Psychology researcher Michael Slepian explores the impact of secrets on mental well-being. The podcast delves into different types of secrets and motivations behind them. It discusses the consequences of keeping secrets, the benefits of confessing, and artistic projects centered around anonymous secrets.
Secret-keeping can have a more significant impact on individuals and families than the content of the secret itself.
Sharing secrets with a trusted third party can provide emotional support and deepen relationships through anonymous expression and connection.
Deep dives
The Power and Impact of Family Secrets
Michael Sleppian, a psychologist researching the psychology of secrets, unexpectedly discovers that his own family had a major secret about his paternity. The revelation raises questions about why the secret was kept, who else knew, and the impact of the secret on his family. Sleppian's experience highlights the significance of secret-keeping as more troubling and surprising than the actual content of the secret itself.
The Three Dimensions of Secrets
According to professor Michael Sleppian's research, secrets can be categorized into three dimensions: moral secrets that lead to shame, secrets that involve feelings of isolation, and secretive goals or ambitions that generate uncertainty. The harmful impact of secrets is felt when individuals exhibit shame, isolation, or uncertainty. However, Sleppian notes that once individuals recognize alternative perspectives where a secret does not cause harm, they can develop healthier coping mechanisms.
The Power of Revealing Secrets
Professor Sleppian's research suggests that sharing secrets with a trusted third party can be beneficial, providing emotional support and guidance. Anonymity and the opportunity to confide in someone else without negative consequences encourage individuals to share their secrets. Additionally, discussing secrets through art projects, like the Secret Telephone, offers a space for people to anonymously express themselves and form intimate connections by deepening relationships.