Sex and Psychology Podcast

Shelby Devlin, a sex and intimacy coach, educator, author, and BDSM expert with 20+ years in the community, explores what makes someone truly good at kink. They discuss turning fantasies into real-life desires, communication before technique, negotiation, reading consent, pacing scenes, creativity, and aftercare for everyone involved.

Shelby Devlin, sex and intimacy coach, BDSM educator, and author of The Pleasure Protocol, explores what popular culture gets wrong about kink. They discuss skilled dominance, empowered submission, why independent people may crave surrender, and how BDSM can challenge gender roles. They also examine ethical power exchange, feminist values, and warning signs that kink is masking abuse.

Shafia Zaloom, a sexuality educator and author of Getting Real About Sex Ed, explores why talking about sex can feel more vulnerable than having it. She discusses becoming an “askable” partner, building trust through curiosity and empathy, treating sexual communication as shared discovery, and moving beyond binary ideas of consent.

Shafia Zaloom, a health educator and author of Getting Real About Sex Ed, explores how family, peers, media, and pornography shape sexual expectations. They discuss communication, consent, rejection, relationship practice, erotic imagination, and why comprehensive sex education can help people build healthier, more satisfying intimacy.

Dr. Rena Malik, a board-certified urologist, pelvic surgeon, and sexual health expert, joins the conversation to explore better sex for men at every age. They discuss what truly makes sex satisfying, erectile difficulties and treatments, premature or delayed ejaculation, low testosterone, and maintaining sexual function over time.

Dr. Rena Malik, a board-certified urologist, pelvic surgeon, and author of The Hard Truth, explores the foundations of men’s sexual health. They discuss nutrition, exercise, pelvic floor function, endocrine disruptors, masturbation, pornography, shame, and sexual confidence, along with practical ways to build healthier habits and protect long-term sexual function.

Eve Rickert, author, publisher, and science communicator specializing in consensual non-monogamy, explores whether polyamorous relationships need rules. They unpack the differences between rules, agreements, and boundaries, examine “don’t ask, don’t tell” arrangements and one-penis policies, and consider when temporary restrictions may help or harm trust.

Eve Rickert, author, publisher, and non-monogamy specialist, explores how polyamorous relationships can become unhealthy or abusive. She discusses coercive control versus toxic behavior, recognizing manipulation in polycules, triangulation and smear campaigns, community enabling, and why multiple partners can complicate abuse detection. She also highlights changing perspectives on jealousy, mental health, disability, and finding specialized support.

Niki Davis-Fainbloom, a sex educator, writer, researcher, coach, and author of Fetish, explores the vulnerable art of sharing desires. They discuss self-acceptance, timing a disclosure, responding with curiosity, navigating mismatched interests, and finding creative, consensual ways to explore fetishes together without sacrificing anyone’s boundaries.

Niki Davis-Fainbloom, a sex educator, writer, researcher, coach, and author of *Fetish*, explores why balloons, feet, casts, sneezing, and countless other stimuli can become erotic. They unpack the difference between kinks and fetishes, how conditioning, early experiences, media, culture, and taboo shape desire, and when a fetish becomes distressing. They also discuss acceptance and expanding erotic interests.