Jennifer and her fiance agreed to go to therapy together to address unresolved issues and build trust in their relationship.
Jennifer recognized her power in making choices and let go of feelings of shame, embracing the idea of being the protagonist in her own life.
Jennifer prioritizes open and honest communication, vulnerability, and personal growth through therapy to strengthen her relationship and align her life with her values and desires.
Deep dives
Honest conversation and therapy
Jennifer had an honest conversation with her fiance about the need for therapy, framing it as a way to avoid unresolved issues and build trust. He responded positively and agreed to go. Jennifer also decided to go to individual therapy to address her own unresolved issues. She found the exercise of rewriting her story and taking ownership of her choices empowering, allowing her to feel more in control of her life.
Taking responsibility for her choices
Jennifer realized that she played an active role in her life's major decisions, such as choosing not to use birth control and deciding to be with her fiance. She let go of feelings of shame and recognized her power in making choices. She also acknowledged the need for therapy to address unresolved issues from her childhood and wants to face the truth, whatever it may be.
Reframing her story
By rewriting her story, Jennifer is shifting from being passive to being the protagonist in her life. She recognizes that she can be more intentional with her choices and take control of her own narrative. She is embracing the idea of being in the driver's seat of her life and making decisions based on her own needs and desires.
Embracing openness and vulnerability
Jennifer is committed to open and honest communication with her partner, recognizing the importance of addressing difficult issues and building trust. She is willing to embrace vulnerability and face the challenges that therapy might bring, knowing that it will ultimately lead to growth and a stronger relationship.
Prioritizing personal growth and well-being
Jennifer's decision to prioritize her own personal growth and seek therapy demonstrates her commitment to her own well-being and the well-being of her relationship. She is ready to take responsibility for her choices, face her fears, and drive her life in a direction that aligns with her values and desires.
Hey, Fellow Travelers. Jennifer caught her fiance sending flirtatious messages to his previous girlfriend on Instagram, and feels stuck about how to address this. We help her see how her own narrative about her life is keeping her in the passenger seat and preventing her from taking charge of her decisions.
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