Unearthing The Mystery Of Knowing What You Really Want w/ Tracey Gee
Jan 20, 2025
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Tracey Gee, a leadership coach and author of "The Magic of Knowing What You Want," joins the conversation to explore the elusive nature of understanding personal desires. They discuss how many struggle to identify what they truly want, often overshadowed by societal expectations. Tracey shares insightful methodologies for self-discovery, emphasizing joy, curiosity, and embracing personal interests. The dialogue also reflects on the impact of upbringing on desires and underscores the importance of community in navigating one's true path.
The journey to truly knowing one’s desires is often elusive and requires continuous self-reflection and clarity over time.
Engaging in a daily practice of pursuing personal desires for 40 days can help individuals uncover what genuinely brings them joy.
Coping with unmet desires involves embracing disappointment as a learning opportunity, revealing deeper insights into one’s true wants and needs.
Deep dives
The Quest for Clarity
Truly knowing what one wants is often elusive and can be a lifelong journey. The speaker reflects on his motivation to write a book centered around the desire for his children to discover their own true wants. Acknowledging that he has experienced being driven but often lacking clarity, he emphasizes that achieving clarity on personal desires is a pivotal measure of success. This episode features Tracy G, a leadership coach and author, who has dedicated her career to helping individuals uncover their authentic desires.
The Practice of Wanting
Tracy G introduces the concept that knowing what you want requires diligent thought and practice. She discusses a meaningful exercise where individuals engage in doing one thing they desire each day for 40 days, encouraging exploration of simple yet personal activities. The idea is to break down internal barriers that prevent one from recognizing what genuinely brings joy. This practice is aimed at cultivating a habit of prioritizing personal desires in daily life.
Confronting Internal Barriers
The discussion highlights how internal barriers often prevent individuals from realizing their desires. Tracy shares that many, especially women, may find it easier to meet the needs of others rather than focusing on their own wants. This mindset can lead to a neglect of personal fulfillment, as the societal narrative often prioritizes altruism over self-interest. There's a recognition that just because pursuing one’s desires sounds simple, it does not always translate into easy execution.
The Importance of Play
The podcast underscores the cultural aversion to incorporating play and joy into adulthood. Through the conversation, the speaker reflects on societal norms that often force a serious approach to life without room for enjoyment. It invites listeners to consider when the transition occurs from childhood playfulness to adult responsibility and how that affects personal desires. The speakers challenge conventional wisdom by advocating for play as a vital aspect of a fulfilled life and personal discoveries.
Curiosity Over Competition
Tracy emphasizes the role of curiosity in the pursuit of desire, urging individuals to explore and experiment rather than limiting themselves. The connection between creativity and a curious mindset becomes a focal point, as it lays the groundwork for authentic self-discovery. The speakers also advocate for the practice of listing one hundred desires as a means to break free from conventional constrictions and encourage expansive thinking. This liberating exercise facilitates a genuine exploration of personal interests and aspirations.
Embracing Disappointment as Growth
The conversation touches upon how to cope with disappointment when pursuing desires that do not materialize as expected. The speaker shares insights on recognizing that failure and setbacks can lead to important lessons if approached from a reflective perspective. This stage encourages individuals to analyze experiences and extract valuable insights that contribute to overall growth. Ultimately, it promotes the view that disappointment may reveal deeper insights into personal wants and needs.
The catalyst for writing my book, What Drives You, was realizing what I most wanted for my children, was for them to know what they truly want, and wrap their lives around it. From this inspiration I realized that while I had always been driven, I had often been unclear what I wanted, and what I was driving toward. As time goes on, I continue to perceive that truly, clearly knowing what one wants is one of the most elusive things of life. And getting clarity on one wants, may just be the ultimate success. So in this show, I bring on another expert on discovering what you want. Tracey Gee has also devoted herself to this quest for helping people understand what they truly, authentically want. Tracey is a leadership coach and consultant who has done extensive research in workshops and personal coaching with individuals seeking to discover what they want. She has a new book that caught my attention, The Magic of Knowing What You Want: A Practical Guide to Unearthing the Wisdom of Your Desires. We sat down to discuss how unaware people are of what they really want, and then talked through methodologies Tracey uses to help people, that I am very intrigued by. You can find Tracey’s new book, The Magic of Knowing What You Want, at Amazon, and find her at traceygee.me.
