Women & ADHD María-Victoria Albina: People pleasing, codependency & emotional outsourcing
Grad School ADHD Diagnosis Story
- María-Victoria was diagnosed with ADHD in grad school after struggling to focus on uninteresting subjects.
- Testing revealed her hyperfocus strengths and challenges with sitting still.
Emotional Outsourcing Explored
- Emotional outsourcing is seeking worth and validation externally instead of internally.
- This leads to people pleasing and people proving behaviors from deep core wounds.
Control and Outsourcing Intuition
- The desire to control how others perceive us is a trauma response.
- Outsourcing our intuition causes physical illness and burnout in neurodivergent brains.
Episode 139 with María-Victoria Albina.
“I'm a ‘get it done now or put it in a doom box and forget about it forever’ kind of gal.”
María-Victoria is a Functional Medicine Nurse Practitioner, a Somatic Master Life Coach, and the host of the popular Feminist Wellness podcast.
She describes her narrative as the typical “kid with ADHD” story. As a child, she was in the gifted & talented program but always getting in trouble because of “behavioral issues.” It wasn’t until she was falling behind in grad school that she was diagnosed, and like so many others say, she finally understood her non-linear thinking habits.
We talk about her winding career path from midwife to herbalist to nurse practitioner to somatic life coach & meditation guide. We also discuss somatic practices and how they can support ADHD adults when it comes to regulating our nervous systems and reconnecting with our intuition.
Website: victoriaalbina.com
Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness
Additional Links:
Free meditations:
https://victoriaalbina.com/free-meditations/
Workshop: Polyvagal 101 & Nervous System Mapping
https://victoriaalbina.com/polyvagalworkshop/
Books & Articles mentioned:
Washington Post Opinion piece: “ADHD is an illness, not a lifestyle. Don’t punish people for it.”
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