Couples Counseling For Parents

Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.That moment when your partner's chewing suddenly sounds like nails on a chalkboard. When their touch makes you cringe instead of melt. When even their kindest gestures somehow feel... gross. Welcome to "the ick" – that mysterious feeling of sudden repulsion that can leave you questioning your entire relationship.On this revealing episode, we dive deep into this common but rarely discussed phenomenon, exploring how it frequently surfaces in parent relationships and what it's really telling us. Through our fictional case study of Mel and Vivian, we unpack how "the ick" often emerges when one partner feels overwhelmed by responsibilities while the other seems oblivious to their burden. Many parents silently suffer with thoughts like "I'm the one holding everything together" or "They want my attention but don't see how overwhelmed I am." These feelings stack up over time, creating a growing sense of resentment that manifests as physical and emotional aversion. What's particularly challenging is finding a way to express these feelings without hurting your partner or damaging your connection further.We offer a practical three-step approach to addressing this relationship challenge: First, acknowledging and expressing your feelings honestly; second, listening for the truth in your partner's experience without defensiveness; and third, actively shifting the dynamics that led to the disconnection. This might mean redistributing household responsibilities, but more importantly, it requires a deeper form of engagement – becoming truly curious about your partner's experience and connecting in ways that feel meaningful to them.Through personal examples and thoughtful dialogue, we demonstrate that "the ick" isn't a relationship death sentence – it's a signal that something needs attention. By approaching this uncomfortable feeling with curiosity rather than judgment, couples can use it as a catalyst for positive change and deeper connection.Ready to transform those icky feelings into opportunities for growth? Listen now and discover how honest communication can help you navigate one of the most challenging but common experiences in long-term relationships. Your partnership doesn't have to end because of "the ick" – in fact, addressing it might be exactly what brings you closer together.Want help talking about the "ick" in your relationship? Reach out to do individual or couple coaching with Erin and Stephen. Schedule your free consult here: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells

Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.Feeling like you're carrying the weight of parenting while your partner merely "helps out" when asked? This tension over unbalanced parenting responsibilities ranks among the most relationship-threatening conflicts couples face—often leading to questions about whether you've chosen the right partner.Through the story of Sam and Leah, we explore a scenario that resonates with countless parents: Leah handles 80% of child-related tasks and 90% of the emotional labor while working full-time, while Sam consistently drops the ball on important events despite reminders. When Trevor's school performance becomes the latest casualty of this dynamic, the resulting argument reveals much deeper issues about parenting partnership.We introduce a framework of three distinct parenting partner types that can transform how you understand your relationship struggles. Are you dealing with a "do nothing partner" who leaves everything to you, a "well-intentioned helper" who needs constant direction, or a "mutually overwhelmed partner partner" who genuinely tries to balance responsibilities but occasionally falters? Recognizing these patterns helps couples move beyond mischaracterization and defensiveness toward constructive solutions.For overburdened partners, we provide actionable strategies to express frustration effectively, set clear boundaries, and make invisible labor visible. For non-default parents, we offer guidance on acknowledging your partner's valid concerns, setting aside defensiveness, and adopting the mindset that "there is no someone else"—if you see something needing attention, you are the resource to handle it.The episode culminates with a model repair conversation and introduces our System Check for Parenting Partners tool—a practical resource for regularly evaluating and redistributing family responsibilities. Remember, successful co-parenting isn't about maintaining a perfect 50-50 split; it's about both partners taking responsibility, communicating openly, and ensuring neither feels consistently overburdened.Ready to transform your parenting partnership? Download our System Check worksheet and start creating the balanced, supportive family dynamic you both deserve: https://couplescounselingforparents.kit.com/system_check_worksheet?_gl=1*wjhcmd*_gcl_au*NzM3MjEwNzE2LjE3NTYyMTAzMzIuMTI2ODI4NDA2NS4xNzU2MjEwMzM5LjE3NTYyMTE3OTE

Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.Ever find yourself locked in a heated argument with your partner over something that seems trivial—like whether your child can ride their bike in the street instead of on the sidewalk? These everyday parenting disagreements can quickly escalate, leaving you both frustrated and disconnected, despite agreeing on your broader parenting philosophy.Today we tackle these seemingly minor differences that create major tension. While many couples align on core values, discipline approaches, and long-term goals, it's often the day-to-day decisions where conflicts emerge. One parent feels strongly about saying "no" while the other sees no problem with "yes"—and suddenly you're in a standoff that feels much bigger than the issue at hand.Through our case example of Hunter and Ren disagreeing about bike riding boundaries, we demonstrate how these conflicts aren't really about rules, but about what feels safe, what feels risky, and what makes each parent anxious. We share our personal experiences too, from water safety concerns at a lake house to differing perspectives on outdoor risks while camping or hiking.The good news? We offer a practical three-step process to transform these moments from conflict to connection. First, understand how this issue became important to each of you—what past experiences or fears shape your perspective? Second, recognize what your partner is seeing from your communication style—are they feeling dismissed or controlled? Finally, identify where you can find common ground that addresses both of your underlying concerns.Remember, strong reactions signal importance, not irrationality. When your partner keeps pushing a point that seems minor to you, try responding with curiosity rather than dismissal. By approaching differences with genuine respect and working to find solutions that honor both perspectives, you'll strengthen your partnership and create more harmony in your parenting journey.Ready to transform how you handle parenting differences? Schedule a free consultation with us through the link in our show description, and discover how to navigate these challenges together.Schedule your free consult here: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells

Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.The back-to-school season brings a whirlwind of activity that can leave even the strongest relationships feeling disconnected. Soccer schedules, school supplies, and new routines create a perfect storm where couples find themselves working efficiently as logistics partners but missing each other as romantic partners.This episode tackles the reality that many parents face during transitional seasons: feeling like you've "gone away" from yourself and your relationship. Dr. Stephen Mitchell and Erin Mitchell, MACP explore how even couples who excel at coordinating family life can struggle to maintain meaningful connection when schedules explode.We introduce three practical strategies for staying connected without requiring what most parents simply don't have – abundant free time. Through self-reflection, curiosity about your partner, and reimagining how connection happens, couples can maintain intimacy during chaotic seasons. The key insight? Micro-moments matter. Just as small disconnections accumulate to create distance, intentional moments of connection – even just a minute or two – build a foundation of closeness that sustains relationships through busy parenting years.Using the story of Gabby and Latrice, we demonstrate how real couples can incorporate these practices into everyday moments like brushing teeth together or sending a thoughtful text. You'll learn how to ask questions that truly invite your partner to share, how to use the time you already have for meaningful reflection, and how to appreciate connection attempts even when they don't land perfectly.Whether you're in the thick of back-to-school madness or navigating any busy season of family life, this episode offers hope that your relationship doesn't have to disappear when time feels impossible. Try our three-step approach and discover how small moments can create lasting connection during life's busiest chapters.Want to talk with Stephen or Erin individually or as a couple for coaching? Schedule a free consult today: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells

Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.Remember when you first fell in love? That magical feeling of finding someone who didn't trigger your deepest wounds but seemed to heal them instead? Fast forward through careers, kids, and countless responsibilities, and suddenly those same wounds are wide open again – activated by the very person who once soothed them.This episode tackles the universal feeling many couples experience but rarely discuss openly: the sense that your partner is actually making your life harder rather than easier. Through the relatable story of Greg and Lucia's conflict over forgotten sports equipment, we unpack how seemingly small disagreements transform into major emotional disconnections. For Greg, whose childhood featured constant criticism, his partner's frustration triggers deep feelings of inadequacy. For Lucia, whose father's absence left lasting abandonment wounds, her partner's oversight reinforces her fear of handling everything alone.The breakthrough comes in understanding that our relational pain doesn't disappear – but we can change how we respond to it. When both partners recognize what's really happening beneath surface-level conflicts, conversation shifts from blame to understanding. We provide a practical framework for effective repair: validating each other's experiences, acknowledging impact, taking responsibility, and committing to future changes. As we demonstrate through Greg and Lucia's repair conversation, this approach allows couples to honor both their individual wounds and their shared commitment to connection.Most powerfully, we explore the crucial distinction that explanations are not excuses. Understanding why you react strongly to certain triggers doesn't absolve you from taking responsibility – it empowers you to respond differently. When couples embrace this principle, they transform from adversaries into allies, using their stories not as weapons but as bridges for deeper understanding.Ready to break free from recurring conflicts and build a stronger connection with your partner? Schedule a free consultation through our website to learn how our unique couples coaching approach can help you move from conflict to true partnership or paste this link your URL to view our consultation calendar: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells

In a reflective milestone discussion, the hosts share transformative insights from years of counseling couples. They emphasize the bravery needed to confront fears and how humility fosters healing. Curiosity is highlighted as a key tool to defuse tension, while understanding your partner's past can reshape conflicts. They advocate for celebrating joy amidst challenges and reveal how parenting often drives couples to overcome dysfunctional patterns. Ultimately, conflict is reframed as an opportunity for connection and growth.

Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.Remember when you and your partner felt like soulmates, deeply connected and growing stronger together? Then parenthood arrived, and suddenly those old insecurities you thought were healed came rushing back with surprising force. You're not alone, and no—you didn't make a mistake choosing each other.Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP state, "What's happening is a normal developmental challenge that catches most couples by surprise." The intense stress of parenting activates our nervous systems, bringing along familiar patterns, thoughts and feelings from our past. Your partner, who once soothed these core wounds, seems to be triggering them at the worst possible moment.Through the story of Annabeth and Selena, we explore how one partner's feeling of "everything falls on me" collides with the other's sense that "nothing I do is ever enough"—creating a painful cycle that many parents recognize. When Annabeth expresses feeling overwhelmed and alone, Selena withdraws, feeling criticized and inadequate. Each response intensifies the other's core wound, despite their deep love for each other.The path forward isn't about solving logistical problems or dividing tasks differently. It begins with understanding which pattern you tend toward, exploring the deeper stories behind your reactions, and learning to talk about the feelings themselves rather than arguing about surface issues. When partners can vulnerably share "When this happens, I notice I start feeling alone like I did growing up" instead of launching into criticism or defensiveness, everything changes.This episode offers a four-step process to transform these painful cycles into opportunities for deeper connection. You'll learn to recognize your pattern, understand its origins, communicate vulnerably about the feelings, and establish regular check-ins to prevent buildup.Ready to turn relationship regression into progression? Listen now, and discover how the very wounds causing disconnection can become your pathway to profound intimacy.

Discover the complexities of navigating ADHD in relationships with insightful guidance. The hosts tackle tough questions about communication and support when one partner is hesitant to seek help. Learn how to address behaviors without triggering shame, and explore the significance of empathy in parenting discussions. They introduce a five-step process to foster understanding and proactive support, encouraging couples to replace criticism with curiosity. Dive into practical strategies for transforming your conversations about ADHD and strengthening your bond.

Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.The complexity of ADHD can transform a loving partnership into a battlefield of misunderstanding, shame, and resentment—especially when children enter the picture. After receiving an overwhelming response to a social media post about ADHD in relationships, we knew we needed to address this increasingly common challenge faced by parenting partners.In this first episode of our two-part series, we explore four specific scenarios where ADHD creates conflict between parenting partners: when the default parent has ADHD, when the non-default parent has ADHD, when both partners have ADHD, and when parenting a child with ADHD. Drawing from professional expertise and personal experience, Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP dive into how ADHD affects parenting partner relationships and leads to disconnection and conflict. Stephen and Erin unpack the neurological reality of ADHD as more than just a willpower issue, examining how dopamine processing affects everything from organization to emotional regulation. Most importantly, we reveal how deeply-rooted shame narratives can drive defensive reactions when partners express frustration, creating cycles of conflict that feel impossible to break.Whether you suspect ADHD plays a role in your relationship challenges or you're already navigating this reality, this episode offers validation, clarity, and hope. Join us next week when we'll share specific processes for resolving these conflicts and building stronger connections despite—and sometimes because of—your neurodivergent partnership.Resources mentioned in show: ADHD 2.0 book link: https://a.co/d/hBLUekw@alex_partridge_100

Explore the complex world of parenting differences through the story of a couple grappling with bedtime battles. Uncover how contrasting beliefs about discipline and understanding can lead to conflict. Delve into the neuroscience behind emotional attunement and the impact of personal backgrounds on parenting choices. The discussion emphasizes the importance of empathy, intentionality, and open communication as tools for bridging the gap and fostering a supportive environment for children.