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Perfectionism as Protection
- Perfectionism in relationships is often a protective strategy rooted in fear, shame, and vulnerability aversion.
- It hides our authentic selves to avoid being rejected or hurting emotionally.
Anxious Attachment and Perfectionism
- Anxiously attached people use perfectionism to appear flawless to keep love and avoid rejection.
- This leads to extreme people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and controlling others’ perceptions.
Avoidant Attachment’s Criticism Strategy
- Avoidantly attached people impose perfectionistic standards on partners to create distance.
- Criticism protects them from intimacy and vulnerability by focusing on the other's flaws.