In this lively discussion, Irish comedian Des Bishop, known for his stand-up special "Of All People," shares hilarious insights on male sexuality, including straight guys' surprising interests in butt play. He joins Dan Savage to explore the dynamics of relationships, from a woman's shocking discovery about her boyfriend's hidden family to a married woman's journey into burlesque and exploring her bisexuality. The pair also tackle the sensitive issue of a partner's declining hygiene, offering hilarious yet honest advice on maintaining intimacy.
Navigating relationships can become complex when cultural expectations lead to hidden commitments, as seen in the woman's situation with her married partner.
Exploring one's sexuality can challenge existing relationship dynamics, exemplified by the woman's journey in the burlesque community and her desire for open communication.
The dangerous intersection of political beliefs and dating illustrates a generational divide, particularly around controversial figures like Trump affecting relationship potential.
Deep dives
Inappropriate Teacher-Student Relationships
Engaging in sexual relationships with students is illegal and unethical, as illustrated by the case of Haley Clifton Carmack, who was a math teacher caught having sexual relations with a 16-year-old student in Missouri. Despite marking the student with deep scratches during these encounters and utilizing other students as lookouts, she received only a three-month prison sentence. This reflects a troubling inconsistency in how such cases are handled, particularly concerning gender biases in legal repercussions. In Missouri, even consensual relationships between teachers and students, regardless of age, are deemed illegal, emphasizing the need for clearer and stricter enforcement of these laws.
Controversial Opera Production
The new production of 'Sancta' at the Stuttgart State Opera House has sparked outrage and health concerns due to its extreme on-stage content, including unsimulated sexual acts and graphic depictions of blood. During its initial performances, numerous audience members required medical attention after fainting or experiencing severe nausea. Directed by Florentina Holtzinger, the production seeks to explore themes of joy and pain, and challenges societal norms regarding sexuality and faith. While some praise its artistic audacity, the production also raises questions about boundaries in performing arts and its impact on viewers' well-being.
Misguided Dating Advice from Stephen Miller
Stephen Miller, known for his controversial role as a political advisor, offers misguided dating advice to young men, suggesting that displaying overt support for Trump will enhance their appeal to women. However, surveys reveal that a significant majority of women are unlikely to date someone who supports Trump, with nearly half preferring to avoid such individuals entirely. This disconnect underscores a growing generational gap in political and social values, particularly among prospective partners. The suggestion highlights the dangers of conflating political identity with personal worth, ultimately leading to isolation in dating prospects for those who follow such advice.
Navigating Changes in Relationship Dynamics
A woman reflects on her journey of self-discovery and changes in her relationship after engaging with the burlesque community, revealing her bisexuality to her husband. As she contemplates attending a sex club, she faces challenges in discussing her desires with her husband, who expresses discomfort with the idea. This situation highlights the complexities of maintaining open communication about exploring sexuality in relationships, particularly in the context of parenthood. Experts advise patience and consideration of the high-stakes nature of their current parenting situation while navigating these intimate discussions.
The Challenges of Cultural Expectations in Relationships
A woman feels unsettled after discovering that the man she has been dating is married with a child back in Ghana, prompting a reassessment of their relationship. Despite cultural pressures that led the man to marry out of obligation while living apart, the woman grapples with feelings of betrayal and uncertainty about her future with him. This scenario highlights the importance of clear communication and mutual agreement on relationship expectations, especially when cultural traditions complicate modern dating dynamics. Navigating such a relationship often requires establishing boundaries to protect personal desires for commitment and emotional well-being.
A woman has been dating a man from Ghana for 4 months. She just learned that he has a wife and kid back home, that he married out of familial/cultural obligation. Should the caller hold out to see if he chooses her over his overseas family?
A married woman has a one year-old kid. She and her husband are monogamous, but she's getting into performing burlesque at local bars and it's making her want to try...other things. How far will she go? How much will her husband allow?
Our guest is Irish comedian Des Bishop. He and Dan get into some straight guy topics: like straight guys into butt sex, straight guys into dicks, and how to surprise your straight guy with an awesome sex move. The (very gay) Dan Savage and the (very straight) Des Bishop got along like a house on fire. Some of this conversation is on the Micro, and all of it is on the Magnum.
And, we can't phrase this delicately: She smells. A woman's girlfriend is so very beloved to her. But lately, she's been letting her hygiene slip and it's getting dire. How can the caller tell her sweetheart that she kind of stinks?
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Des Bishop's special Of All People, is out now, here.
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