177. Joseph Goldstein (Buddhist teacher) – Lighten Up: mindfulness, enlightenment, and everyday life
Jan 12, 2019
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Joseph Goldstein, influential Buddhist teacher, discusses impermanent happiness and the potential for freedom from suffering. Topics include translating desires, genuine love vs attachment, approaching boundaries with discernment, infusing mindfulness into organizations, personal experiences with meditation, valuing investigation, and pursuing passions and finding success with insights from actor Nick Offerman.
Happiness in this world is impermanent and unreliable, but acknowledging its transient nature offers a message of hope.
Understanding the distinction between genuine love and attachment allows us to approach relationships with compassion and generosity.
The path to progress and realization in Buddhism is unique for each individual and should not be measured by speed, but by clear direction and commitment.
Deep dives
The Illusion of Permanent Bliss
Happiness in this world is impermanent and unreliable. We often believe that we are just one career move or purchase away from permanent bliss. However, the first noble truth of Buddhism teaches us that everything in life is unreliable and unsatisfactory. This may not sound hopeful, but it actually offers a message of hope by acknowledging the transient nature of happiness. The Buddha's teachings provide a system of training the mind to free it from suffering caused by clinging to impermanent things.
Love and Attachment
Many people struggle to understand how it is possible to love someone without becoming attached to them. Attachment is often seen as an inherent part of love. However, it is important to recognize the distinction between genuine love and attachment. Genuine love is a giving, generous energy that does not seek to possess or cling. It is a feeling of well-wishing and delight in seeing others happy. On the other hand, attachment is characterized by grasping, fear, possessiveness, and conditions. By cultivating an understanding and experience of unattached love, we can see the difference and choose to approach our relationships with compassion and generosity rather than clinging.
Different Paths to Progress
The path to progress and realization varies for each individual. Some may progress slowly with difficulty, while others progress more quickly with deep insights. It depends on various factors, including past conditioning and karma. Buddhism acknowledges that everyone's journey is unique, and the speed and ease of progress should not be a measure of success. What matters is having a clear sense of direction and aspiration, and cultivating the right intentions and actions to diminish greed, hatred, and delusion in the mind. The journey may involve pain or challenges, but staying committed and dedicated to the path leads to transformation and growth.
Developing Concentration and Finding the Right Technique
One key point discussed in the podcast is the importance of developing concentration in meditation practice. The speaker shares their personal experience of struggling with meditation until they found a technique that helped them concentrate and experience the benefits of meditation. They emphasize that developing concentration does not require achieving extraordinary states of mind and can be done in various ways, such as focusing on the breath or practicing loving-kindness. The speaker also suggests that it is important to explore different techniques and find the one that works best for each individual.
The Connection Between Generosity and Happiness
Another main idea discussed in the podcast is the practice of generosity and its connection to happiness. The speaker shares their personal experience of practicing generosity, where they made a conscious effort to act on thoughts of giving without second guessing themselves. They emphasize that generosity can be practiced daily with acts of giving money, time, or attention. The speaker highlights that this practice has brought them great happiness and encourages listeners to engage in the practice of generosity, as it opens up the heart and eases the mind. They also discuss the connection between generosity, love, and friendly feelings.
Love, money, health, great sex, peace of mind—however you define it, happiness in this world is impermanent and unreliable. But we’re all invested in the illusion that we’re just one career move or one Amazon purchase away from permanent bliss.
To quote Darth Vader: Search your feelings—you know it to be true. Life is sometimes exhilarating and sometimes devastating, but it’s always, always in flux.
This is the first noble truth of Buddhism. That everything in this life is unreliable and unsatisfactory. Maybe it doesn’t sound to you like the beginning of a message of hope, but that’s exactly what it is. A couple millennia ago the Indian prince Siddhartha Gautama, better known as Buddha, offered anyone who would listen a system of training the mind to free it from the suffering that comes from clinging to impermanent things, like how many followers you have on Instagram.
My guest today is Joseph Goldstein. He’s one of the most influential Buddhist teachers and writers of the past half-century. In 1975, Along with Sharon Salzberg and Jack Kornfield, he co-founded the Insight Meditation Society in Barre Massachusetts. Since then, he has done immeasurable good worldwide with his books, dharma talks, and meditation retreats. Four decades ago he started a journey he’s still on today, helping westerners—very much including myself—benefit from the Buddha’s ancient insights and techniques.