic abuse briefly Follow Dr Morgan @drmorgancoaching, listen to her podcast 'Let's Get Vulnerable' wherever you listen to podcasts, and check out her site: https://drmorgancoaching.com/Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Apr 13, 2025 • 26min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About Opting Out of Situationships, Reasons People Won't Commit, and The Sales Technique To Get What You Want

Can we all make a pact? Can we just opt out of situationships as it seems like a lot of people are starting to do? We're discussing why situationships happen, why people won't commit, and how they actually destroy our self-esteem causing small cuts of rejection over and over (instead of just getting our answer or ripping that bandaid off!) Whether you're currently in a situationship or avoiding them like the plague, this #brunchtalk will leave you inspired to ask for more out of your love life. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Apr 8, 2025 • 1h 3min

S2010: No Contact & The Key To Moving On From A Breakup w/ Cole Zesiger

We’re talking breakups…but more importantly how to move forward, and not only reclaim your life…but live an even better one. And we are joined with our fantastic guest Cole Zesiger who has been through it himself – only to come out stronger, coach others, and meet the love of his life (his now wife). We're discussing the do's and don't of no contact, ways to spot if someone may not really be ready for a relationship (and break your heart later on), and how to know when it's time to move forward or try again with your ex.Follow Cole @coachcolezesiger and check out his site: https://colezesiger.com/If you're interested in the 30 Day Breakup Recovery Guide we mention in the episode, go to dateablepodcast.com/programsGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Apr 6, 2025 • 30min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About The White Lotus Dating Archetypes, Hooking Up With Your Friends Crush, and The Most Humiliating Thing To Happen Post Sex

If you're anything like us, we've been obsessed with The White Lotus as we head into the big finale. So much that we've decided to analyze the relationship patterns of all the major characters....with our dating archetypes of course! We also talk about girl (or guy) code around hooking up with someone your friend was kind of into or you suggested they get with (i.e the Jaclyn to Laurie saga) and what's right/wrong/or can be read to interpret differently. And of course when you do actually hook up with the guy and immediately after you're like WTF..enjoy!FYI: May be some spoilers on The White Lotus if you aren't up to date (before the season finale)Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Apr 1, 2025 • 58min

S20E9: Can You Be UnDateable? w/ Ryan Keely

This is a question we often get but we never thought we'd get it from America's favorite stepmom aka porn star Ryan Keely (who you may even recognize from Eminem's Houdini music video). But this shows you that ANYONE can feel this way! We're diving into what makes people feel undateable, the impacts of being oversexualized (or undersexualized), and the actual thing that does limit your dating options (and nope, it's probably the thing you're thinking it is).Follow Ryan @ryankeelytm and check out her podcast 'I Seduce The Dragon' wherever you listen.Want to be more Dateable? Get our book + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 30, 2025 • 37min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About NOT Dating Multiple People At Once, Speed Dating & The Ultimate Way To Let Someone Down

This weeks's brunch talk has us all hopped up as we chat about surprising results from our archetypes quiz that are counter to how we all *think* people are dating, plus the ultimate way to say you're not interested in someone. Not going to lie, this may have been one of our favorite brunchtalks in awhile as we were doing it live (and maybe sound like we've had a bottle of champagne or two, but swear we are completely sober.) You'll learn something, you'll laugh, maybe even question when someone says there's something up with their stomach...enjoy! TW: There is mention of bowel movements Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 25, 2025 • 1h

S20E8: The Psychology of Relationships w/ Dr. Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel

We're back with the guest of our #1 most listened to episode and this time with his mentor for more insights...more science...and more facts – that you can all apply to your love lives. We're chatting with Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkle, professors at UC Davis & Northwestern, about what romcoms get right (and wrong) about finding love, the myths of relationships we've been told to believe, and how to reevaluate societal expectations around compatibility.Check out their podcast 'Love Factually'. For more info on Eli, visit: https://elifinkel.com/. To learn more about Paul: https://pauleastwick.com/To listen to our #1 most listened episode with Paul, search for The Science of Attraction.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 23, 2025 • 28min

#brunchtalk: Dishing About Surprise Run-Ins with Dateable Listeners, The Actual Definition of Dating Intentionally & Saying Goodbye to The Wrong People

With all the buzz about dating intentionally...what does it even mean? Because we've seen some definitions that aren't helping – and may actually be limiting us – in the way we think about putting our best foot forward when dating. We talk about surprise run-ins with Dateable listeners, if it's even possible to use dating apps intentionally, and why it may be more intentional to get rid of people who you know AREN'T the real deal instead of try to set up intentional boundaries with them. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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