
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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May 5, 2021 • 1h 26min
S12E13: Is it Love or Love Bombing? w/ Dr. Diane
When you're getting showered with gifts, attention or affection, we want to feel like it's the real deal. But how do you know that this isn't narcissistic behavior disguised as grand gestures? Have no fear, we're breaking down what love bombing really is with Dr. Diane aka Back to Love Doc. We discuss the signs to watch out for, how attachment style plays into the equation, and how to be smart but not skeptical when dating.Follow Dr. Diane @backtolovedoc and take her Love Styles quiz at https://backtolovedoc.com/love-styles/Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Prose: Get 15% off your first order of custom shampoo and conditioner by going to prose.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 28, 2021 • 1h 17min
S12E12: Dating Post-Pandemic Part 2
From video dates to finding love in the time of Corona, we're chatting with the rest of our community hosts Janis, Tony, Suanie, and Ryan about their post-pandemic plans and how they've evolved during the last year. We discuss becoming the person you want to date, bringing vulnerability into every dating interaction no matter how small or large, and putting all the self-work into finding someone who is right for you.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Betterhelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEFemtasy: Listen to your fantasies with over 500 audios exclusively for you and save 25% on our annual subscription with the code DATEABLE at Femtasy.comCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 21, 2021 • 1h 17min
S12E11: Dating Post-Pandemic Part 1
As you swipe through profiles with vax cards, we can feel the end starting to near. But how have we all changed from the last year? Join us as we chat with our community hosts Shieldy, Jason, Gisela, Brian, and Caitlin about their experiences dating in the pandemic and how they are emerging from it all. We discuss becoming so comfortable with ourselves that we attract the right partner, not feeling as alone even if you’re single, and embracing an open-minded attitude that truly makes you dateable.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Apostrophe: Get $15 off your first visit with a board-certified dermatologist with the code DATEABLE at apostrophe.com/dateableStory worth: Get started right away with no shipping and $10 off your first purchase: Storyworth.com/dateable Femtasy: Listen to your fantasies with over 500 audios exclusively for you and save 25% on our annual subscription with the code DATEABLE at Femtasy.comCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 14, 2021 • 1h 14min
S12E10: Is Marriage the Be All End All?
We have been told that marriage is the end game...maybe...but also maybe not. We're hearing from our guest Alice about exiting her marriage and never being happier. We discuss when it's time to stop trying to make a relationship work, rediscovering yourself and your sex life, and how to define your own rules when it comes to co-parenting and running your life.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Rothy's: Check out all the amazing shoes, bags, and masks available right now at Rothys.com/DateableBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEKensington’s newest title The Most Eligible Viscount in London by Ella Quinn. You can find The Most Eligible Viscount in London wherever books are sold or visit kensingtonbooks.comCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 7, 2021 • 1h 30min
S12E9: Make Dating Fun Again w/ Jeff Harry
We often hear 'dating is like a job' or 'dating sucks'....but it doesn't have to! We're chatting with positive psychology coach and play expert Jeff Harry about how to see dating as play and have more fun in the process. We discuss how shared experiences form deeper connections, why playful doesn’t have to mean surface level, and how anyone can turn on their playful side at a comfort level that works for you.Follow Jeff at @jeffharryplays and learn more about him at his website: https://www.rediscoveryourplay.comRead his article about how to see dating like play: https://jeffharryplays.medium.com/how-to-see-dating-as-play-7e8bf36c077cFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEApostrophe: Get $15 off your first visit with a board-certified dermatologist with the code DATEABLE at apostrophe.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 31, 2021 • 1h 13min
S12E8: The Etiquette of Modern Dating w/ Myka Meier
Who should pay on the first date? Is there ever a time where ghosting is OK? Is there a polite way to break-up? We're finding out as we dive into modern dating etiquette with an expert in the space, Myka Meier. We discuss why etiquette goes beyond just rules to follow, how changing gender dynamics challenge traditional roles, and some universal tips of how to bring your a-game while dating.Follow Myka @mykameier and check out her website: http://beaumontetiquette.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Gobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableKensington’s newest title COURAGE UNDER FIRE by Lindsay McKenna. You can find COURAGE UNDER FIRE wherever books are sold or visit kensingtonbooks.comCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 24, 2021 • 1h 9min
S12E7: Toxic Masculinity
Turns out the patriarchy isn't just harmful to women but also to freakin' men as we learn from talking to Joseph about his experience not fitting into 'bro culture' yet still falling victim to masculine values that ultimately hurt his relationships. We discuss why 'locker room' talk can be so problematic, the challenges that come with suppressing emotions and not asking for help, and how to redefine masculinity to become a better man.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Apostrophe: Get $15 off your first visit with a board-certified dermatologist with the code DATEABLE at apostrophe.com/dateableBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEGobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 17, 2021 • 1h 13min
S12E6: Dating Younger Men
We're talking age gaps – dating younger, dating older, and the perceptions that come with both. Join us as we chat with Lindsey about her experience dating guys with almost a 20 year age gap younger. We discuss the benefits and challenges that arise from dating someone much younger, why she finds terms like being a 'cougar' extremely problematic, and how we can be inspired to open our minds (and age filters) while dating.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Gobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableApostrophe: Get $15 off your first visit with a board-certified dermatologist with the code DATEABLE at apostrophe.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 10, 2021 • 1h 9min
S12E5: Is it the Right Person or the Right Time?
You all know that guy that's fiercely independent, has a revolving door of casual flings, and whose family and friends have determined will never settle down. Well, we're talking to Yue's friend Jesse who was just like this...until he wasn't. Join us as we hear from him and his now-wife Cassie about how they went from being in a totally uncommitted relationship to being married. We discuss what happens when that light goes off that you want something more substantial, the risks that you're willing to take for the right person, and how to be as full of an individual before finding your other half.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:CloudPaper: Get your environmentally friendly toilet paper for 15% off your first order use the code DATEABLE at https://cloudpaper.co/BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEGobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 3, 2021 • 1h 31min
S12E4: Dating Trauma w/ Janis Isaman
After all the ghosting, the breadcrumbing, the flaking – the one thing we don’t address is the trauma from it all. Join us as we chat with Janis Isaman about all the dating wounds we carry from years of being single and going on endless dates. We discuss why we're often expected to sweep this small t trauma under the rug, the anxiety that comes up in the early stages of dating, and how to not let these past setbacks get in the way of finding true love.Read Janis's writing on Elephant Journal and follow her work at https://www.mybodycouture.com/ and @janisisamanauthorFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:CloudPaper: Get your environmentally friendly toilet paper for 15% off your first order use the code DATEABLE at https://cloudpaper.co/Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy