Sex Therapy 101 with Cami Hurst Cami Hurst and Natasha Helfer: The Cost of Duty Sex: Consenting to Unwanted Sex
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Apr 12, 2023 Cami Hurst, a newly certified sex therapist with a focus on clinical sexology, joins Natasha Helfer to explore the complexities of women's consent to unwanted sex in relationships. They dive into the emotional toll of 'duty sex,' examining how guilt and shame can impact intimacy. The discussion reveals the nuances of desire versus consent, emphasizing the psychological repercussions of coercive situations. Cultural influences and the importance of open communication are also highlighted as crucial elements in fostering healthier sexual connections.
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Consent Can Still Be Harmful
- Consenting to unwanted sex (CUS) can be clearly consensual yet internally unwanted and non-criminal.
- Cami Hurst separated criminal sexual violence from consensual but harmful sexual experiences to study unique outcomes.
Emotional Toll Is Widespread
- A majority of women in the sample reported negative emotional outcomes around consenting to unwanted sex.
- Emotions included upset, guilt, shame, high alert, and hostility before, during, and after sex.
Real Quotes: 'Pouty And Mad'
- Participants reported emotional coping reasons like consenting to avoid partner upset or gain brief peace.
- Examples included consenting because a partner got 'pouty' or to avoid dealing with his emotions.
