A Slight Change of Plans Why It's So Tough To Be Kind To Yourself
Nov 25, 2024
Kristin Neff, a pioneering psychologist and author of "Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself," shares her insights on self-compassion as a motivational tool. She dispels myths surrounding self-kindness being selfish and introduces practical exercises to cultivate self-care in daily life. Through engaging discussions, Kristin highlights how self-compassion can enhance emotional resilience and strengthen relationships. Listeners learn the importance of mindfulness and recognizing shared human experiences to combat feelings of isolation.
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Why Self-Compassion Is Hard
- It is more natural for us to be self-critical due to cultural and evolutionary factors than to be self-compassionate.
- Our threat defense system triggers self-criticism, while our care system is more easily activated for others.
Self-Compassion Enhances Accountability
- Self-compassion allows us to accept ourselves as flawed but still take accountability for harmful behaviors.
- It reduces shame and increases motivation to repair mistakes, unlike harsh self-criticism which leads to avoidance and blame.
Self-Compassion Motivates Better
- Motivation from self-criticism is driven by fear and anxiety, which can undermine performance and learning.
- Self-compassion fosters a learning goal orientation, helping us improve without equating failure with personal worth.
