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Elizabeth Gilbert On Love, Loss, And Liberation

Sep 22, 2025
Elizabeth Gilbert, bestselling author of 'Eat, Pray, Love,' shares insights from her new memoir, 'All the Way to the River.' She opens up about her relationship with Rayya Elias, exploring themes of love, addiction, and caregiving. Gilbert discusses her own struggles with love addiction and the chaos that ensued while caring for Rayya. John Powers reviews the FX series 'The Lowdown,' providing a fresh perspective on television. Together, they delve deep into the complexities of love and healing.
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ANECDOTE

Writing To 'Download' A Loved One

  • Elizabeth Gilbert began writing about Rayya from the day Rayya received a terminal cancer diagnosis to "download her" before she died.
  • She waited seven years after Rayya's death to finish the book while processing events and her role.
ANECDOTE

Mutual Descent Into Addiction

  • Rayya relapsed into heroin and cocaine use after her cancer diagnosis and escalated into a harrowing addiction.
  • Gilbert describes her own descent into enabling behavior and boundary collapse alongside Rayya's relapse.
INSIGHT

People As A Process Addiction

  • Gilbert frames her pattern as a process addiction: she is addicted to people while Rayya was addicted to substances.
  • She links unmet need for love in childhood to compulsive behaviors that persist across adulthood.
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