In a lively discussion, social scientist Ty Tashiro examines the perks of being socially awkward, while cartoonist Liana Finck illustrates the beauty in uncomfortable moments through her art. Journalist Melissa Dahl dives into feelings of shame and cringeworthy experiences, advocating for authenticity. Sex and relationship counselor Erin Chen shares insights on the importance of open conversations around sex and consent. Together, they encourage embracing awkwardness as a pathway to personal growth and deeper connections.
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question_answer ANECDOTE
Awkward Wrestling Anecdote
Tai Tashiro and friends recreated wrestling matches at school to bring back play but were seen as socially awkward outsiders.
During a match, Tashiro was accidentally knocked unconscious, highlighting his social struggles dramatically.
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Understanding Awkwardness Traits
Awkward people have social skill deficits, communication challenges, and obsessive interests.
Awkwardness lies on a continuum with autism, indicating mild autistic traits in many awkward individuals.
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Spotlight View on Social World
Awkward people see social interactions as a spotlight focused on unusual parts, missing broader context.
This unique perspective gives them unusual insights but complicates social navigation.
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The Science of Why We're Socially Awkward and Why That's Awesome
Ty Tashiro
In 'Awkward,' Ty Tashiro delves into the nature of social awkwardness, drawing from decades of research in psychology, neuroscience, personality, and sociology. He explains how awkward individuals view the world differently and how their unique characteristics can be harnessed for success. The book interweaves personal anecdotes, real-world examples, and scientific studies to provide reassurance and valuable insights into embracing personal quirks and talents to navigate the complex social world more comfortably.
How to Baby
A No-Advice-Given Guide to Motherhood, with Drawings
Liana Finck
In 'How to Baby: A No-Advice-Given Guide to Motherhood, with Drawings', Liana Finck offers a tongue-in-cheek overview of the journey through motherhood. The book is illustrated and written in a humorous tone, addressing topics such as conception, pregnancy, childbirth, and infancy. It is a unique and entertaining take on the experiences of motherhood.
Cringeworthy
A Theory of Awkwardness
Melissa Dahl
In 'Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness', Melissa Dahl delves into the complexities of awkwardness with bravery and humor. She engages in various embarrassing activities such as taking improv classes, using a 'Tinder-for-friendship' app, and reading her teenage diary aloud to a public audience. The book is deeply researched and filled with anecdotes, aiming to show that awkward moments are not just embarrassing but also opportunities for growth and connection. Dahl argues that understanding awkwardness can help us find more joy in the absurdity of being human and that these moments unite us in our shared human experiences[1][2][4].
Forgetting a name, a poorly executed hug, the 7th grade — awkwardness is part of our lives whether we like it or not. But what if we put the embarrassment aside and embraced our awkward selves? Guests include social scientist Ty Tashiro, cartoonist Liana Finck, journalist Melissa Dahl and sex and relationship counselor Erin Chen.
Original broadcast date: April 19, 2024.
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