In this episode, my guest is Dr. David Buss, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas, Austin, and one of the founding members of the field of evolutionary psychology.Dr. Buss describes his work on how people select mates for short and long-term relationships, the dynamics of human courtship, and mate value assessment — meaning how people measure up as potential partners. We also discuss the causes of infidelity and differences for infidelity in men and women. He explains how people evaluate and try to alter other people’s mate value as a means to secure and even poach mates. We discuss monogamous and non-monogamous relationships in humans. And we discuss what Dr. Buss calls “the dark triad” — features common in stalkers and narcissists that relate to sexual and psychological violence in relationships.This episode is sure to be of interest to anyone single or in a relationship who seeks to know how people select mates and anyone who is interested in forming and maintaining healthy romantic partnerships. Read the full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com.Thank you to our sponsorsAG1: https://athleticgreens.com/hubermanLMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanlabWaking Up: https://wakingup.com/hubermanMomentous: https://livemomentous.com/hubermanTimestamps00:00:00 Introducing Dr. David Buss  00:04:27 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up00:08:33 Choosing a Mate  00:13:40 Long Term Mates: Universal Desires  00:18:31 What Women & Men Seek in Long-Term Mates  00:25:10 Age Differences & Mating History  00:32:20 Deception in Courtship  00:37:30 Emotional Stability  00:38:40 Lying About Long-Term Interest  00:41:56 Short-Term Mating Criteria, Sliding Standards & Context Effects  00:46:25 Sexual Infidelity: Variety Seeking & (Un)happiness & Mate Switching  00:54:25 Genetic Cuckolds, How Ovulation Impacts Mate Preference  00:57:00 Long-Term vs. Short-Term Cheating, Concealment  00:59:15 Emotional & Financial Infidelity  01:04:35 Contraception  01:06:22 Status & Mating Success  01:10:10 Jealousy, Mate Value Discrepancies, Vigilance, Violence  01:24:13 Specificity of Intimate Partner Violence  01:25:12 Mate Retention Tactics: Denigration, Guilt, Etc.  01:27:33 Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy  01:33:25 Stalking  01:39:15 Influence of Children on Mate Value Assessments  01:43:24 Attachment Styles, Mate Choice & Infidelity  01:46:40 Non-Monogamy, Unconventional Relationships  01:54:00 Mate Value Self Evaluation, Anxiety About the Truth  02:02:12 Self Deception  02:05:35 The Future of Evolutionary Psychology & Neuroscience  02:06:56 Books: When Men Behave Badly, The Evolution of Desire, Textbooks  02:10:42 Concluding Statements, Zero-Cost Support: Subscribe, Sponsors, Supplements  Disclaimer

David Buss is an evolutionary psychologist at UT Austin. He is one of the founders of the field of evolutionary psychology. His current research is on sex differences in mate selection, mate attraction, infidelity, and the emotions of jealousy, lust, and love. Please support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: – Notion: https://notion.com/startups  – ExpressVPN: https://expressvpn.com/lexpod and use code LexPod  – Roka: https://roka.com/ and use code LEX  – Onnit: https://lexfridman.com/onnit  – Indeed: https://indeed.com/lex  EPISODE LINKS: David’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/profdavidbuss David’s Website: https://labs.la.utexas.edu/buss/ When Men Behave Badly (book): https://amzn.to/3y3bRVM The Evolution of Desire (book): https://amzn.to/3kyBdTt Evolutionary Psychology (textbook): https://amzn.to/3LExU9e Derogation of Competitors (research paper): https://bit.ly/38G4LMa PODCAST INFO: Podcast website: https://lexfridman.com/podcast Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2lwqZIr Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2nEwCF8 RSS: https://lexfridman.com/feed/podcast/ YouTube Full Episodes: https://youtube.com/lexfridman YouTube Clips: https://youtube.com/lexclips SUPPORT & CONNECT: – Check out the sponsors above, it’s the best way to support this podcast – Support on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/lexfridman – Twitter: https://twitter.com/lexfridman – Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lexfridman – LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lexfridman – Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lexfridman – Medium: https://medium.com/@lexfridman OUTLINE: Here’s the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) – Introduction (08:04) – Sex vs Violence (14:48) – Mating strategies (26:44) – Social construct of beauty (30:38) – Evolution of mating evaluation (34:40) – Mating selection desires (39:52) – Difficulties of monogamy (46:16) – Importance of male appearance (48:52) – Importance of wealth (52:08) – Penis and breasts (55:59) – Fashion (58:58) – Body objectification (1:06:33) – Wear sunscreen (1:13:29) – Gender (1:30:39) – What motivates humans (1:32:29) – Dominance and submissiveness (1:40:33) – Johnny Depp defamation trial (1:50:24) – Jealousy (1:58:45) – Mate poaching (2:02:58) – Polyamory (2:14:13) – Female vs Male sexuality (2:23:11) – Pornography (2:29:46) – Sex and Violence continued (2:38:55) – Cancel culture (2:50:38) – Elon Musk and Twitter (2:59:02) – Serial killers (3:04:55) – Advice for young people (3:16:57) – Love (3:22:57) – Mortality (3:27:40) – Meaning of life

