

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Nov 17, 2021 • 1h 9min
S13E14: What's Your Relationship with Porn? w/ Matt Sinkovitz
Whether you're into porn or you have a partner that is, we're chatting with Matt Sinkovitz about how his porn habits became compulsive and eventually led him to become a porn abstinence coach. We discuss how porn shapes our perception of sex, how porn addiction (and any addiction for that matter) can interfere with our relationships, and how people can reignite the passion in their actual relationships + marriages.Trigger Warning: There is a brief mention of thoughts of suicide when Matt shares his story.Learn more about Matt's work at https://www.facebook.com/groups/MakingPeaceWithPornFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEStory worth: Create a personalized gift perfect for the holidays! Get started right away with $10 off your first purchase: Storyworth.com/dateable Prose: Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order at prose.com/dateableIncipio: For 20% off your devices from phones to airpods to tablets, visit incipio.com and use the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 10, 2021 • 1h 16min
S13E13: Dating With A Disability w/ Tiffany Yu
From mental health to physical impairments, more of us are dating with disabilities than you may think. We're chatting with Tiffany Yu about her own experience and how she's overcome the shame and insecurity that spilled into her dating life. We discuss why we tend to hide certain aspects of ourselves whiled dating, how to navigate dating apps vs. more organic connections with these said "imperfections", and how we can all start to see each other (and ourselves) as the beautiful people we are.Learn more about Tiffany's work at https://www.tiffanyyu.com/ and https://mydiversability.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEIncipio: For 20% off your devices from phones to airpods to tablets, visit incipio.com and use the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 3, 2021 • 1h 20min
S13E12: Do Relationships Make You Happy? w/ Rob Mack
Maybe you've had the thought 'once I get in a relationship, then I'll be happy' or 'once I get married, THEN I'll be happy'. We're chatting with positive psychology expert and celebrity happiness coach Rob Mack about why we often look to relationships as our source of happiness, when this is something we can find from within. We discuss how we're wired for happiness, how to come out of situations that don't make us happy, and why it's more important to find someone who supports our happiness over becomes our happiness.Trigger Warning: There is a brief mention of thoughts of suicide when Rob shares his story.Follow Rob @robmackofficial and learn more about Rob at https://www.coachrobmack.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Kensington Books: Kensington’s newest title Dinner on Primrose Hill by Jodi Thomas. You can find Dinner on Primrose Hill wherever books are sold or visit kensingtonbooks.comFirstLeaf: Join today and get 6 bottles of wine for $29.95 and free shipping at tryfirstleaf.com/dateable and use the code DATEABLE.Incipio: For 20% off your devices from phones to airpods to tablets, visit incipio.com and use the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 27, 2021 • 1h 19min
S13E11: Astrology & Dating w/ Kristina Bakrevski
The stars are aligned and we're going wayyy beyond sun signs compatibility as we talk to Astrologer Kristina Bakrevski. We discuss the key characteristics of all the signs that play into how they show up in relationships, why our birth charts can help us understand our own relationship patterns more, and how to use astrology to strengthen your relationship (with others and yourself).Follow Kristina @Kristinabakrevski and check out her work at https://www.astrology.com/article/astrology-authors/kristina-bakrevskiFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Incipio: For 20% off your devices from phones to airpods to tablets, visit incipio.com and use the code DATEABLEBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 20, 2021 • 1h 13min
S13E10: The 80/80 Marriage w/ Nate & Kaley Klemp
Whether you're single AF or you've been living together for years, we're about to introduce you to a new model for happier, stronger relationships as we chat with Nate & Kaley Klemp. We discuss why the 50/50 model of equal relationships is flawed, how to navigate the transitions that inevitably happen from dating to a more committed relationship, and the necessary structural shifts that set your relationship up for success.Follow Nate & Kaley at @8080marriage and get their book 'The 80/80 Marriage' today: https://www.8080marriage.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Prose: Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order at prose.com/dateableHello Fresh: Hello Fresh: For 14 free meals from America's #1 meal kit (and free shipping) use the code DATEABLE14 at hellofresh.com/dateable14BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 13, 2021 • 1h 17min
S13E9: The Future is Pansexual
Whether you're pansexual, asexual, or just sexual, we're discussing identity as we chat with Genesis who went from identifying as a lesbian to marrying a straight man. We discuss normalizing phases in our identities, why gender roles have f*cked us with our sexuality, and how pansexuality is reshaping the next generation.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Incipio: For 20% off your devices from phones to airpods to tablets, visit incipio.com and use the code DATEABLEBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEDrizly: Use the code SPICE5 for $5 off your order of beer, wine or liquor by going to https://drizly.com or downloading the Drizly appCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 6, 2021 • 1h 20min
S13E8: He's Just Not That Into You w/ Greg Behrendt
Y'all remember those infamous 6 words in Sex in the City: He's just not that into you. But now we're chatting with the man who coined the phrase comedian Greg Behrendt about his no bullsh*t advice – and how it holds up 20 years later. We discuss why people hold onto situationships that aren't serving them, how to identify if someone isn't fully in, and the differences between real-life relationships and ones portrayed in Hollywood.Follow Greg at @itsgreggers and@dtbffpodcast and listen to Don't Take Bullshit From F*ckers on your favorite podcast playerFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Use the code SPICE5 for $5 off your order of beer, wine or liquor by going to https://drizly.com or downloading the Drizly appFirstLeaf: Join today and get 6 bottles of wine for $29.95 and free shipping at tryfirstleaf.com/dateable and use the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 29, 2021 • 1h 9min
S13E7: Let's F*cking Date w/ Serena F*cking Kerrigan
All hail! The queen of confidence, Serena F*cking Kerrigan is here to talk about why it's so important to be unapologetically in love with yourself - especially while you're dating. We discuss tips and tactics to gain confidence, what it means to make bold moves in your love life, and how to regain confidence when the inevitable setbacks occur when dating.Follow Serena at @serenakerrigan and check out the let's fucking date card game at https://letsfuckingdate.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Use the code SPICE5 for $5 off your order of beer, wine or liquor by going to https://drizly.com or downloading the Drizly appBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 22, 2021 • 1h 16min
S13E6: The Science of Attraction w/ Paul Eastwick
What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're talking with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at the UC Davis Attraction Lab about how people form and maintain relationships. We discuss how ideal partner preferences play into partner selection. why we often think we know what we want when we don't, and the secret of when attraction can build over time.Check out Paul's work at http://pauleastwick.com/ or @pauleastwick on Twitter.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Thrive Causemetics: For 15% off your first order visit https://thrivecausemetics.com/DATEABLEHello Fresh: Hello Fresh: For 14 free meals from America's #1 meal kit (and free shipping) use the code DATEABLE14 at hellofresh.com/dateable14Lugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/ with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 15, 2021 • 1h 28min
S13E5: The Game of Desire w/ Shan Boodram
What makes someone sexually desirable? We're digging into it all with certified sexologist Shan Boodram as we talk about keeping the desire alive at all stages of a relationship. We discuss what creates chemistry, how flirting is just communication with sparks, and what it means to embrace all the changes that come into your sex life.Follow Shan at @shanboody and check out Shan's work at https://www.shanboodram.com/ and get a copy of The Game of Desire today!Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Use the code SPICE5 for $5 off your order of beer, wine or liquor by going to https://drizly.com or downloading the Drizly appBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLELugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/ with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy