Stronger Marriage Connection

Beth Goss joins Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to talk about tips for bringing ababy home. She discusses the principles taught in Gottman’s “Bringing Baby Home” program.About Beth GossBeth Goss is a certified Gottman, educator and a training specialist for the bringing baby home program. She is also a full time faculty member at North Seattle College, where she teaches aparent education and child development classes to families raising children from birth to five years. Additionally, she was previously employed by Swedish Medical Center to teach childbirth, postpartum and sibling classes. She has authored several articles and has been interviewed for several podcasts discussing the transition to parenthood. Beth is originally from Queens, New York, but has called Seattle home for 31 years. She lives there with her husband and loves it when her adult kids visitInsights:“The key for us was what we call the three T's watching our temper, tongue, and tone.” - Dave Schramm “That's not why you got married, you know, you got married because you love each other and your best friends and you have fun together.” - Beth Goss“I think a big piece of advice is don't wait to be asked. Don't wait for your partner to say, could you do X?” - Beth GossInvites:Download the Gottman App to find the questions relating to the “Bringing Baby Home”program.Enroll in the “Bringing Baby Home” training based on researched tips on how to prepare for starting a family.Learn about tips that will help you to connect with your partner more on Gottman’s “SmallThings Often” podcast.Beth Goss’s Links:Gottman Website: https://www.gottman.com/Personal Website: https://www.bethgoss.com/Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:StrongerMarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

Mike and Heidi Condie join Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to talk about their experience from almost separating to having a strong healthy marriage. Mike and Heidi vouch that if they can get through the challenges that they have worked through, then anyone can.About Michael and Heidi Condie: Mike and Heidi are a couple from Liz's private practice who were on the brink of divorce. They were suffocating from stress and challenges related to their remarriage and stepfamily and were spiraling downward in negative communication patterns. Together with Liz's guidance, they put in the work starting with themselves and then continued to fight for their marriage instead of against each other. Their journey has been truly inspiring.Insights: “You know me and you still love me? I don't think it gets any better than that” - Dr. Liz Hale “And she said, but what I can tell you is, whatever skills or things you don't learn how to resolve in this marriage. I promise you, you will have the same issues in the next relationship.” -Heidi Condie “And I think even before the work is humility, being open and recognizing that I need to work.” -Dr. Dave Schramm “And it was the love for each other that we had for each other, that was the most important.” -Mike CondieInvites: - Rate the strength of your relationship this week on a scale of 1 to 10, then ask your partner what you can do to show up a little bit better for them. - Create a gratitude book where you and your partner can randomly list things that you are grateful for about your partner. Place the book in a central location in your home.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:StrongerMarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelife Dr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.com https://drdavespeaks.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSUFacebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642 Dr. Liz Hale:http://www.drlizhale.com/  Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

Today Ted Lowe joins Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to discuss how to change yourmarriage mindset in order to change your relationship. Ted believes that you can change yourmarriage by first changing your thoughts.About Ted Law:Ted Lowe Ted Lowe is on staff with Family First, where he serves as a speaker, writer, resourcecreator, and podcast host. He is also the founder of For Us Marriage.com. He is the author ofseveral incredible books, including his most recent release, Us in Mind: How Changing YourThoughts Can Change Your Marriage. Ted lives with his wife, Nancie, and their 4 children inCumming, GA.Insights:“Don’t let anybody celebrate your spouse more than you.” - Ted Lowe"If we think something, then we're going to look for ways to confirm it." -Dr. Dave Schramm“What I think about myself radically determines how my spouse experiences me at any givenmoment.” -Dr. Liz HaleInvites:   -   Learn more about a growth mindset and have a 10 minute discussion with your partner about how it could help you in your marriage.   -   Think of one hobby that your partner gets excited about and then come up with something you could do to get excited with themTed Lowe’s Links:Forusmarriage.comFacebook: For Us MarriageInstagram: @forusmarriageBook: https://a.co/d/iMqdiZjVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:StrongerMarriage.orgFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriageInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642 Dr. Liz Hale:httpe://www.drlizhale.com  Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

Ryan Law joins Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to discuss how partners can have ahealthy money relationship. Ryan talks about the importance of regular financial planningmeetings and understanding your partner’s attitudes, beliefs and experiences with money.About Ryan Law:Ryan Law is the Director of the Utah Valley University (UVU) Money Success Center. He is anaward-winning educator who teaches the Financial Counseling courses as part of the PersonalFinancial Planning program at UVU. Ryan is a Certified Financial Planner™ professional (CFP®)and an Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC®). Ryan is the author of the books, “Student LoanPlanning,” “Make Positive Changes” and co-editor of the book “Financial Counseling.” Ryan and his wife, Traci, have been married for 24 years and they live in Utah county with their 5 children.Insights: - “People will do things for reasons that make sense to them.” - Dave Schramm - "Today is the right day to start having financial conversations." -Ryan Law - "And it doesn't mean that one is right and one is wrong" - Liz HaleInvites: - Sign up for Ryan Law’s email list. - Schedule a monthly financial planning meeting with your partner to discuss what youspent last month and make some guidelines for the next month! - Make a separate savings account for a specific fun financial goal! Ex. Disneyland trip,backyard upgrade etc.Ryan’s Links:https://money-marriage.com/ Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:https://strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSUFacebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642 Dr. Liz Hale:http://www.drlizhale.com/   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

On today’s episode, the well known author, Kyle Benson joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz todiscuss the simple principles that make marriage last. Kyle discusses the profound effectiveness of Emotion Focused Therapy in the stabilization of relationships. In addition, he recognizes the benefits of using the research by John and Julie Gottman to maintain a healthy relationship.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Kyle Benson?3:00 - Combination of Gottman Method and Emotional Based Therapy8:36 – What is the longing for attachment?10:15 –Am I enough? Am I worthy of love and care?12:50 – Attachment Strategies/Styles16:03 – Emotion Focused Therapy20:15 – Conflict is fire22:43 – One sided partner effort26:10 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection?27:25 – Kyle’s resources28:40 – TakeawaysAbout Kyle Benson:Kyle studies how partners in healthy relationships intentionally –talk to each other, have passionate sex, stay emotionally connected, and more – to uncover the tools and perspectives that make love last. His work has been featured in dozens of major media channels including The Gottman Institute, Business Insider, U.S. News, The Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, and more.Insights:Liz: The healthy “We” starts with a healthy “Me.”Kyle: Underneath every criticism is a longing for attachment.Dave: It is not necessarily a poor partner but a poor pattern.Invites:   -    Join Kyle Benson’s email list to get free and easily acceptable tips to make marriage last.   -    Take 10 minutes to write down how you are going to change the unwanted patterns in your relationship.Kyles’s Links:https://www.kylebenson.net/FB @Kyle Benson: https://www.facebook.com/kylebenson.netVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSUFacebook Marriage Group:Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

On today's episode, the Netflix hit Aleeza Ben Shalom, from “Jewish Matchmaking”joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz to discuss the magic of matchmaking. Discover what matchmaking is, if it is for you, and how you can build a better marriage based on lessons Aleeza uses during matchmaking. We hope you enjoy!Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Aleeza Ben Shalom?7:12 – Tools for matchmaking with your soul mate.9:03 – What makes the best match?: Soul mate potential baseline.13:50 – Is there something better out there?16:00 – Stories of making the match.18:14 – Handling challenges with your partner.19:05 – Aleeza’s marital success stories.21:57 – Benefits of hiring a matchmaker.23:45 – "Mystery in your history”24:50 – Where can I learn about matchmaking?27: 15 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection?29:00 – Aleeza’s resources29: 30 – TakeawaysAbout Aleeza Ben Shalom:Aleeza Ben Shalom is a renowned matchmaker, dating coach, author, sought-after speaker, and soulmate clarity expert who empowers marriage-minded singles to find and identify the one. She guides them from uncertainty and overwhelm to the clarity needed for confident decision-making regarding their potential life partners. Aleeza is the featured Matchmaker on Season 1 of the new Netflix series Jewish Matchmaking. Aleeza authored two insightful books, Get real, Get Married-a guide to get over your hurdles and under the chuppah, and Virtual Dating, your guide to relationships in a socially distanced world. As the founder of Marriage Minded Mentor, a company who focuses on helping singles get married, she connects singles globally with skilled matchmakers and dating coaches.Aleeza’s impressive track record has earned her the title of “Jewish Dating Guru,” as she has successfully led over 200 singles through the steps to engagement, regardless of age, affiliation, or life stage.For over 15 years, Aleeza has worked with men and women worldwide to break unhealthy patterns and foster relationships that lead to marriage. During this time, she has trained more than 350 dating coaches and matchmakers worldwide.She now lives in Israel with her husband, five children and a lovable dog!Insights:Dave: There are many factors that make us a good match with the people around us.Liz: Have hope that there IS a person out there for you!Aleeza: World peace begins at home. Do your best to love yourself and build a family.Invites:Listen to the matchmaker, matchmaker podcast and find a topic that you love, have a discussion with your partner.Write down what your values, beliefs, attractions, bothers and fears are. Reflect on how these could affect your future dating and marriage experiVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

On today's episode, Dr. Lee Baucom joins us, and we have a great discussion aboutintentionality and actively creating a stronger marriage connection both physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Join Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz in this journey on strengthening marriage connection, relationships, and personal values.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Lee Baucom2:30 – Number one concern for new couples5:12 – Shifts you need to make in the first year of marriage9:08 – Pause button marriage12:52 – Difference in how you communicate vs communication skills14:25 – The arc of disconnection16:14 – Three levels of connection18:58 – Intentionality is important22:14 – What can you do to reconnect?25:51 – Difference between marriage fail point and individual fail point28:30 – Husbands bootcamp31:36 – There is intentionality behind everything35:28 – Key component to a stronger marriage connection38:06 – Resources39:07 – TakeawaysAbout Lee Baucom:Dr. Lee Baucom is internationally known for his methods and approaches to saving marriages. For three decades, Lee has been helping people around the world save, restore, and create the marriage they deserve and desire. He's the author of the book, “How to save your marriage in three simple steps”, in addition to six other books, and he's the creator of the highly effective internet Marriage program. Save the marriage. Lee is also the host of two popular podcast Thrive nation and save the marriage.Insights:Dave: Lack of attention leads to loss of connection. Physical, emotional, and spiritualconnection all have an impact on your partner, what will you do to strengthen those areas?Liz: The key of the “We” and having each other’s backs, we all want someone to get us and know us. You are in this together.Lee: Remember the pause button, did you hit pause and what is it going to take to un-pause it. Get more intentional about connecting from a physical, spiritual, and emotional level. Take action.Invites:   -    Shift from “you and me” to “we”. Remember that you are a team, and it is important to acknowledge those struggles as a team.   -    Mature relationships are not without the feelings of romance and passion but include communications and connection   -    Husband bootcamp is a video bootcamp structured over 30 days to get into shape and address the wounds that men carry around with them that can get in the way ofrelationshipsLee Baucom links:https://savethemarriage.com/https://savethemarriage.com/podcasthttps://savethemarriaVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

Today’s episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection dives into AmandaChristensen’s personal money mission to help couples learn how to manage their finances and build their connection.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Amanda Christensen?2:28 – Why is money such a hard topic to discuss in marriage?5:03 – Dave’s experience: managing a tight budget as college students.6:02 – Liz’s experience: managing money when you are developing financial independence prior to marriage.7:05 – Money autonomy and money wins.10:00 – Learn your money personality.11:26 – What does the research say about how couples manage finances?One spouse handling main finances, trust, communication, chose what kind of accountmanagement works for you, discovering how to communicate about money withoutargument, little or no debt and living within your means.22:40 – Personal finance is personal!23:50 – Amanda’s money management tip #1: Have a money plan25:18 – Amanda’s money management tip #2: Develop financial trust26:16 – Amanda’s money management tip #3: Talk about large purchases26:58 – Amanda’s money management tip #4: Talk about debt28:14 – Amanda’s money management tip #5: What does it mean to live within your means?30:45 – Amanda’s money management tip #6: Work together during challenge34:35 – Understanding your own and your spouse’s money script37:18 – Resources to find out more about Amanda’s work38:36 – TakeawaysAbout Amanda Christensen:Amanda H. Christensen is an Extension Professor and Accredited Financial Counselorresponsible for statewide personal finance education through USU Extension. She’s editor of the Utah Money Moms blog. She and her team are the recipients of two consecutive Best of State awards for efforts to improve financial wellness across the state. You can view their live webinar schedule or request a free class for your group at finance.usu.edu/efw. On a Sunday afternoon you’ll find Amanda sipping a Diet Coke with lime at the kitchen table over a 1000 piece puzzle listening to an audio book.Insights:Dave: Developing trust and communication around money builds connection and allows you tobe on the same page.Liz: The key to a couple’s financial success is about doing what is best for them.Amanda: Even couples in great marriages disagree about money, and that’s okay!Invites:   •    Take the online “money personality assessment” at www.powerpay.org and use thecode “FWFREETANF” for a free e-course and personality assessment. Discuss yourresults with your partner.   •    A money plan with your partner for the next month. See where you are livingwithin your means and may be living outside of your means.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

On Today’s episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection, we dive deep into disagreements with our guest, Laura Silverstein, who is a certified Gottman couples therapist. Discover with Dave and Liz all kinds of tips to help couples manage differences in their marriage shared by Laura.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Laura Silverstein 1:47 – Conflict is not a bad thing in marriage 4:00 – The number one communication problem in couple relationships 6:21 – Two parts to establishing new habits 11:11 – Four horsemen – John Gottman 14:55 – What to do when both partners continue to be critical 18:27 – How to repair damages within a partnership 23:50 – Ownership, humility and kindness 27:05 – A little about Laura’s book workbook 29:07 – Key to a stronger marriage connection 31:35 – Takeaway’sAbout Laura Silverstein:Laura Silverstein is Certified Gottman Couples therapist as well as a recognized thought leader in the field of relationship wellness, sought out for her expert advice from media outlets such as, the New York Times and the today's show. In her book, Love is an action verb, Laura helps couples focus on their strengths instead of their problems and guides them with small step by step action plans.Insights:Dave: It takes humility, compassion, understanding and awareness when rebuilding something that has fallen. Take the time to slow things down and really look at things from a wider perspectiveLiz: Take ownership, be humble and stay kind when working through a repair in couple relationshipsLaura: It is important to have humility and stay humble when we enter loving relationships, no matter the challenges at handInvites:   •    Take ownership, have humility and be kind. Those are key things to effectively repair a relationships   •    When things start to escalate, it is good to ask for a break – take a time out and revisit later   •    Two parts to learn – learning how to avoid conflict in the first place, if possible, and understanding how to get out of it once you are stuckLaura Silverstein Links:https://laurasilverstein.coVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

In this engaging discussion, Mike Foster, a best-selling author and speaker known for his work in personal development, introduces the transformative concept of the 7 primal questions. He explains how these foundational questions influence our emotional needs and adult relationships. The conversation highlights essential topics like emotional intelligence, the importance of open communication in fostering connection, and how childhood experiences shape our current behaviors. Mike offers practical insights for strengthening both marriage and parenting dynamics.