S4 Episode 10: Unspoken Rules of Dysfunctional Families with Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS

Aug 16, 2024

Kaytee Gillis, a psychotherapist specializing in family trauma, shares her insights on dysfunctional family dynamics. She discusses the roles individuals adopt within such families, like the scapegoat and hero, and their lasting effects. The conversation also highlights emotional challenges exacerbated by the pandemic, particularly for men. Kaytee emphasizes the importance of healthy communication and emotional expression to counteract the pain of childhood neglect and abandonment. Listeners gain valuable tools for navigating their own complex familial relationships.

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Intro

00:00 • 3min

Exploring Family Dysfunction and Trauma

02:58 • 6min

Confronting Emotional Challenges Amidst a Pandemic

09:25 • 3min

Roles in Dysfunctional Families

12:05 • 15min

Dysfunctional Family Dynamics and Communication

27:16 • 20min

Navigating Dysfunction: Family Dynamics and Emotional Burdens

47:07 • 13min

Bridging the Gap: Simplifying Mental Health Communication

01:00:14 • 2min

Navigating Emotional Complexity in Dysfunctional Families

01:02:23 • 19min

Understanding the Impact of Abandonment on Adult Behaviors

01:21:31 • 2min

Navigating Dysfunctional Family Dynamics

01:23:53 • 13min

Kaytee Gillis is a psychotherapist, consultant, and an author who specializes in working with survivors of family of origin trauma, including childhood emotional neglect and family dysfunction, as well as survivors of traumatic relationships. Kaytee is the author of 3 books and has a popular blog on Psychology Today with over 7 million views and she’s been featured on iHeart radio, SiriusXM Doctor Radio, The Los Angeles Times, CP24 News, Shaye Ganam, Newsweek, Psychotherapy Networker, and others. Kaytee is a dedicated professional who provides training and helps her clients recognize patterns of domestic violence and family trauma and she is passionate about helping survivors heal and move forward.

Connect with Kaytee:

Instagram - @kayteegillis

Website - www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com

Psychology Today blog- www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises

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