Jonathan Van Ness, star of Netflix hit Queer Eye and web series Gay Of Thrones, talks about his journey with HIV, therapy for addiction, and his dream of creating a cat hotel. The podcast also highlights the impact of Queer Eye, the power of cleanliness, the importance of self-talk and self-love, and methods for stress management and alleviating shame.
Self-love and self-acceptance are crucial for finding happiness and healing.
Embrace new paths and opportunities to find purpose and fulfillment.
Therapy, self-care, and self-reflection are essential for breaking free from destructive patterns and promoting mental well-being.
Deep dives
Jonathan Van Ness's journey of finding purpose and contentment
Jonathan Van Ness, known for his role in Queer Eye, shares his personal journey of finding contentment regardless of the challenges he has faced. He discusses his battles with drugs, his experience as an HIV positive individual, and his campaign to destigmatize HIV. Van Ness expresses his passion for cats and his desire to create a community around cat-related activities. He also emphasizes the importance of self-love and having a sense of purpose, highlighting the value of therapy in his own healing process.
The power of self-love and self-acceptance
Van Ness emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-acceptance in finding happiness. He explains that our brains respond to our own self-perception, and when we practice self-love, our brain produces healing and restorative chemicals. He shares his own struggles with self-blame and shame, recognizing that compassion is key in overcoming these feelings. Van Ness encourages individuals to be kind to themselves and to prioritize self-care as a means of cultivating compassion and self-acceptance.
Embracing change and finding purpose
Van Ness reflects on the shifts and changes in his own life, highlighting the power of embracing new paths and opportunities. He discusses his initial aspirations of opening a yoga studio or salon and how life took him in unexpected directions, including his involvement in Queer Eye. He acknowledges the importance of being open to new experiences and finding purpose in unexpected places. Van Ness encourages individuals to focus on doing what they are passionate about and to remain open to new possibilities.
Coping with trauma and seeking healing
Van Ness shares his experience of coping with past trauma and the role therapy has played in his healing journey. He emphasizes the significance of finding a compatible therapist who creates a safe and non-judgmental space. He also acknowledges the challenges of self-care and maintaining mental well-being, urging individuals to prioritize their therapy and other self-care practices to promote healing.
Moving beyond self-destructive patterns
Van Ness discusses his struggles with self-destructive patterns, such as compulsive behavior and addiction, and the importance of understanding the underlying emotional reasons behind these patterns. He acknowledges the need for self-compassion and the recognition that healing is a process, not a one-time fix. Van Ness highlights the value of self-reflection, therapy, and self-care in breaking free from destructive patterns and moving towards a healthier and happier life.
There is still plenty of unecessary stigma and shame still in the world - but what can we do about it? The star of Netflix hit Queer Eye and web series Gay Of Thrones talks with Fearne about coming to terms with his HIV status, how therapy has tamed his addictions... and his ambitions for a cat hotel.