Why You’re Stuck (And the Science to Move Forward)

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Jan 6, 2026

Dr. Shadé Zahrai, a behavioral strategist and leadership expert, delves into the psychology that holds us back. She identifies three traps: Failure to Launch, Treading Water, and Destination Obsession, revealing how they obstruct success. Shadé emphasizes that self-doubt can be a clue, not a flaw, and outlines practical strategies to build self-trust. With insights on overcoming people-pleasing and harnessing the power of hobbies for self-acceptance, this conversation inspires action and growth without waiting to feel ready.

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INSIGHT

Self-Doubt, Not Skill, Blocks Success

Self-doubt blocks progress more than lack of skill because it prevents action and risk-taking.
Use psychological frameworks to bridge the gap between desire and meaningful action.

INSIGHT

Three Mind Traps That Sabotage Progress

People fall into three recurring mental traps that sabotage progress: Failure to Launch, Treading Water, and Destination Obsession.
Identifying which pattern you’re in reveals targeted strategies to move forward.

ADVICE

Launch Before You Feel Ready

Stop waiting to 'feel ready' and avoid perfectionism as a form of procrastination.
Launch with imperfect skill and iterate instead of endlessly learning as a delay tactic.

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What if your self-doubt wasn’t a flaw—but a clue?

In this powerful episode, behavioral strategist and award-winning leadership expert Shadé Zahrai shares the 3 psychological traps that sabotage success—and how to break free.

This conversation blends research, real talk, and practical tools to help you stop overthinking and start moving forward—confidently.

Click >>PLAY<< to hear all of this and:

[00:02] Shade shares how success, fulfillment, and growth are often blocked not by skill—but by psychology.

[03:45] Discover the three common patterns that hold high performers back: Failure to Launch, Treading Water, and Destination Obsession.

[07:10] Unpacking the cycle of achievement addiction—why reaching goals doesn't always bring satisfaction, and what to do instead.

[10:30] Learn the transformative habit that helps reclaim presence, celebrate progress, and stop chasing the next goal without rest.

[18:45] Why waiting to "feel ready" is a trap—and how to take meaningful action even when self-doubt is loud.

[24:20] Shade explains how to stop tying self-worth to productivity or accolades—and how that shift unlocks long-term success.

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