Something Positive for Positive People

There's a lesson on forgiveness to be learned here. I've always considered myself fortunate to not know where I got herpes from. Not knowing left me with no one to blame. What about those who have a firm belief they know exactly where they got it from and those who know due to having been informed? This podcast is for those people. Learning to take the lesson on forgiveness when you come to learn that there really is just no blame.

We open out the gate with ethics of people practicing various forms of therapy without any certifications. Sometimes people NEED therapists, but WANT a friend. Without being dismissive, we sort through how you as a friend can suggest therapy without running the risk of losing a friend like we may fear. The conversation went several different directions but definitely loads of useful information and nuggets. For starters, people aren't necessarily boring, they are often HIDING. Hiding their true selves in fear of being found out and judged. Why do we sometimes feel more safe opening up to strangers than we do our own support system? Can there be romance without finance? Why do we make marriage about love when it has historically been about status and resources? We discuss compersion in multiple relationships and how outsourcing different needs and wants is more of the norm. When one feels challenged by this, you have to ask why you view it as a threat. Last but not least, queer sex is where it's at!

If you're considering purchasing a herpes cure from one of those social media accounts that shares the Gmail email address as a contact, please just don't. What you should do is consider listening to someone who did purchase it so that you can be best equipped to make the best decision for yourself. Our guest shares the red flags she missed so that you can find your way to healing that doesn't cost $2k. As of the release of this podcast episode, there is no known cure for herpes that permanently removes the virus from our nerves, prevents outbreaks or protect partners from exposure. Our guest's story involves sexual assault so protect yourself as needed while listening through this podcast episode.

Respecting identities is suicide prevention. Our guest this week shares her earliest memories of homophobia experienced by her father. She reflects on her anger up until 35 years of age when she finally saw fit to just be herself. Despite having lost her comfort in the privilege she had, she is far more happy and confident now than she ever was in denial about who she was. Please enjoy this episode of Something Positive for Positive People with Staci Bratten!

The response we receive to our first disclosure often shapes how we move forward with future disclosures. A positive experience shapes our expected response just as a negative one does. We talk about disclosing in kink in a sense of comparing sex in kink communities as it parallels with driving in NASCAR. I really loved this analogy! Most important, we discuss the idea that relationships aren't all about sexual intimacy. It's more than that and when we enter relationships, we share space psychologically, emotionally, energetically. There’s an echo that follows when I speak but our guest is crystal clear. I encourage you to listen without headphones or just turn me down when I speak so that you can get this great content from Laura!

Seems like whenever I question or doubt myself in this space I'm met with just what I need to see or hear from someone. I share thank you messages on social media but this one . . . I let Heather share

There are many ways to get involved with advocacy. In my experience, I've connected with people who get inspired by someone's work in this space and charge into making a social media post sharing that they are positive for herpes. If you're in that space, I encourage you to listen to this podcast episode so that you have more perspective to make the most informed decision you possibly can.

After a positive diagnosis, one can experience a loss of identity. Clarice Connelly and I go into the development of identity and healthy places to construct your new identity.

Welcome to the 100th spfpp episode (by number). I answer a few listener questions and interview the mind behind the sexually expressive Instagram handle, @strictlysex, Follow her for a sex positive, explicit sharing of sexual turn-ons, wins and conversations with like-minded people in this space. We talk about her recent diagnosis with genital HSV-1 and her experiences with past partners who've had herpes prior to her diagnosis.

Dr. Evelin Dacker, a board-certified family physician and executive director of Sex Positive Portland, discusses a new safer sexual communication model called STARS. This method helps individuals disclose herpes statuses to partners, emphasizing self-awareness and clear intentions for healthier relationships. Dacker highlights how shame influences our experiences and stresses that we are not defined by our infections. The conversation also touches on the importance of consent, personal boundaries, and open dialogues to enhance intimacy.