This episode was recorded on October 26, 2021.As an alternative for those who would rather listen ad-free, sign up for a premium subscription to receive the following:• All JBP Podcast episodes ad-free• Monthly Ask-Me-Anything episodes (and the ability to ask questions)• Presale access to events• Premium, detailed show notes for future episodesSign up here: https://jordanbpeterson.supercast.com/Dr. David Buss and I discuss his groundbreaking work in evolutionary psychology. Our conversation forays into human mating practices & strategies, female preferences, dominance hierarchies, (fe)male aggression, emotional regulation & status, the dark triad (narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy), inherent inequality, and much more.Dr. David Buss is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas who has also taught at Harvard and the University of Michigan. He is considered the world’s leading expert on human mating strategies and is one of the founders of the field of evolutionary psychology.His books include The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating, Evolutionary Psychology: The New Science of the Mind, The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex, The Murderer Next Door: Why the Mind Is Designed to Kill, and Why Women Have Sex.Get Dr. Buss’ latest book, When Men Behave Badly: The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault:https://amazon.com/When-Men-Behave-Badly-Harassment/dp/B08ZT82RH6/ref=sr_1_2?qid=1642690863&refinements=p_27%3ADavid+Buss&s=books&sr=1-2& previous works: https://amazon.com/Books-David-Buss/s?rh=n%3A283155%2Cp_27%3ADavid+BussFollow Dr. Buss on Twitter: https://twitter.com/profdavidbuss______________Chapters______________[00:00] Intro[02:09] Career Background[06:50] Human Mating Strategies[09:18] Patriarchy & Mating[10:52] Female Preferences & Resource Acquisition[14:54] Sexual Selection Theory: An Overview[25:23] Patriarchy: Origins[27:36] (Dominance) Hierarchies[40:20] Women & the Dark Triad (Narcissism, Machiavelianism, & Psychopathy)[57:59] Attention & (Fe)male Selection[01:04:24] Violence[01:07:47] Emotional Regulation & Status[01:13:59] Disturbing Ethical Conclusions[01:20:25] (Fe)male Aggression[01:23:29] Monogamy & Violence[01:28:30] Inequality[01:33:40] Why Strategies Differ[01:42:45] Outro#Evolution #Hierarchies #Patriarchy #Violence #Gender #Monogamy

David Buss (@ProfDavidBuss) is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. He is considered the world’s leading scientific expert on strategies of human mating, and his most recent book is — appropriately enough — The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with David Buss: Why does mating matter? The mating crisis among educated women. How to select a good long-term mate. What leads to mating disasters. What we can do to become better long-term mates. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/758 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Missed our conversation with Daniel Pink in which we discussed the psychology, biology, and economics behind scheduling for optimal effect (including sleep) — and why your ideal time to get something done may widely differ from someone else’s? Catch up with episode 63: Daniel Pink | When Is the Best Time to Get Things Done? Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!

In this episode of the podcast, Sam Harris speaks with David Buss about the differential mating strategies of men and women. They discuss the controversy that surrounds evolutionary psychology, the denial of sex differences, cross-cultural findings in social science, the replication crisis in psychology, the biological definition of sex, why men and women have affairs, ovulatory shifts in mate preference, sex differences in jealousy and infidelity, the sources of unhappiness in marriage, mate-value discrepancies, what we can learn from dating apps, polyamory and polygamy, the plight of stepchildren, the “Dark Triad” personality type, the MeToo movement, and other topics. David Buss is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. Buss previously taught at Harvard University and the University of Michigan. He is considered the world’s leading scientific expert on strategies of human mating and one of the founders of the field of evolutionary psychology. His books include The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating; Evolutionary Psychology: The New Science of the Mind, The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex, The Murderer Next Door: Why the Mind is Designed to Kill, and Why Women Have Sex (with Cindy Meston). His new book When Men Behave Badly: The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault uncovers the evolutionary roots of conflict between the sexes. Buss has more than 300 scientific publications. In 2019, he was cited as one of the 50 most influential living psychologists in the world. Website: davidbuss.com Twitter: @ProfDavidBuss    Learning how to train your mind is the single greatest investment you can make in life. That’s why Sam Harris created the Waking Up app. From rational mindfulness practice to lessons on some of life’s most important topics, join Sam as he demystifies the practice of meditation and explores the theory behind it. Episodes that have been re-released as part of the Best of Making Sense series may have been edited for relevance since their original airing.

David Buss is one of the founders of the field of Evolutionary Psychology, Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas and an author.The topic of sexual deception, harassment and assault are an emotive, highly charged conversation. Men are accused and women are afraid. But why do these conflicts even arise? Why is it that men and women's sexual desires diverge? David's new book opens Pandora's Box to this murky world.Expect to learn the key differences to men & women's sexual desires, how the over-perception bias explains much of why we are confused, why women are attracted to bad boys, how men are mentally hardwired to objectify women, how mate-value discrepancy can cause all manner of catastrophes, whether all men are rapists and much more...Sponsors:Get 19% discount, 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and Free Shipping from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied)Get 10% discount on your first month from BetterHelp at https://betterhelp.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied)Extra Stuff:Follow David on Twitter - https://twitter.com/profdavidbussBuy When Men Behave Badly - https://amzn.to/3vFH7FO Get my free Ultimate Life Hacks List to 10x your daily productivity → https://chriswillx.com/lifehacks/To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom-Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me...Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillxTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillxYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcastEmail: https://www.chriswillx.com/contact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Sam Harris speaks with David Buss about the differential mating strategies of men and women. They discuss the controversy that surrounds evolutionary psychology, the denial of sex differences, cross-cultural findings in social science, the replication crisis in psychology, the biological definition of sex, why men and women have affairs, ovulatory shifts in mate preference, sex differences in jealousy and infidelity, the sources of unhappiness in marriage, mate-value discrepancies, what we can learn from dating apps, polyamory and polygamy, the plight of stepchildren, the “Dark Triad” personality type, the MeToo movement, and other topics. If the Making Sense podcast logo in your player is BLACK, you can SUBSCRIBE to gain access to all full-length episodes at samharris.org/subscribe.   Learning how to train your mind is the single greatest investment you can make in life. That’s why Sam Harris created the Waking Up app. From rational mindfulness practice to lessons on some of life’s most important topics, join Sam as he demystifies the practice of meditation and explores the theory behind it.

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David Buss (@profdavidbuss) is considered the world’s leading scientific expert on the evolutionary psychology of human mating strategies. He is the author of several books on the subject, most recently When Men Behave Badly: The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault. What We Discuss with David Buss: Why, from an evolutionary standpoint, the reproductive interests of males and females sometimes diverge. Why metabolizing alcohol differently makes women more susceptible to an expectation of bonding (and how some men exploit this). The Dark Triad traits that mark the men most likely to have short-term relationships and cheat. How do women use active signaling to show they're more open to short-term relationships? She's not playing hard to get. If she rejects you softly, it isn't an invitation to try harder -- it's a survival tactic meant to avoid prompting a violent reaction. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/573 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!