The Manipulation Expert: Most People Don't Realise They're Narcissists! You're Setting Your Child Up For Misery!

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Feb 27, 2025

Renowned author Robert Greene returns to share his insights on manipulation and human behavior. He discusses how many people unknowingly exhibit narcissistic tendencies and the hidden costs of pornography on motivation and relationships. Greene emphasizes the importance of developing emotional control and self-awareness as tools against manipulation. He also reflects on the struggles of young adults finding purpose in a distracting world, advocating for skill mastery and resilience over the pursuit of instant gratification.

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ADVICE

Finding Your Purpose

Reflect on your interests and passions, not social media trends.
Discover your life's task; it's the most important decision.

ADVICE

Strategies for Finding Purpose

Go inward and identify your interests, even those from childhood.
Embrace urgency, but make it a fun and adventurous exploration.

INSIGHT

Career Changes Later in Life

Changing careers later is harder due to established routines and regret.
Use your accumulated skills and experience to redirect yourself.

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