

Did You Pick the Right Partner?
May 10, 2021
Ty Tashiro, a professor of psychology and relationship expert, dives into the science behind choosing the right partner. He distinguishes between 'liking' and being 'in love,' revealing that emotional connection often outweighs looks and income. Tashiro outlines key personality traits essential for relationship happiness and stresses the need for external assessments of one’s partner. He also highlights the significance of childhood attachment styles and warns about red flags in relationships, offering a data-driven approach to selecting enduring love.
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Being in Love
- Romantic love involves both liking and lusting.
- Being "in love" is an either-or phenomenon, not a spectrum.
Components of Liking
- Liking someone involves fairness, kindness, and loyalty.
- These traits emerge and evolve from childhood to adulthood.
Long-Term Love Dynamics
- Liking remains constant long-term, while lust declines after a few years.
- Passionate love fades for physiological reasons, not relationship failure.