
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Jul 14, 2021 • 1h 12min
BONUS: DTR to Diamond Rings w/Greg Behrendt & Kane Holloway of 'Don't Take Bullshit from Fuckers'
Don't take bullshit from fuckers...especially when it comes to commitment and defining the relationship. We're diving into when (and how) to have the big DTR talk and re-playing Yue's interview with comedians Kane Holloway & Greg Behrendt from DTBFF. We discuss girls making the first move, why one may turn away love for selfish reasons, and how an engagement ring turned into an epic fail.Listen to 'Don't Take Bullshit from Fuckers' and follow DTBFF, Greg, Kane, and Pat on Instagram @dtbffpodcast, @itsgreggers, @kaneholloway, and @dtbffproducerpat or your other favorite podcast playersFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Title Nine: Get $10 off and free shipping on orders over $100 by going to titlenine.com/dateableFeals: Become a member today by going to feals.com/dateable and get 50% off your first order with free shippingCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 7, 2021 • 1h 25min
BONUS: Are you ready for a Post-COVID Dating Tsunami? w/ Kimmy Seltzer
We're diving into the good, the bad, and the ugly of dating over the last year...and boy do we have a lot to say. We're chatting with dating coach Kimmy Seltzer about all the techniques we'll preserve (and ditch) in a post-pandemic world. We discuss how to successfully intertwine your virtual and real worlds, managing expectations when you do meet IRL, and how to nip that FODA in the butt to live your best post-pandemic life.Follow Kimmy at @kimmyseltzer and listen to the Charisma Quotient on Apple Podcasts or your other favorite podcast playersFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 30, 2021 • 1h 30min
BONUS: Identity & Intersectionality Across the Rainbow
Pride is SO much more than glitter and garments, so we're so excited to chat with Ryan & Matt and many special guests (Brian, Chris, Djorde, Victoria & Amy) about the true meaning of pride and the unique identity everyone holds. We discuss a utopian world where you no longer have to come out, some of the stereotypes that are either inaccurate or outdated, and what it means to be your authentic self. And socks. We'll just leave it at that. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Z-Man Games: Check out Love Letter for $11.99 at Target, your local game store, or directly through Z-Man’s webstore. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 23, 2021 • 1h 16min
S12E12: Single on Purpose w/ John Kim
So you're single...but are you single on purpose? And why do we stop working on ourselves once we get into a relationship? You're about to find out as we dive in with the angry therapist himself, John Kim, about how he realized post-divorce that the problem lied in his sense of self. We discuss building a fulfilling life beyond just loving someone, how to really masturdate, and why it's so damn important to cultivate your relationship with yourself whether you're single or not.Follow John @theangrytherapist and visit the https://www.theangrytherapist.com/ and read 'Single on Purpose' today!Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLETitle Nine: Get $10 off and free shipping on orders over $100 by going to titlenine.com/dateableProse: Get 15% off your first order of custom shampoo and conditioner by going to prose.com/dateableZ-Man Games: Check out Love Letter for $11.99 at Target, your local game store, or directly through Z-Man’s webstore. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 16, 2021 • 1h 21min
S12E19: Hacking Human Connection w/ Vanessa Van Edwards
We're about to crack the code as we chat with Vanessa Van Edwards about the science of people and how to optimize your behavior, interactions, and interpersonal intelligence as it pertains to dating. We discuss why PQ is just as essential as EQ & IQ, how to decode body language and facial expressions, and ways to connect instantly with people within the first 5 minutes of meeting.Follow @vvanedwards and learn more about Vanessa at https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ and also check out her book Captivate.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Kensington’s newest title UNDERCOVER DUKE by Sabrina Jeffries. You can find UNDERCOVER DUKE wherever books are sold or visit kensingtonbooks.comZ-Man Games: Check out Love Letter for $11.99 at Target, your local game store, or directly through Z-Man’s webstore. Rothy's: Check out all the amazing shoes, bags, and masks available right now at Rothys.com/DateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 9, 2021 • 1h 13min
S12E18 To Peg or Not to Peg? w/ Rachman Blake
Who doesn't love a little up the butt talk? We're chatting with the hilarious storytelling extraordinaire Rachman Blake about his experience with the sexual act of pegging and how it was everything he thought it would not be. We discuss how porn paints sexuality in a way that does not mimic reality, why cis men are so resistant to butt play, and how to ease into trying new sexual play. Warning: Def NSF but this episode will make you laugh, guaranteed.Follow @rachmanblake and @storypartytour. Learn more about Rachman and Story Party Tour at https://storyparty.co/ and watch his comedy on YoutubeFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEStory worth: Make this a great Father's day gift! Get started right away with no shipping and $10 off your first purchase: Storyworth.com/dateable Z-Man Games: Check out Love Letter for $11.99 at Target, your local game store, or directly through Z-Man’s webstore. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 2, 2021 • 1h 19min
S12E17: What's your Communication Style? w/ Sandy Weiner
The key to a healthy relationship is communication....but are you a healthy communicator? From the lion to the scorpion, we're diving into the 4 communication archetypes with Sandy Weiner and learning what it takes to communicate effectively in relationships. We discuss framing our needs in a non-aggressive way, why we struggle with the inevitable conflicts in a relationship, and how becoming a better communicator is totally a skill that can be learned.Learn more about Sandy at https://lastfirstdate.com/ and listen to Last First Date Radio on your favorite podcast player. Take this quiz to learn which of the communication archetypes you are: https://lastfirstdate.com/4-communication-archetypesFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Title Nine: Get $10 off and free shipping on orders over $100 by going to titlenine.com/dateableProse: Get 15% off your first order of custom shampoo and conditioner by going to prose.com/dateableZ-Man Games: Check out Love Letter for $11.99 at Target, your local game store, or directly through Z-Man’s webstore. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 26, 2021 • 1h 4min
S12E16: Healing your Dating Wounds
While it's tempting to blame the external stuff, oftentimes it's really the internal work that's holding us back. We're chatting this week with our 'Most Dateable' winner Brian all about how he's evolved over the last year mostly due to therapy. We discuss how the importance of getting to the bottom of our deep-rooted wounds, how we can take ownership of how we show up, and why vulnerability is so damn hard yet so damn important.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEZ-Man Games: Check out Love Letter for $11.99 at Target, your local game store, or directly through Z-Man’s webstore. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 19, 2021 • 1h 22min
S12E15: Slaying the Dating Apps w/ Dawoon Kang of Coffee Meets Bagel
From algorithms to getting more matches, we're chatting with the founder of Coffee Meets Bagel, Dawoon Kang, about everything you need to know to set yourself up for success on dating apps. We discuss how to maximize your matches, ways you can have a less frustrating experience, and why the best thing for business is to get you off the app.Follow Dawoon @dawoonkang and @coffeemeetsbagel and check out the CMB podcast, Save the Date on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast player.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Prose: Get 15% off your first order of custom shampoo and conditioner by going to prose.com/dateableZ-Man Games: Check out Love Letter for $11.99 at Target, your local game store, or directly through Z-Man’s webstore. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 12, 2021 • 1h 25min
S12E14: Your Story, Well Told w/ Corey Rosen
From date talk to the dreaded 'why are you still single' question, we're chatting with storytelling expert Corey Rosen about how to craft your story in a way that bonds you with others. We discuss how to be an engaging conversationalist on dates, techniques to help with active listening, and how to own your story to make you more DATEABLE!Learn more about Corey Rosen and get his book 'Your Story Well Told' https://www.coreyrosen.com/product-page/your-story-well-toldFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Rothy's: Check out all the amazing shoes, bags, and masks available right now at Rothys.com/DateableBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy