The arrival fallacy, akin to the 'happily ever after' fallacy, reveals our flawed expectations about future happiness. People often believe that achieving specific milestones, such as buying a new house or receiving a promotion, will lead to significant and lasting joy. However, research in affective forecasting shows that these predictions are typically inaccurate; the actual boost in happiness is less intense and shorter-lived than anticipated. This misconception persists even among wealthy individuals, who may chase higher financial goals—thinking extreme wealth will bring lasting happiness—only to find that it doesn't meet their expectations. Instead of reevaluating their assumptions about fulfillment, they often set new, higher targets, continuing the cycle of disappointment without recognizing the fallacy in their rationalizations. This pattern underscores a common human bias regarding the relationship between life circumstances and emotional well-being.
Can you accurately identify what aspects of life make you happy? Would you even know if you found true happiness? Leading psychology professor and happiness expert Laurie Santos dives deep on all the factors that contribute to our happiness, why we spend so much energy pursuing it, some evidence-based methods to boost your happiness, why it’s crucial to protect yourself from unhappy people, and so much more.
Santos is a Professor of Psychology and the Head of Silliman College at Yale University. Since 2018 she’s been teaching Psychology and the Good Life, which is one of the most popular courses at Yale and at one point included approximately a quarter of the school’s undergraduates. She has also turned her course into a popular podcast series, The Happiness Lab.