Executive Producer DJ Cashmere interviews Kaira Jewel Lingo, a former nun, Vinny Ferraro, a veteran Dharma teacher, and Matthew Brensilver, who blends mindfulness with addiction insights. They explore effective ways to handle anger, both in others and within ourselves. Expect practical strategies grounded in mindfulness, the significance of clear communication, and heartfelt anecdotes emphasizing empathy and personal boundaries. Discover how embracing love alongside anger can transform relationships and lead to deeper understanding.

Is it possible to learn to spot which state your nervous system is in and move from suboptimal states to much better ones? The subject of how to work with your own nervous system is called Polyvagal Theory and today’s guests Deb Dana & Kaira Jewel Lingo will give us a primer on what that exactly means. They will also talk about how our nervous systems are connected to the nervous systems of other people, and how we can learn to co-regulate our systems for the betterment of others.  Deb Dana is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is a clinician, consultant and author specializing in complex trauma.  Her work is focused on using the lens of Polyvagal Theory to understand and resolve the impact of trauma, and creating ways of working that honor the role of the autonomic nervous system. She has written several books, including Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory.    Kaira Jewel Lingo is a Dharma teacher with a lifelong interest in spirituality and social justice. After living as an ordained nun for 15 years in Thich Nhat Hanh’s monastic community, Kaira Jewel now teaches internationally in the Zen lineage and the Vipassana tradition, as well as in secular mindfulness, with a focus on activists, Black, Indigenous, and People of Color, artists, educators, families, and youth. She is author of We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons for Moving Through Change, Loss, and Disruption.    This is the third installment of our series called, The Art and Science of Keeping Your Sh*t Together. In each episode we bring together a meditative adept or Buddhist scholar and a respected scientist. The idea is to give you the best of both worlds to arm you with both modern and ancient tools for regulating your emotions. In this episode we talk about: The basics of Polyvagal Theory A fascinating and easily graspable concept from Buddhist psychology called, “store consciousness” The interconnectedness of our nervous systems and the responsibility that creates for all of us How to handle being annoyed What happens when we beat ourselves up with “shoulds,” and how to stop doing that The value of simply knowing, in the moments when you’re stuck, that those moments are impermanent How to allow your suffering to inform your life The value of “micro-moments” Two ways of caring for painful states without suppressing them And the power of action and service in overcoming anxiety Full Shownotes: www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/deb-dana-kaira-jewel-lingo-522

Former nun and lay dharma teacher, Kaira Jewel Lingo, shares three Buddhist strategies to cope with overwhelming news: mindful consumption, self-care, and skillful action. They discuss the importance of balancing staying informed with avoiding overwhelm, the negativity bias in news consumption, and the power of creating spaces for healing and effectiveness. They also emphasize the benefits of taking action and acting together for a better world.

Kaira Jewel Lingo, a Dharma teacher and expert in blending spirituality with social justice, shares profound insights on navigating life's inevitable changes. She discusses her transformative journey from monastic life to daily living, emphasizing community support and mindfulness. Kaira highlights the importance of accepting uncertainty and the power of gratitude, while offering practical strategies for resilience. With anecdotes drawn from her experiences, she inspires listeners to embrace the present and cultivate a mindset for positive transformation.

Kaira Jewel Lingo, a former ordained Buddhist nun and meditation teacher, joins Valerie Brown, a former lawyer turned Dharma teacher, and Marisela Gomez, a physician and public health scholar. They discuss six transformative Buddhist practices for navigating life's chaos, particularly during the upcoming U.S. elections. The trio shares the valuable mindfulness technique of The Four Chairs for conflict resolution, the importance of transforming anger into compassion, and the power of journaling for personal growth and emotional clarity.

Matthew Brensilver, a Dharma teacher with a focus on mindfulness, Vinny Ferraro, known for his meditation expertise, and Kaira Jewel Lingo, a former nun with unique spiritual insights, discuss the complexities of anger. They explore how to embrace rather than suppress anger, viewing it as a potential catalyst for personal growth. The trio offers practical strategies for managing this intense emotion, emphasizing self-compassion and mindful reflection. Listeners learn how to navigate anger through love and deeper self-understanding.

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. This episode explores a Buddhist tool for resolving conflict and keeping your relationships on the rails. This tool, known as the Beginning Anew practice, was designed by the Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh, who died back in January, and who we are celebrating this week on the show. On Monday’s episode, we spoke with a long-time student of Thich Nhat Hanh, Brother Phap Dung. Today’s guest is Kaira Jewel Lingo. She was an ordained nun for 15 years in Thich Nhat Hanh’s Order of Interbeing. She's now a lay dharma teacher based on Long Island. She graduated from Stanford University with a B.A. and an M.A. in anthropology and social sciences. She’s also the author of a recent book called, We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons on Moving Through Change, Loss, and Disruption.  This interview discusses the Beginning Anew practice and:  The four steps of the practice.  How even skeptics can see the value in the practice.  How it can strengthen relationships and resolve conflict.  Kaira Jewel's own experience with the practice as both a teacher and a practitioner. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/kaira-jewel-lingo-repost

Kaira Jewel Lingo, an author and community nurturer, discusses her transformative journey from communal living with Thich Nhat Hanh to exploring racial identity in spiritual practice. She beautifully integrates mindfulness and meditation, guiding listeners to connect with their skin's stories and their ancestry. The conversation emphasizes the collective healing needed in communities affected by racism and how essential it is to foster genuine relationships. Kaira’s insights inspire hope as we navigate the complexities of identity and seek supportive spaces in a fragmented world.

Kaira Jewel Lingo, a Buddhist teacher and author, shares her journey from life as a nun with Thich Nhat Hanh to embracing uncertainty. They discuss the importance of cultivating trust during change and the interplay between anxiety and openness. Kaira emphasizes joyful engagement in the face of suffering and outlines practical ways to practice equanimity. The conversation highlights the transformative power of community and the significance of maintaining inner peace amidst the world's unpredictability.

We all know that change is inevitable and impermanence is non-negotiable. But somehow it can feel surprising, maybe even wrong, when we personally hit turbulence. The Buddha had a lot to say about this, and so does our guest.  Kaira Jewel Lingo has come back to the show to talk about her new book, We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons on Moving Through Change, Loss, and Disruption. This episode explores a few of those strategies including: waking up to what’s happening right now; trusting the unknown; a Buddhist list called the Five Remembrances; how gratitude helps us in times of disruption; and accepting what is (and why this is different from resignation or passivity).  Kaira herself is no stranger to impermanence: she spent 15 years as a Buddhist nun, and then decided to leave, which caused no small amount of disruption.  Please note: There are brief mentions of domestic violence, abuse, the suffering of refugees, and war in this episode. To help you find your way during times of upheaval, loss, and transition, Kaira Jewel has recorded a series of meditations in the Ten Percent Happier app. Check it out by downloading the Ten Percent Happier app wherever you get your apps, tapping on the Singles tab, and searching for the topic called "Made for These Hard Times." Or, you can just click here. And while you’re there, be sure to listen to our new podcast, Twenty Percent Happier, available exclusively in the Ten Percent Happier app.  Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/kaira-jewel-lingo-390