Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist and bestselling author, shares her deep insights on breaking unhealthy relationship patterns. She challenges listeners to reconsider their narratives and explore why they feel 'stuck.' The conversation dives into how understanding envy can reveal true desires and the painful yet essential nature of change. Gottlieb also emphasizes the need for small, intentional steps toward transformation, urging self-compassion and authenticity in the journey of personal growth.
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insights INSIGHT
Unreliable Narrators Trap Us
People come to therapy to unlearn limiting stories that keep them stuck.
We all have unreliable narrators shaping distorted and incomplete versions of our life stories.
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Unknow Yourself to Grow
Unknow yourself by letting go of limiting and false self-narratives.
Be curious about others' perspectives to improve understanding and communication.
insights INSIGHT
Insight Is Just the Start
Insight alone is insufficient; real change comes from acting differently with new knowledge.
Behavior change is key after understanding your role in problems.
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A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
Lori Gottlieb
In 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,' Lori Gottlieb presents a dual narrative where she recounts her experiences as a psychotherapist working with various patients and as a patient herself, seeking therapy after a sudden and devastating breakup. The book introduces several patients, including a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with terminal cancer, a senior citizen contemplating ending her life, and a young woman struggling with alcoholism and poor relationship choices. Through these stories, Gottlieb sheds light on the therapeutic process, highlighting the complexities of human emotions, the importance of connection, and the universal quest for meaning and inner reconciliation. The book is known for its candid and humorous approach, offering insights into the human condition and the transformative power of therapy.
This is a Fan Fav episode. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb just brought her absolutely game-changing wisdom to Women of Impact, and trust me, this is one you don’t want to miss. We dove deep into why you’re not as “stuck” as you think, how your old stories are shaping your current reality, and the really wild truth about what it actually takes to change (spoiler: it’s not “just knowing” better!). Lori gets radically honest about pain, envy, self-sabotage, and even how to love well. She shares her own breakthroughs as both therapist and client, and lays out tangible hacks to rewrite your life story—one real, imperfect step at a time.
Get cozy, get ready—and get real with yourself—as we unpack the tools for authentic transformation, genuine connection, and the habits that will finally help you step more fully into your power.
SHOWNOTES
Why you must give up the hope of having had a better childhood to move forward
Unreliable narrators: How your perspective can trap you in a limited life story
Feeling vs. knowing: Why insight alone won’t change your life
Idiot compassion vs. wise compassion: How to actually support yourself and others
The uncomfortable truth about change—and why losing the familiar is so hard
Pain vs. suffering: How we create unnecessary suffering and what to do instead
Why following your envy is the secret to unlocking your true desires
Breaking free from “comparison traps” and focusing on your own growth
One small step at a time: The real path to transformation and purpose
How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns and finally experience true connection
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