S3 Ep91: Underneath Boredom Is Anger (and Other Tales of Repressed Emotions)
May 24, 2024
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A member shares her deep-rooted triggers associated with boredom, stemming from childhood experiences of feeling invisible. This conversation unveils how emotions like anger can hide beneath seemingly harmless feelings. The host delves into the phenomenon of fawning, connecting it to unresolved trauma and chronic pain. Listeners learn the importance of self-discovery and how journaling can help confront repressed feelings. Community support emerges as a key element in healing from emotional pain.
Boredom can serve as a signal for repressed anger stemming from unresolved emotional experiences, encouraging individuals to explore their deeper feelings.
Fawning, a learned behavior from childhood trauma, allows adults to neglect their needs, often resulting in chronic pain and emotional distress.
Deep dives
Understanding Fawning and Its Impact
Fawning, an extreme form of people-pleasing, is a behavior that develops as a defense mechanism in response to childhood trauma or threatening situations. Adults often revert to fawning when faced with triggers that remind them of times they felt powerless as children, leading them to neglect their own needs to please others. This coping strategy can have detrimental effects on mental and physical health, as repressing emotions may result in chronic pain or illness. Engaging in self-reflection and recognizing these patterns is crucial for healing and moving beyond these ingrained survival tactics.
Exploring the Link Between Boredom and Repressed Anger
Boredom, often perceived as a mundane feeling, can actually be a manifestation of repressed anger from unresolved emotional experiences. Through introspection during journaling, individuals may uncover that feelings of boredom stem from deeper emotions, such as frustration or exclusion. Acknowledging these underlying feelings allows for a more honest expression of self, promoting healing and potentially alleviating symptoms tied to chronic conditions. Recognizing boredom as a signal to explore suppressed emotions can empower individuals to confront and process their feelings more effectively.
The Transformational Power of Journal Speak
Journal Speak is an expressive writing technique designed to help individuals articulate and process deep-seated emotions that contribute to chronic pain and distress. By committing just 20 to 30 minutes daily to write freely and candidly about personal feelings, participants can uncover repressed emotions that may manifest in physical symptoms. This practice not only enables emotional release but also facilitates a deeper understanding of oneself, aiding in the healing process. The simplicity of this technique belies its powerful impact, as many experience profound transformations in their health and well-being through consistent practice.
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Exploring Personal Insights on Chronic Pain and Community Engagement
Recently we had the most enlightening conversation in our Membership Community. Lisa and I were leading our monthly community-wide meeting, and one of our members shared about how triggered she was when she was bored. She recounted growing up with 30-40 cousins, and she was the youngest. Every time they had family events, she had to sit there for hours, not being seen, heard, or cared about. She was just too young to be part of the discussion. Now, as a grown woman in her 60's, this lovely soul was so triggered by being "bored" that she developed pain in her body during these times! I knew there was more to this story. Join me today for a one-on-one hang where I explain why underneath boredom is anger, and shed light on the many ways we unconsciously avoid our big feelings.
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