

Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin
Lemonada Media
Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, we’ll address it all. We’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life.We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here.
Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity.
Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity.
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Nov 25, 2025 • 38min
What If Your Father Is Having a Baby With Someone Your Age? Plus: David Duchovny Gives US Advice!
Listeners share their thoughts on family dynamics, including a daughter grappling with her father's baby with a younger partner. The hosts tackle tricky subjects like commenting on a friend's excessive Botox and whether high school reunions are worth attending. David Duchovny shares his wisdom, advising that nothing is as extreme as it seems. The episode explores empathy, boundaries, and practical life tips while closing the season with a thoughtful reflection on advice from listeners.

Nov 18, 2025 • 33min
What Happens When a Grandparent Won't Say No? Plus: Friends Who Are Difficult Diners
In this discussion, the hosts tackle the challenges of setting family boundaries, particularly regarding overindulgent grandparents. They explore how to handle a friend's inconvenient scheduling requests for a sports team. Listeners share their insights on navigating the tricky dynamics of dining with difficult friends. The conversation dives into distinguishing between overindulgence and enabling behavior in relatives, offering practical advice for parents. Plus, heartfelt stories from listeners about coping with post-wedding blues add an engaging touch.

Nov 11, 2025 • 33min
Should Parents Stay at Your Place or a Hotel? Plus: Temptation in the Office
Listeners share their thoughts on messy rooms and holiday gift-giving dilemmas. The hosts dive into the tricky question of whether visiting parents should stay in a hotel, exploring compromise and family dynamics. They also discuss the post-wedding blues and the challenges of adjusting to married life. Another hot topic is how to handle tempting office treats while trying to stick to health goals. Plus, insights on the importance of holiday traditions spark lively debate!

Nov 4, 2025 • 37min
How to Manage a Dramatic Family Member? Plus: Separating Twice & Staying Together With Mandy Patinkin & Kathryn Grody
Mandy Patinkin, an acclaimed actor known for his roles in 'Homeland' and 'The Princess Bride,' and his partner Kathryn Grody, an actress and writer, share wisdom on navigating family drama. They offer practical advice for handling emotional outbursts at gatherings and emphasize the importance of setting boundaries. Reflecting on their two separations, they discuss how those experiences led to personal growth and acceptance of each other's flaws. Their humorous and heartfelt anecdotes provide insights into building a resilient relationship.

Oct 28, 2025 • 39min
How Do You Handle a Conversational One-Upper? Plus: Elizabeth Gilbert Has a Question!
The hosts tackle the tricky situation of a friend who constantly one-ups conversations, exploring causes and offering humorous tactics to manage it. They also discuss family dynamics, from navigating impersonal gifts to addressing emotional boundaries. Bestselling author Elizabeth Gilbert asks how to cope with anxiety about loved ones' risky choices, leading to insightful strategies for relief. Listener updates on sensitive issues like egg donation and post-wedding blues add depth to the conversation.

Oct 21, 2025 • 33min
Why Am I Sad After My Wedding? Plus: The Holiday Season Debate
This discussion delves into the intriguing phenomenon of post-wedding sadness, exploring the emotional shifts that accompany major life changes. Listeners share unexpected family secrets and the complexities of breaking up with a hairstylist. The hosts debate whether the holiday season is a joyful time or a source of stress, while also offering practical advice for dealing with a messy teenager's room. It's a candid exploration of relationships, emotions, and the often-overlooked aspects of family dynamics.

Oct 14, 2025 • 33min
Should You Reveal a Family Secret? Plus: How to Break Up With Your Hairdresser
The hosts explore the delicate topic of informing a teenager about being conceived through egg donation, emphasizing the importance of honesty. They also tackle the emotional complexities of breaking up with a hairstylist, suggesting a respectful approach. Listeners chime in on family dynamics and share insights about punctuality, adding a community perspective. It's an engaging mix of personal advice and relatable stories that stir both heart and humor.

Oct 7, 2025 • 39min
Can a Marriage Survive When a Partner Won’t Change? Plus: Mel Robbins Wants Our Advice!
The hosts tackle the complexities of relationships, discussing whether a partner should accept unchangeable traits in their significant other. They also explore the aftermath of cheating within friend groups and the unexpected tension over dishwasher loading techniques. Mel Robbins joins to seek advice on overcoming guilt about resting, prompting discussions on scheduling downtime and prioritizing self-care. It's a lively mix of personal dilemmas and practical solutions!

Sep 30, 2025 • 33min
Is a Flakey Friend Worth Keeping? Plus: Badly Behaved Kids!
We follow up on last week’s advice about who should bear the burden of maintaining connections with parents. We also respond to questions about a group text that’s spiraling into harsh words; a friendship worn thin by years of last-minute cancellations; and a new mother who fears her husband isn’t bonding with their baby. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Would you tell a friend that their kids are behaving badly? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 23, 2025 • 33min
How Do You Stop Having the Same Fight Over and Over? Plus: Advice Gone Wrong!
In our very first episode of Since You Asked, we respond to a listener asking, “Should I make an effort to include my husband’s family in our plans, even if he doesn’t bother?” We also tackle a question about a couple who keeps having the same fights over and over. Since You Askers weigh in on the debate about whether to tell a friend if you think the person they're dating isn’t right for them. Plus, we react to stories about unsolicited advice that backfired. Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.


