Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're talking with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at the UC Davis Attraction Lab about how people form and maintain relationships. We discuss how ideal partner preferences play into partner selection. why we often think we know what we want when we don't, and the secret of when attraction can build over time.Check out Paul's work at http://pauleastwick.com/ or @pauleastwick on Twitter.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Thrive Causemetics: For 15% off your first order visit https://thrivecausemetics.com/DATEABLEHello Fresh: Hello Fresh: For 14 free meals from America's #1 meal kit (and free shipping) use the code DATEABLE14 at hellofresh.com/dateable14Lugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/  with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What makes someone sexually desirable? We're digging into it all with certified sexologist Shan Boodram as we talk about keeping the desire alive at all stages of a relationship. We discuss what creates chemistry, how flirting is just communication with sparks, and what it means to embrace all the changes that come into your sex life.Follow Shan at @shanboody and check out Shan's work at https://www.shanboodram.com/ and get a copy of The Game of Desire today!Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Use the code SPICE5 for $5 off your order of beer, wine or liquor by going to https://drizly.com or downloading the Drizly appBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLELugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/  with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Whether you have an avoidant attachment style or are just too damn busy, you'll relate hard as we chat with Greg about how his 'always on the go' lifestyle was playing into his avoidant tendencies. We discuss how to balance having a fulfilling life with making room for another person, why just moving isn't the answer to your dating problems, and what the future of more remote nomadic living means for our love lives.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Kensington Books: Kensington’s newest title ONE LAST KISS by Kat Martin. You can find ONE LAST KISS wherever books are sold or visit kensingtonbooks.comLugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/  with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ever wonder why someone ghosted you? We're chatting with Kendra, a self-proclaimed serial ghoster about why she would ghost and how she was able to overcome it by breaking things off a respectable way. We discuss the reasons people ghost, why it's very rarely personal to the person being ghosted, and how to deal with bad dating behavior. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLELugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/  with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What happens when you get divorced during covid, start using apps for the first time, and do anything you can NOT to get into a relationship? Find out as we chat with comedian Kane Holloway about how he failed epically at being a f*ckboy and ended up dating the woman of his dreams. We discuss why the bare minimum has become socially acceptable when dating, how to be receptive to someone's moves when you may be out of the scene, and when to listen (and not listen) to your friend's advice when it comes to your love life.Follow Kane at @kaneholloway and @dtbffpodcast and listen to 'Don't Take Bullshit from Fuckers' on all your other favorite podcast playersFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Lugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/  with the code DATEABLEHello Fresh: For 14 free meals from America's #1 meal kit (and free shipping) use the code DATEABLE14 at hellofresh.com/dateable14Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oh.my.god, we're kicking off Season 13 with a bang as we chat with Emily Nagoski Ph.D., author of Come As You Are, about how to navigate all the ups and downs of our sex lives (based on science, of course). We're diving in about what makes us hit the gas pedal or breaks when wanting sex, what to do if you and your partner have different levels of sexual desire, and how to navigate our sex lives through all the stages of life (stressful times included).Follow Emily at @enagoski and check out Emily's work at https://www.emilynagoski.com/ and get a copy of Come As You Are today!Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEThrive Causemetics: For 15% off your first order visit https://thrivecausemetics.com/DATEABLELugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/  with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We thought it would be the roaring 20s but we're chatting about why everyone is experiencing FODA as we reair Julie's episode w/ Vanessa Richardson from California Groundbreakers & Paul Eastwick, professor of UC Davis's attraction lab. We discuss why people are feeling burnout from online dating, how pandemic relationships have different trajectories, and how to get out there and mix and mingle again (safely of course).Learn more about the California Ground Breakers https://www.californiagroundbreakers.org/ and listen to their podcast series 'This Changes Everything on all podcast playersFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Bachelor in Paradise: Catch an all-new season BACHELOR IN PARADISE PREMIERES MONDAY AT 8/7 CENTRAL ON ABC!Kensington Books: Check out OPEN YOUR HEART by Cheris Hodges by going to kensingtonbooks.com or wherever books are soldLugz: Get 30% Off Full-Priced footwear (Excludes Sale Section) at https://lugz.com/  with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are you seeing someone or dating? Dating or in a relationship? Why does it have to be so damn confusing? We're chatting with Sandy Weiner giving you an insider's look into modern dating and how that can help you have your last first date. We discuss the biggest struggles in dating this past year, the difference between ‘relationshipping’ and ‘relationshopping’, and how the three why's help you bust limiting beliefs.Learn more about Sandy at https://lastfirstdate.com/ and listen to Last First Date Radio on your favorite podcast player.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's harder to move matches to IRL dates more than ever but that doesn't mean we don't have tons of insider secrets to share as we reair our episode with the founder of Coffee Meets Bagel, Dawoon Kang on their podcast 'Save the Date' and talk about navigating everything from dating apps to dating fatigue. We discuss when it's time to move the app to text message, how to transition from texting to a phone or video call, and why it's essential to have conversations so we aren't so fixated on profiles.Follow Dawoon @dawoonkang and @coffeemeetsbagel and check out the CMB podcast, Save the Date on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast player.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Feals: Become a member today by going to feals.com/dateable and get 50% off your first order with free shippingCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hang tight...this is a BIG one. We're talking about everything from dick pics to if size matters and re-playing Julie's interview with comedians Kane Holloway & Greg Behrendt from DTBFF. We discuss tactics that work (or don't work) for taking the elusive pic, why your worst self is never your best self, and how it's never OK to send pics of your bedroom activities to your sister. Listen to 'Don't Take Bullshit from Fuckers' and follow DTBFF, Greg, Kane, and Pat on Instagram @dtbffpodcast, @itsgreggers, @kaneholloway, and @dtbffproducerpat or your other favorite podcast playersFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEThrive Causemetics: For 15% off your first order visit https://thrivecausemetics.com/DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy