
Stronger Marriage Connection
It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will enhance your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder couples sometimes drift apart, growing resentful, lonely, and isolated.The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!
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Apr 3, 2023 • 40min
Relationship Resilience After Betrayal Trauma | Geoff Steurer | #31
Listen in as Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz invite back to the show Geoff Steurer, specialist onbetrayal trauma, to talk about how couples can bounce back and move forward after trust is broken in the relationship. If you or someone you know is experiencing betrayal trauma, this is an episode you don’t want to miss!Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Dr. Geoff Steurer?3:00 – What is betrayal trauma?5:35 – Most people initially stay with their partner after being betrayed7:49 – Quick trust does not exist, you can’t quickly trust somebody9:56 – Both the hurt partner and the betrayer are on their own paths of recovery11:26 – The marriage goes through a recovery process too13:55 – Tearing yourself down does not help you & it doesn’t help who you’ve hurt15:58 – Recovery means being willing to talk about the betrayal17:00 – People can change; there is healing on the other side of betrayal trauma20:15 – Coming clean versus being found out - how it affects the recovery process22:13 – There are no quick fixes when it comes to betrayal & emotion & connection24:50 – Engage in healing; you'll feel better eventually doing the healing work26:48 – What is the role of parents whose adult child is experiencing betrayal trauma?29:19 – A message to those who are on the edge of betraying their partner31:06 – Let’s not be afraid to talk about attraction and chemistry33:16 – Make sure there's not enough space between you and your partner for someone else36:21 – Geoff’s takeaway: there's nothing, in terms of your emotions and experiences and feelings and needs, that your marriage can't handle37:09 – Liz’s takeaway: People have the tools, talents, resources, and abilities to handlesomething as excruciatingly painful as betrayal37:39 – Dave’s takeaway: Be very mindful and intentional in your relationshipInsights:Dave: When both partners are committed to doing the work, it brings hope into the relationshipLiz: Good people make mistakes, good people betrayGeoff: The structure and institution of marriage is sturdy and stable and it’s big enough to hold all of our fears, worries, insecurities, temptations and strugglesInvites: ● If you find yourself flirting or looking forward to interacting with someone of theopposite sex, get honest with yourself and your partner about it. Don’t be afraid to talkabout attraction. ● Keep it a little awkward with people you could be attracted to. Keep that distance there and don’t build so much familiarity. ● If someone you love is going through betrayal trauma, get educated and understand the process. Learn how to keep your own emotional balance and know what to say/what not to say. “You don't want to become a piece of debris in somebody else's tornado”.About Geoff Steurer:Geoff Steurer has a passionate commitment to helping couples rebuild theirrelationships from crisis to connection. He specializes in helping couples and individualsaffected by the trauma of sexual betrayal. He understands how exhilarating and stressfulVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Mar 27, 2023 • 39min
Tackling Money in Marriage | Taylor & Megan Kovar | #30
On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dave and Liz sit down withTaylor and Megan Kovar, also known as the money couple, to share the strategies and resources they offer couples in handling money in marriage. Listen in to find out what you can do to avoid financial infidelity and create financial freedom today!About Taylor & Megan Kovar:The Kovar's have been branded as the Money Couple since 2020 after realizing one of the biggest woes couples were having involved money management. With professional money management skills, the Kovars provide resources on budgeting groceries, birthday parties, all the way to retirement. In the past three years, the Kovars have developed awesome pages and platforms: 5 Money Personalities, Financial Infidelity, The Millionaire Marriage Podcast, The Money Couple blog and many other couples’ courses. Through trial and error, the Kovars have developed the right ways to achieve financial freedom, putting family first and enjoying life.Insights:Taylor: It takes work and some education, but I think no matter what your income level, you can achieve some of that peace that comes with financial freedom.Megan: One of the things you need to know about yourself is your money personality, because you just don't realize how that affects so many different aspects of your personality as a whole.Dave: Just because we have money differences, doesn't mean that we can't make it work. It's about understanding, having compassion, simple awareness and trying to see things from our partner/spouses perspective.Liz: Is financial infidelity worth the loss and hurt of intimacy?Invites: ● Make your finances a priority. Pick a time with your spouse to sit down and discuss your finances. Stick it on the calendar and then stick to it. ● Get educated! Discover your money personality by taking the free assessment and then ask your partner to take it as well. Take another assessment to find out if there'sfinancial infidelity in your relationship and at what level. ● Seek out good mentors, people that are going to speak truth into your life. Don’t just surround yourself with “yes men”. Sometimes we don’t see what we need to work on.Taylor & Megan Kovar Links:https://themoneycouple.com/https://themoneycouple.com/5-money-personalities/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnABbQSwTxWyKevoRJnOfgg Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Mar 20, 2023 • 41min
Becoming A Smart Step Family | Ron Deal | #29
On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sitdown with author and expert on blended families, Ron L. Deal, to bring you the leading research, tips and tools about how to create successful step family relationships. If you are navigating remarriage and/or blending a family unit, join the conversation and learn what may help you on your journey!About Ron Deal:Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is the director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and consulting editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popularconference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.Insights:Ron: Humble people who can make changes over time will deepen trust and intimacy in their relationship.Dave: The process of family blending takes patience and time and understanding and love and kindness. Like an extra double dose of all of that.Liz: All couples have struggles, but remarriages and stepfamilies have some unique struggles and challenges.Invites: ● If you are a dating parent, engage your kids in "what if" conversations. You could ask, “what if dad started dating again?” or “this guy has kids of his own, how would you feel if mom were to date him?”. This will help you make better decisions about when and where to introduce your kids to the person you’re dating. ● Practice chasing the pain, as Ron Deal mentioned. Next time you are triggered by something your partner does, ask yourself “what is this telling me?” or “what is going on inside me and is there a better way for me to handle this feeling than I have in the past?”. Don't let the past invade your present. ● Visit smartstepfamilies.com to discover more resources about step families and remarriage. Then share the website and what you learned with people you know who are in stepfamily relationships and would benefit from Ron Deal’s work.Ron Deal Links:- https://familylifeblended.com/blended - https://smartstepfamilies.com- https://rondeal.org- https://www.facebook.com/familylifeblended- https://www.instagram.com/familylifeblended/- https://www.youtube.com/@FamilyLifeBlended- https://www.familylife.com/podcast/Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Mar 13, 2023 • 36min
Embracing Regrets | Dr. Dave & Dr. Liz | #28
Join ourn host Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale as they discuss how to embrace regret and learn from the past.Insights:Do not let regrets bog us down. They can be a reminder into who we are becoming and how we are learning and growing in our relationships. Living a life filled with shame and guilt is not a productive way to live, but by acknowledging and seeking understanding of your regrets you can develop a greater feeling of peace and happiness in your marriage.Invites: ● Sit down with your partner and have a conversation about regrets. See what your partner regrets and share what you may regret. ● Practice identifying your regrets as a foundation, boldness, moral or connection regret in your journal. ● Visit the world regret survey and see what regrets people in your area are experiencing. Find peace and connection through seeing the regrets that others around you may have. Recognize that you are not alone in your regrets.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSUFacebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642 Dr. Liz Hale:http://www.drlizhale.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Mar 6, 2023 • 41min
Unconditional Love In Marriage | Dr. Greg Baer | #27
Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz Take a deep dive into the topic of unconditional love in marriage with Dr. Greg Baer. Greg shares principles and insights about real love, how it can transform your marriage and parenting. Giving 5 steps to real love.About Greg Baer:For 20 years, Greg Baer was a successful surgeon, teacher, civic leader, and entrepreneur. Despite all these things, Greg didn’t feel happy. In his search for happiness, he learned principles that has changed the lives of thousands. Dr. Baer retired from one of the busiest solo eye surgery practices in the U.S. and began a new career of writing, teaching, and speaking. He has written 18 books about relationships, marriage and parenting and produced all kinds of other trainings.Insights:Dr. Greg Baer: Unconditional love, or what I call real love is the key element to a strongermarriage connection.Dr. Dave: Choose to be a first responder or a nuclear reactor when we feel stress within our relationships.Dr. Liz: It’s all about pain, pain makes us insane, it makes us do things we wouldn’t normally dowhen we are filled with loveInvites: • Don’t be satisfied with your marriage being just “Okay” • Go through the five steps of achieving unconditional love • Practice telling the truth about yourself before expecting the truth from othersGreg Baer Links:http://reallove.com/http://realloveparents.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/gregbaermdBooks:Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulling Relationshipshttps://a.co/d/5xokhrqReal Love in Marriage: The Truth About Finding Genuine Happiness Now & Foreverhttps://a.co/d/66KHqi8Real Love in Parenting: Nine Simple & Powerful Effective Principles for Raising Happy & Responsible Children: https://a.co/d/eStaD2bReal Love Companion: Taking Steps Toward a Loving & Happy Lifehttps://a.co/d/jdOJS5EReal Love in Dating: The truth About Finding The Perfect Partnerhttps://a.co/d/1SNpX7w Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Feb 27, 2023 • 41min
Tips For A Better Sex Life in Marriage | Dan Purcell | #26
Join Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz today in talking about sexual intimacy within yourrelationship, where they welcome on special guest Dan Purcell. Dan talks with us about the importance of keeping our relationships close and connected. Sharing some great tips to help couples navigate this important topic and offering some excellent resources for you to learn more.About:Dan and his wife Emily Purcell are the founders of Get Your Marriage On! Their marriage went through a bit of a renaissance a few years ago and wanted to share what they learned with other couples. They created a fun & sexy bedroom game app called Intimately Us that has been downloaded over 300,000 times. They put on events and retreats for couples. Dan is the host of the Get Your Marriage On! podcast. Dan also coaches others on marriage & intimacy.Dan and Emily have been married for over 19 years and have 6 kids. Dan loves cracking dad jokes, running marathons, planning the next creative date night with his sweetheart, and enjoys the magnificent outdoors around their St George home.Insights:Dan: Make your spouse number one, investing in our relationships will bring us the biggest return on happiness.Dave: Taking a deeper approach that is more intimate and can be so powerful, rather than superficial.Liz: What can I do today to make my spouses life more worth living?Invites: • Slow things down – take time to work on intimacy with your significant other, thingswont just come naturally, they will take time and effort. • Download the app, “Intimately Us” and follow @getyourmarriageon on Instagram. • Make your spouse your number one, investigate your relationship and find what makesyou both the happiest.Dan Purcell Links:https://getyourmarriageon.libsyn.comhttps://www.instagram.com/getyourmarriageon/?hl=en Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSUFacebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Facebook Parenting Group: Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Feb 20, 2023 • 47min
Therapy For Relationship Wellness | Dr. Don and Carrie Cole | #25
Join the conversation today as Dave and Liz invite doctors Don and Carrie Cole,founders of the Center for Relationship Wellness, onto the stronger marriage connectionpodcast to bring you some amazing tools and strategies for creating more connection in your relationship. Don and Carrie’s work is backed by years of scientific research with John and Julie Gottman, so you won’t want to miss out on today’s episode!The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by Dr. John & Julie GottmanAbout Dr. Don & Carrie Cole:Dr. Carrie Cole is the Director of Research for The Gottman Institute and manages theGottman Love Lab. She holds a Ph.D. in psychological research and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She is a licensed professional counselor and an approved LPC supervisor in the State of Texas, a licensed mental health counselor in the State of Washington, and a Certified Gottman Therapist. Carrie is a Master Trainer for The Gottman Institute and trains therapists in Gottman Method Couples Therapy around the world. She is a consultant for the certification program and has led The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples multiple times a year since 2008. Carrie has also published peer-reviewed journal articles independently and with doctors John and Julie Gottman. Her work with couples includes couples therapy, workshops, seminars, and intensive marathon sessions. Carrie and her husband, Dr. Don Cole reside in Seattle, WA.Insights:Don: Things can't just fix themselves. You have to repair things. When things aren't feeling right, you have to fix it.Carrie: Couples who are connected to each other have a lot of rituals that they really enjoy doing together.Liz: The beauty of these tools is that they bring us such hope. Across the board. No matter where we are in our marriage.Dave: Lack of attention leads to loss of connection.Invites: ● Create meaningful rituals of connection. Set a time each day that works for you and your partner where you can talk about how you’re doing as a couple. ● Next time you need to bring up an issue to your partner, use a softened startup. Talk about how you feel, what happened (without using “you”), and state what you need inpositive terms. Write it out if you have to. How a conversation starts is likely how it’sgoing to end. ● Have a stress reducing conversation with your partner. If your spouse expresses an emotional experience, try not to problem solve or side with the enemy. Ask goodquestions. Show compassion, empathy, and validation.Dr. Don & Carrie Cole Links:- Centerforrelationshipwellness.com- carrie@gottman.com- don@gottman.com- gottman.com Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Feb 13, 2023 • 38min
Marriage Happy Hacks | Dr. Dave & Dr. Liz | #24
On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection podcast, Dr. Dave and Dr. Lizdiscuss some of the top tips they call “Happy Hacks” that help us flourish as individuals andbring more happiness into our relationships. Strong marriages are built on the virtues andcharacter strengths of the spouses, so join the conversation to learn what you can do starting today to better yourself and your relationship!Insights:Liz: Living amidst conflict hurts our health. Living amidst good, warm, loving relationships is protective.Dave: If you want to be instantly happy, do something kind. Do something thoughtful, send someone a text, write them a letter, or send them a note. Doing something kind makes you a happier and a positive person and then that spills over into your marriage.Invites: ● Are there areas in your personal life that you can tweak to be healthier physically and mentally? Where can you create an upward spiral toward greater happiness as anindividual and as a couple? ● Do your facial expressions tell your spouse: “I see you. I notice you. I’m glad you’rethere”? If not, make a goal to show in your facial expressions that you appreciate yourpartner. ● Practice mindfulness by intentionally choosing to enjoy your day. Be fully present in each moment without judgment. ● Create a gratitude journal for your spouse. When you’re upset with them, practice the “drop and do 10” exercise by writing down 10 reasons why you appreciate your partner.Episode Links:Signature strengths survey - https://www.viacharacter.org/Robert Waldinger Harvard study ted talk -https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshareVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSUFacebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Facebook Parenting Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Feb 6, 2023 • 38min
Empty Nest Marriage | Richard & Linda Eyre | #23
On todays’ episode, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz welcome Richard and Linda Eyre back on the show to shed some light on grandparenting and how to make your marriage thrive as empty nesters. Richard and Linda share some powerful tips and tools from their online course and community called grandparenting101.com so that you can prepare now for this exciting phase of life!Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who are Richard & Linda Eyre?2:44 – “Gray Divorce” & why the divorce rate has gone down in recent years4:39 – The dynamics and chemistry of the relationship change when it’s just you two again6:19 – Creating a new vision statement for your marriage when the kids are gone7:47 – Being a team as grandparents helps your marriage to thrive9:28 – The time when the kids are gone may be longer than the time when the kids are there11:21 – Look forward to empty nesting by planning things to do together; see it as an opportunity to focus on eachother again13:07 – When couples have joint projects they thrive together16:50 – Going your separate ways on grandparenting will only create divisions18:17 – Monthly meeting with your children about how to grandparent their children20:08 – Using zoom to stay connected & talk about how to support grandchildren22:03 – Renewing your commitment to each other in this new phase & writing it down23:13 – What can couples do now to prepare for & strengthen their marriage as empty nesters?25:32 – Write down things you adore & appreciate about the other person27:09 – Grandparenting101.com - an online community for grandparents30:51 – Don’t just be a grandparent, be a grand husband or a grand wife33:00 – Richard & Linda’s takeaway - live life in the present & remember why you married your spouseAbout Richard & Linda Eyre:Richard and Linda Eyre are the parents of nine children and are among the most popular speakers in the world on parenting and families. They've presented in more than 45 countries and are New York Times best selling authors of numerous books on parenting couples and families. The Eyres have been frequent guests on national network shows including Oprah, the Today Show, Primetime Live, 60 minutes, Good Morning America, and once did regular segments on the CBS Early Show. Their parenting website valuesparenting.com provides ideas,guidance and creative programs for families throughout the world, including programs on grandparenting and empty nest parenting.Richard & Linda Eyre Links: - www.valuesparenting.com - www.grandparenting101.com - Books: The 8 Myths of Marriage, Being a Proactive Grandfather, The Happiness Paradox - Social Media: @richardlindaeyre - Email: Richardmeyre@gmail.comInsights:Richard: How well your marriage isVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Jan 30, 2023 • 46min
How to Turn Conflict into Connection | Emil Harker | #22
Listen in as Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit down with Emil Harker, a respected therapist andtalented author, to give you some practical tips and tools for turning conflict into connection and closeness. By following a few powerful principles, we all have the ability to use inevitable conflict for good in our relationships.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Emil Harker?3:19 – Conflict is inevitable - tips for dealing with it in the moment5:40 – Handling situations so you feel good and your partner loves you more7:29 – Assuming good intent - hijacking the limbic system10:18 – They want to feel good, they want you to feel good, and they’re doing the best they can.13:34 – Really taking the time to understand your partner’s behavior15: 38 – Criticisms are a catalyst for conflict18:02 – Addressing criticisms by agreeing with the element of truth21:15 – Responding to attacks - criticism, questions, declarations, commands24:08 – “The Betrayed CEO” - how the fundamental attribution error hurts us30:23 – Bad things happen, how we handle them will either make or break us32:48 – Understanding the crap out of your partner - validating their emotional experience34:41 – Problems aren’t the problem, how we handle the problems are the problem36:15 – The process creates connection, not the solution38:20 – The key to a stronger marriage: develop the ability to seek, receive, and respond to feedback40:37 – Make your marriage a priority42:56 – Liz’s takeaway: conflict can either be constructive or destructive, it is up to us43:44 – Dave’s takeaway: Remember who your partner really is - find the message behind the messAbout Emil Harker:Emil has been doing therapy for almost 20 years. He is passionate about getting through the fluffy stuff to the real nuts and bolts that help people turn inevitable conflict into closeness. He has been on Channel 2 Fresh living program for over 10 years and is a frequent expert guest on podcasts, and radio and tv programs. Emil has worked with NBA, UFC, and NFL athletes. He has his own podcast called The Emil Show and his book “You Can Turn Conflict into Closeness” has been well received by professional therapists and couples alike.Emil Harker Links:- emilharker@gmail.com- https://www.emilharker.com- on social media @emilharker- podcast: The Emil Show- books: You Can Turn Conflict Into ClosenessInsights:Dave: When we view others differently, we start treating them differently. It’s a powerfulparadigm shift.Liz: My mantra to myself and to my spouse is: “I give you permission to not be perfect and I will still love you”.Emil: If the process is what we are devoted to, then no matter what issues we have we will never have to compromise on the closeness and companioVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com
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