Sex and Psychology Podcast

Midori, a sexologist, kink educator, author, and founder of Rope Dojo, explores the often-overlooked art of aftercare. They discuss how partners can have radically different recovery needs, why planning and communication matter, and how care can unfold in stages. The conversation also examines how aftercare can deepen intense BDSM experiences and strengthen connection after any kind of sex.

Midori, an internationally recognized sexologist, kink educator, and author, explores how to make sexy talk feel natural rather than awkward. They discuss finding an authentic erotic persona, using tone, pacing, and pauses, building a sensual vocabulary, practicing with stories and voice messages, and turning humor, food, fantasy, and even bizarre dreams into playful arousal.

Diane Poole Heller, an attachment and trauma-resolution expert and author of The Power of Attachment, explores why anxious attachment develops and how it shapes communication, conflict, and digital triggers. They discuss expressing needs without criticism, learning to receive love, the hidden strengths of sensitivity, practicing secure responsiveness, and building nourishing chosen-family connections.

Diane Poole Heller, a psychologist and attachment expert, explores why intimacy can trigger withdrawal. They discuss how avoidant patterns develop, what happens when closeness feels overwhelming, and how shutdowns and space-seeking affect relationships. The conversation also examines hidden strengths of avoidance, the anxious-avoidant cycle, and ways couples can create safer, deeper connection.

Rachel Zar, a licensed marriage and family therapist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, answers the questions that bring couples to sex therapy most often. They explore orgasm challenges, mismatched desire, introducing new ideas, changes in sexual frequency, and whether fantasies are normal. The conversation also covers keeping long-term intimacy exciting and recognizing when professional support may help.

Dr. Kelly Casperson, a urologist, sex educator, author, and menopause specialist, explores how mindset shapes desire, arousal, and pleasure. They discuss escaping sexual “shoulds,” finding confidence, understanding your personal accelerators and brakes, and using mindfulness to quiet mental noise. A candid conversation about motivation, presence, and making meaningful changes to your intimate life.

Kate Lister, a historian of sex and sexuality and author of FLICK, uncovers the surprising past behind modern desires. They explore ancient sex toys, the myth of Victorian vibrator “hysteria,” hidden sexual histories, and why progress never moves in a straight line. Expect scandal, forgotten artifacts, shifting attitudes, and plenty of myths turned upside down.

Kate Lister, a historian of sex and sexuality and author of A Curious History of Sex, explores whether Bridgerton’s glamorous romance reflects Georgian reality. They unpack courtship, sexual risks, repression, and why we romanticize the past. The conversation also examines modern dating’s “sex recession,” dating-app fatigue, choice overload, and the longing for greater effort and authentic connection.

Rebecca Blanton, aka Auntie Vice, is a writer and kink educator focused on BDSM, mental illness, and neurodivergence. She explores why explicit rules, sensory flexibility, novelty, and roleplay may appeal to autistic and ADHD minds. They also discuss communicating support needs, navigating conflicting preferences, and making kink communities more accessible.

Rebecca Blanton, also known as Auntie Vice, is a writer and kink educator who explores BDSM and mental health. They discuss how symptoms can affect consent, when disclosure matters, and the complex links between trauma, triggers, and kink. The conversation also covers medication changes, emotional safety, and finding kink-aware mental health professionals.